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by mars » Wed Nov 18, 2009 7:32 pm
Hi All
So many interesting posts, so little time to respond.
I welcome Sleep Doctors, Rt's and DME consultants to this forum. We can all learn from the threads here. I, as a cpap user, do not get attacked straight away, I am given time to settle in (not much time I admit), and can start to get the hang of how things work.
Some forum members immediately attack any OSA treatment professional, and in this they are thowing out the baby with the bathwater. I, like most of us, have had bad experiences with my first sleep doctor, and my first 4 equipment suppliers. I now have a great sleep doctor, and a great equipment supplier (cpapauction). I have vented a few times early on about the problems I have had, but I need to move on, and have moved on.
Unfortunately some of us have not.
We do not get the chance to share our knowledge if we abuse OSA industry workers, and they decide they are not wanted here, and leave. They probably will not arrive at the Forum agreeing with our general philosophy, so if we live in the real world we need to accept that, not just mindlessly vent ad nauseum.
I do not agree with many of the people in the professions I have been a part of, and I learned that telling them they were wrong, were stupid, and idiots, did not help them to see my point of view (which, of course, was the correct one ).
It seems to me that the majority of forum members want to have a dialogue with the OSA workers who arrive at the Forum, and a few members want to deny that opportunity to the majority. Not to protect the majority, but to continue to vent their spleen. This is not helpful behaviour, it can only be called selfish behaviour.
Most things I disagree with I just let go, as I have said before. When I start a post I try to ask myself - will this post be helpful or is it just my anger or my ego taking over. I am getting better at not submitting those posts, or deleting them as soon as I have posted them.
One final question - which is relevant to all who (in whatever circumstances) are on the outer.
If you demonise someone, are they more likely to see that they are wrong and embrace your ideas: or are they more likely to get defensive, and continue their current behaviour.
cheers
Mars