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TBguy4

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Post by TBguy4 » Wed Aug 25, 2004 1:27 pm

I know this is sensitive, but once I get used to my machine, and I am less tired, with things improve between me and my wife, you know, in the bedroom? She can use the "I have a headache" excuse, but my falling asleep too soon is no longer a good "excuse". Any opinions out there? Its a bummer to wear the mask, and look like I'm from outer space, but I think it will be worth it. Need some moral support from you cpap users.

Thanks a million,
TB

bill2

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Post by bill2 » Wed Aug 25, 2004 8:51 pm

Speaking from experience, all I can say is, keep it up - the CPAP use, that is!

Jenny

Post by Jenny » Wed Aug 25, 2004 9:26 pm

If you want to make nice with your wife, take her out to a nice romantic dinner and buy her something special. Now that you are feeling more rested, you can rekindle the spark with good ole fashion romance. That will get you everywhere.

BOBBY

Post by BOBBY » Mon Sep 20, 2004 12:09 pm

hi i have the same problem,but today i have received my own mask,so i hope that my problem goes away ,and me and my wife will be active again (you know what i mean) because i feel very bad about the situation,i even contemplate suicide

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Post by kurtchan » Mon Aug 28, 2006 6:53 am

TBGuy,

Along with a host of other ailments, aches and pains that you wouldn't necessarily attribute to sleep deprivation, things in the bedroom should definitely improve after using CPAP. You should see a marked increase in libido and improvement in sexual performance.

You may not see an immediate change, rather a more gradual one, but things will improve.

Best of luck,

Kurtchan

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Post by mikemoran » Mon Aug 28, 2006 7:26 am

I likr to think of it as Air Viagra

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Air Viagra

Post by GoofyUT » Mon Aug 28, 2006 7:33 am

I thought that Air Viagra was one of those new, low-cost regional carriers in upstate New York!
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Post by wahooker » Mon Aug 28, 2006 8:39 am

Is that anything like Air Guitar? Cause if so, that's not going to impress the wife very much.

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Post by Snoozin' Bluezzz » Mon Aug 28, 2006 9:27 am

wahooker wrote:Is that anything like Air Guitar? Cause if so, that's not going to impress the wife very much.



ROTFLMAO!

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Post by MandoJohnny » Mon Aug 28, 2006 10:50 am

take her out to a nice romantic dinner and buy her something special
Why is it that the female view of romance is almost always associated with financial expenditures? And gals accuse guys of being shallow! Another example: You know how much a wedding can cost nowadays? Do you know how little it would cost if guys planned them?

In case anyone is wondering, I have been happily married for 28 years and my wife agrees with my position on this and would definitely tell me in no uncertain terms if she wasn't. If I want to have sex, I just ask at an opportune moment. Most often the answer is "yes." The worst answer I get is "How about later?" and later usually means sometime the same day or evening and I am always OK with that. It is all about trust and communications, not financial expenditures. Nothing has changed with CPAP.


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Post by NHBear » Mon Aug 28, 2006 11:58 am

I also was concerned about this, but that is one reason I sought treatment again (diagnosed 6 years ago, but unable to tolerate CPAP then). I have been on CPAP again for 2 weeks and feeling a bit better. I know the energy level will increase. One HUGE factor in my opinion is the mental state / depression that accompanies years of sleep deprivation. This, in and of itself, even though derived from apnea, has a huge impact on your relationships in one way or another.

The addition of CPAP in our lives often comes with a whole series of NEW night time routines. After doing all of the 'stuff' and gearing up, it certainly makes spontaneity in the night time a little less feasible and fun. I agree with he concept of communicating. We, as guys, generally are less likely to talk about this, but it is worth it. It just entails a little more planning, not unlike the use of some ED meds.

If your bed partner hasn't been scared off by the mask, you are on the right track.....


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Post by hornplayer » Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:44 pm

I was almost a "closet CPAP User" for the first 18months. I had a real macho problem with having to use this thing in front of my wife. I tried my best to not let her see me all hooked up with the lights on. Now I finally realize that she doesn't give it much thought. Now I have to be careful not to talk about CPAP too much - like how I used to feel dead all the time and now I feel so good. Only OSA folks like us know what a dramatic difference it is. So - if I ignore it, she ignores it. Everything else takes care of itself.


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Re: Air Viagra

Post by Goofproof » Mon Aug 28, 2006 1:54 pm

GoofyUT wrote:I thought that Air Viagra was one of those new, low-cost regional carriers in upstate New York!
Is that one of those carriers that make short trips, or are they in it for the long haul? Jim
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Post by Guest » Mon Aug 28, 2006 2:13 pm

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Re: Air Viagra

Post by mikemoran » Mon Aug 28, 2006 3:11 pm

Goofproof wrote:
GoofyUT wrote:I thought that Air Viagra was one of those new, low-cost regional carriers in upstate New York!
Is that one of those carriers that make short trips, or are they in it for the long haul? Jim
I think they were known for getting their planes up, but had difficulty in getting them to come down.