So long folks

oh man, the jazz guitar forum is ruthless....

any snarking here is fun compared to that one

quietmorning wrote:

jnk wrote:I'm jealous of the OP; I've tried to leave here several times, and can't.

Maybe it would help if people around here were a little less friendly?

not on your life.

Jeff, You tried that and it didn't work so don't even think of it!! I couldn't go through the trauma again

Thanks, Dori. But I just started my own forum called artistmonkknitters.com.

artistmonkkniters.com

when not kntting, they are meditating about knitting

no talking allowed...

I guess I'm back; the forum I started less than an hour ago, artistmonkknitters.com, is now defunkkt. A big fight broke out and everybody left when a link to a sacrilegious, but arguably artistic, photo was posted and the moderators refused to remove it.





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I'd question whether the 2x4 approach works in the absence of any prior relationship with the person and in the absence of any validation/empathy. I can see how once you have a relationship with someone, or once you've listened and conveyed that you understand what they are going through, problem solving and possibly (more remote possibility) a kick in the pants might be accepted. I think what happens here is that some of the members chime in with empathy, some with problem solving, and some with a kick in the pants, and depending on a variety of factors (the OP's state, personality, the order in which they receive this, etc.), it either is taken in stride or not.

When I first came here, I was alarmed by some treatment of newbies. I've now come to identify the response more with the responder. Some members always deliver the 2x4, some can always be counted to be empathic (and some of us are a loose canon and you don't know what you're going to get... ). It's a chaotic mess... Just like a real family.

SleepingUgly wrote: Some members always deliver the 2x4, some can always be counted to be empathic (and some of us are a loose canon and you don't know what you're going to get... ).

Inquiring minds always want to know.....

viewtopic.php?f=1&t=35791&st=0&sk=t&sd=a&hilit=2X4

carbonman wrote:

SleepingUgly wrote: Some members always deliver the 2x4, some can always be counted to be empathic (and some of us are a loose canon and you don't know what you're going to get... ).

Inquiring minds always want to know.....

viewtopic.php?f=1&t=35791&st=0&sk=t&sd=a&hilit=2X4

Why isn't your motivational poetry one of the options on that poll, Carbonman?

fredr500 wrote:

jerryez wrote:Four pages of responses and not one from the OP....

He said goodbye. Why would anyone expect him to reply?

Over the years, I have been on a variety of forums and email mailing lists. In most cases of posted goodbyes with a statement of being mistreated (or similar), then the person does stay around, respond to that topic, and continue to argue about why they are unhappy there.

Typically, the only people who announce a goodbye and actually leave are leaving due to time issues, other things going on, etc.

In the few cases where I left a group, permanently, or for awhile due to needing a break, I just quit posting. No announcement. Those goodbye posts are usually just for attention, and not really a true goodbye, so I decided I would not do those.

I am surprised that this OP has not replied as it did seem like an attention wanting goodbye, but maybe it was a real one.

SleepingUgly wrote:I'd question whether the 2x4 approach works in the absence of any prior relationship with the person and in the absence of any validation/empathy. I can see how once you have a relationship with someone, or once you've listened and conveyed that you understand what they are going through, problem solving and possibly (more remote possibility) a kick in the pants might be accepted. I think what happens here is that some of the members chime in with empathy, some with problem solving, and some with a kick in the pants, and depending on a variety of factors (the OP's state, personality, the order in which they receive this, etc.), it either is taken in stride or not.

When I first came here, I was alarmed by some treatment of newbies. I've now come to identify the response more with the responder. Some members always deliver the 2x4, some can always be counted to be empathic (and some of us are a loose canon and you don't know what you're going to get... ). It's a chaotic mess... Just like a real family.

Personally I don't believe a 2x4 approach is appropriate since we would rarely know the full story behind a new posters frustrations. I can say that I find this forum invaluable and thatwhen I have a specific question, I prefer to PM key posters that I view to be good helpful souls... To those, a big hat tip for being an asset to the forum and most helpful to someone in need. True gems!

Denial Dave wrote:artistmonkkniters.com

when not kntting, they are meditating about knitting

no talking allowed...

Actually..... The Shambala centre and temple in Halifax NS did have a handwork meditation session where people did knitting,crocheting or needle work as a "moving meditation" practice.

However always remember that knitters have two or more long pointy sticks OR what my father calls a garrote (circular needle)

MyIdaho wrote:

SleepingUgly wrote:I'd question whether the 2x4 approach works in the absence of any prior relationship with the person and in the absence of any validation/empathy. I can see how once you have a relationship with someone, or once you've listened and conveyed that you understand what they are going through, problem solving and possibly (more remote possibility) a kick in the pants might be accepted. I think what happens here is that some of the members chime in with empathy, some with problem solving, and some with a kick in the pants, and depending on a variety of factors (the OP's state, personality, the order in which they receive this, etc.), it either is taken in stride or not.

When I first came here, I was alarmed by some treatment of newbies. I've now come to identify the response more with the responder. Some members always deliver the 2x4, some can always be counted to be empathic (and some of us are a loose canon and you don't know what you're going to get... ). It's a chaotic mess... Just like a real family.

Personally I don't believe a 2x4 approach is appropriate since we would rarely know the full story behind a new posters frustrations. I can say that I find this forum invaluable and thatwhen I have a specific question, I prefer to PM key posters that I view to be good helpful souls... To those, a big hat tip for being an asset to the forum and most helpful to someone in need. True gems!

i have to agree. I don't post very often anymore because I am too sensitive but I still enjoy the forum. If you don't post your feeling won't get hurt. The forum is still the best place to learn about cpap therapy.

MyIdaho wrote: I can say that I find this forum invaluable and thatwhen I have a specific question, I prefer to PM key posters that I view to be good helpful souls...

I'll try not to take it personally that you've never PMed me.

Hivoltfl wrote: So long folks

<sniff, sniff>

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtoCw2iOTSc

SleepingUgly wrote:

MyIdaho wrote: I can say that I find this forum invaluable and thatwhen I have a specific question, I prefer to PM key posters that I view to be good helpful souls...

I'll try not to take it personally that you've never PMed me.

You're quick on your feet there Sleepingugly!