apnea - just diagnosed - effect on marriage

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Re: apnea - just diagnosed - effect on marriage

Post by chunkyfrog » Tue Aug 06, 2013 12:21 pm

Just a gentle reminder: one of the effects of untreated apnea is EDS.
Now that is just not a good thing at all--
(a hard thing nowadays is good to find)

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Re: apnea - just diagnosed - effect on marriage

Post by Sir NoddinOff » Tue Aug 06, 2013 12:53 pm

Just a shout-out for my wife, who has been unselfishly on board with all my trials and tribulations over the last few years. She's a keeper.

Unfortunately she's now having sleep problems of her own but doesn't snore at all. I suppose it's just garden variety insomnia however I'm trying to get her to see a doctor. Time will tell.

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Re: apnea - just diagnosed - effect on marriage

Post by jazzer4 » Tue Aug 06, 2013 1:45 pm

Sir NoddinOff wrote:
Unfortunately she's now having sleep problems of her own but doesn't snore at all. I suppose it's just garden variety insomnia however I'm trying to get her to see a doctor. Time will tell.
I never snored and I weighed 120 lbs.
For survival my brain just didn't want me to go to sleep.

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Re: apnea - just diagnosed - effect on marriage

Post by Sir NoddinOff » Tue Aug 06, 2013 5:10 pm

jazzer4 wrote:
Sir NoddinOff wrote:
Unfortunately she's now having sleep problems of her own but doesn't snore at all. I suppose it's just garden variety insomnia however I'm trying to get her to see a doctor. Time will tell.

I never snored and I weighed 120 lbs.
For survival my brain just didn't want me to go to sleep.
Jazzer4, Thanks for the reply. Being a woman, and an attractive one at that, have you got any suggestions on how to swing her around to considering a sleep test? I think she's a little worried about the mask and all the cumbersome gear affecting her nocturnal physical appeal, (it's all right for me to be a PAP'r, but she seems to be unwilling to go down that road, at least this early in the game.)

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Re: apnea - just diagnosed - effect on marriage

Post by old dude » Tue Aug 06, 2013 6:52 pm

OP, I'm not a therapist and I don't mean to sound harsh. But I believe the stark reality is that the CPAP therapy is just the visible manifestation of the problem, not in any sense the actual problem itself. I think the therapy is simply a way to let the real problem surface without actually addressing it.

I believe I would look deeper into the underlying actual cause of her anger and frustration. While CPAP therapy could be a minor irritation to a spouse, no otherwise happy husband or wife would take such an attitude about their partner trying to improve his or her health.