ckeith wrote:
The anger no doubt comes from LACK of SLEEP - I get no more than 2hrs at a stretch - Many nights
that's ALL I get - Try that for a month or two and see what that does for your disposition.
Actually I did it for years and years. It sucks. The problem with getting mad is that it doesn't change anything. I know what it's like to be angry at my own mind and trying to understand why my mind was sabotaging my body and health by not sleeping. No matter how angry I got I never got an answer. That was many years ago and I finally gave up on the anger.
I was diagnosed with apnea three months ago while in for a sleep study on periodic limb movement. I hadn't even considered apnea, as with a lot of the public I thought it meant that I had to be overweight and had to completely stop breathing at times. Turns out weight didn't matter for me and I have more hypopneas than anything else. My O2 dropped to 80% during the study and when I tested it out a little while back without the mask it dropped in the 70s several times during the night.
What I'm getting at is that I eventually found out that the anger and rage were a choice that I could consciously control. I could choose to be angry or I could learn to choose not to. You're in the same boat as me in that with O2 levels that low regularly I wasn't going to live to ripe old age with my wife beside me. I was lucky in that the mask didn't bother me, I used to scuba dive so it seemed familiar. I was irritated that I would have to use this for the rest of my life, hopefully 30-35 years if things go ok. But through long experience I chose not get angry because of the simple fact that it wouldn't change anything except make me more unhappy and make my wife unhappy. In the last three months I haven't been able to get consistent results. I've had three or four good nights during that time. I'll most likely be screwing around with this for several months more. There are too many factors that enter into it outside of just the CPAP machine, the chronic insomnia for one. But how I felt waking up from those good nights makes me want to keep trying.
Depending on the medications you take I would ask your doctor about Ambien or Lunesta. I've found that Lunesta helps me stay asleep longer and when I do wake up it's easier to get back to sleep. I take Ambien, Lunesta and Ativan every night and have for at least 10 years. I'm not suggesting that, I'm an oddity and my psychiatrists have to keep doing written explanations to their boards when they give me my prescriptions.
Nothing anyone says is going to make this suddenly better or make it all ok. However at some point you're going to have to make a decision, do you continue to rage ineffectually about something you have no control over or do you move on. It's a slog, it's never going to be the same as before and it's never going to be as good as not needing CPAP but reality is what it is.
Other people will be able to give you better practical advice on the treatment, especially Pugsy. You absolutely have to start reading your data and work on your settings. The ones that my doctor tried actually had the worst results and it improved after I changed them back.
This is rambling more than a little but I do wish someone had tried to tell me this 25 years ago when my insomnia really got bad. The anger and sense of unfairness lasted a lot longer than it should have and took energy I couldn't afford to spare.
Work on the acceptance, it makes it a lot easier to find a solution or at least a way to live with it.
I wish you well and I hope tonight is better than last night.