opposite sex and cpap

Wow, thanks for all the supportive comments!
Sharon, I actually have thought about moving out of this state, just so I'd have a chance of meeting people I have more in common with. (Un?)fortunately, I like being only an hour's drive from my family, and I honestly don't know if I could ever find a job that cuts me more slack with my OSA than the one I have now. So you're right...not so easy.
Or maybe I do just need to meet older friends. The last guy I met who I actually found interesing was 12 years older than me Too bad he lives in England. Hmm, maybe I just need to move there...
I totally know what you mean though, about alot of people in their 20's being really immature and just into partying and hooking up with random people rather than having real relationships. That's just as annoying to me as the people who are desperate to be married or in some other kind of committed relationship just so they don't have to be alone.

I wouldnt give up hope amanda, the guys you are looking for are out there, just think positive .

Now if I could just figure out where they're hiding...

Maybe I'll have to talk my landlord into letting me get a dog. At least dogs don't play Xbox...
I don't have anything against gamers either, so long as they have some other interests to talk about besides the new <insert title here> game, or don't insist that I run down the street to Wendy's and grab dinner so they can finish up their game, then we can go out and do something.

Sidebar - why is it I meet way more interesting women then men? I'm so TIRED of being heterosexual...

Yeah, it's weird... I meet lots of interesting women (even the ones who are desperate to be in a relationship). One of my friends has a PhD in Engineering and works at the Air Force Base studying something to do with airplanes that is totally beyond my comprehension, and knows about lots of other interesting things too. I think she's a total catch, but she says that guys are "scared" of her. I don't get it.

Zorro is right though, it could be alot worse... at least I'm not dying...

And Nodzy,

There's gotta be an old "tart" for an old "fart."

ITA,

amandalee wrote:One of my friends has a PhD in Engineering and works at the Air Force Base studying something to do with airplanes that is totally beyond my comprehension, and knows about lots of other interesting things too. I think she's a total catch, but she says that guys are "scared" of her. I don't get it.

And Nodzy,

There's gotta be an old "tart" for an old "fart."

amandalee wrote:ITA,

Absolutley. But, many guys truly are attracted to very intelligent women who are in power-career mode. Yet, they also fear being involved with them. The exact parts they fear about those women aren’t totally clear.

I suspicion that part is fragility of male ego. Part could be that women who possess top-tier analytical minds threaten a guy’s ability to baffle them with outright BS and incomplete truths that thinly cover the black hole of deception. Too, many guys fear a gal who is financially stable enough on her own to not need a man in order to live well. Most guys have a “thing” about being the one forced out – preferring to have the power over the castle drawbridge.

I’m baffled by the number of people who openly, and others who apparently, view each relationship they enter as being temporary. And they don’t hesitate to express that in words, or actions or by a variety of inactions. It’s like they try to stress the union into dying, rather than feeding it and nurturing it with quality sustenance…. routinely.

Intelligence is a tasty treat, regardless of the gender of the bearer. Well, if it is presented gently, respectfully and not held aloft by a pedestal of arrogance and conceit.

I’d never frown upon any woman just because she had an I.Q., career training, common sense or life knowledge, or any combination thereof far in excess of mine. But, I would be sure to never be tempted to bounce her brain through a BS tunnel. Naturally, I wouldn’t do that anyway. I prefer that my stones remain at their home.

Younger? I could handle a younger gal, depending on several stipulations – three times a day is not allowed more than three times a week, and on no more than any two consecutive days – twice a day is allowed no more often than any five consecutive days – three or more days without… skip it… I’ve already said enough to tarnish my halo.

The reality: Any gal who would seriously be interested in me at this point in my life… prudence would mandate that I have her thoroughly assessed for quantity and quality of living cells in her control center. But… I might make an exception if she projects delicious, colorful and fragrant energy as a norm.

Ok folks… I’m done… and I will blame my rant on a caffeine buzz this time.

Nodzy

After serious reconsideration of my statements in the post above, I have to be honest.

She would not have to make home-cooked meals that many times each day, or on consecutive days. I’ll even share in the cooking more than half the time.

I had to clarify to avoid anyone suspecting that I was referring to making love. (Pardon me, while I polish my halo again.)

Nodzy

Now Harold and Maude is a quirky movie....but I like that one too!

Babette wrote:Okay Sheba, keep your favorite. It's.... interesting.

Not my cuppa tea. Been there, done that, already recycled the t-shirt.

Now Harold & Maude, that's MY favorite!

http://www.geocities.com/rainforest/5862/harold.htm

CAT STEVENS RULES!

Don't be shy just let your feelings roll on by
Don't wear fear or nobody will know you're there
Just lift your head, and let your feelings out instead
And don't be shy, just let your feeling roll on by...

...Well, if you want to sing out, sing out
And if you want to be free, be free
'Cause there's a million things to be
You know that there are

Cheers,
Babette - Unrepentant Maudist

Nodzy wrote:After serious reconsideration of my statements in the post above, I have to be honest.

She would not have to make home-cooked meals that many times each day, or on consecutive days. I’ll even share in the cooking more than half the time.

Nodzy

Gosh darnit! I was gonna apply until you brought up cooking.... Does barbecuing count? I can flame broil a burger or a chicken breast no problemo. And I can make the rice cooker work no sweat. Much else is beyond me...

Oh, and I just discovered how to do killer corn on the cob on the grill...

Oh, and I can also make a great cold wild rice salad. Forgot about that. I think that's it, though. Still haven't mastered biscuits or pie crust. It's on the list of things to learn to do before I die.

LOL,
B.

After serious reconsideration of my statements in the post above, I have to be honest.

She would not have to make home-cooked meals that many times each day, or on consecutive days. I’ll even share in the cooking more than half the time.

I had to clarify to avoid anyone suspecting that I was referring to making love. (Pardon me, while I polish my halo again.)

Nodzy

it's a good thing you clarified that, nodzy, because i was going to have to gently let you in on the reason you are single! lol

amandalee,
allow me to clarify my earlier words, for fear of offending anyone: i know i said SOME of the 20-somethings i KNOW, but i definitely don't want to open myself up for any overly defensive responses, because i really did mean SOME and not ALL

having said that...i've always (well, at least since i was in my mid thirties) felt that there should be a decade between the 30's and the 40's...because the 20's really are a lot of fun, and you should have has much fun as you can in this life...and the 30's really are about figuring out who you are, and then WHAM you're in your 40's and looking around and wondering how the hell you got there so fast; so far i'm enjoying the 40's reasonably well in terms of my own belief system, my wonderful family life, the true friends i have earned, my professional life, but i still have a long way to go in terms of getting my health back....

my point is, though, that it's not like i blame the 20 somethings for not settling down yet...university generally takes a big chunk out of that time of life (especially with under-grad degrees not being enough anymore), then finding a job, and for a while it's fun to still live with the folks and save some of that money from that new job, maybe buy the car you really want, still have vacations and shop, etc...it seems unfair how suddenly you're expected to settle down and live 'the life' everyone else wants for you...

i was lucky enough to move out at 21 and start living the life I wanted for me, much to my parents' chagrin, but these days that seems very rare, to see someone younger than say, 28 or so with their own place (at least where i live, in a university town with more home-based students than you can shake a stick at)...maybe that's part of why you're struggling...you are an independent woman who is out on her own and the majority of the people around you are still living like adolescents (the adolescent stage seems to last all the way to 30 these days, instead of 20); there's another young woman on these boards who is a single mom who actually has to behave like a parent to her own mom, and i think she has experienced some of the same struggles as you, with people her own age just not getting it...

add that to the mix of the physical challenges attached to OSA, and it all seems like just too much to deal with, i'm sure...but you'll get there~once you get your health in order, i have a feeling there'll be no stopping you: single or otherwise, you'll definitely make your way

Catnapper wrote:There was a note in the paper today about the ratio of men to women in some area. Apparently there were 8 men to 1 woman in the population. The person warned however that for a woman the odds were good, but the goods were odd.

Odd? I'm NOT 'odd'... I'm just filled with 'undocumented features'!

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Babette,
Drats... I was hoping for a gal who could roast me to perfection, and we could grill food afterward. Oh well... good food is an asset too. BTW, I've reportedly been observed over the years grilling in temperatures in the minus range, single digits, knee-deep snow and pouring rain. I think I was too busy lusting for the done food to notice the weather.

sharon1965 wrote:it's a good thing you clarified that, nodzy, because i was going to have to gently let you in on the reason you are single! lol

Sharon,
You may have missed in a post where I warned folks that my sense of humor is (not exactly in these words) very active, skewed and the color varies from mild to wild. Words, such wonderful toys. But it's even better when they're blended and spiced well, taste good and are filling too.

Nodzy

Bookbear wrote:Odd? I'm NOT 'odd'... I'm just filled with 'undocumented features'!

Bookbear,

Would you mind me "borrowing' that line occasionally?

Nodzy

Sharon,
You may have missed in a post where I warned folks that my sense of humor is (not exactly in these words) very active, skewed and the color varies from mild to wild. Words, such wonderful toys. But it's even better when they're blended and spiced well, taste good and are filling too.

Nodzy

nodzy
you may have missed in my post where i said lol, as in laugh out loud, as in i'm laughing as in i found your post funny

echo wrote:Now you have the best pick up line in the world man!

...saunters up to cute looking girl at a bar: Hi there cutie, ya ever done it with a MACHINE MAN before? It'll BLOW you AWAY

Not to mention, "Hey, baby, wanna see my hose?"

sharon1965 wrote:nodzy,
you may have missed in my post where i said lol, as in laugh out loud, as in i'm laughing as in i found your post funny

No... but it was fun tugging your grin anyway. Got'cha... LOLOLOL.... thanks, Sharon.

Maybe I should behave now, before someone mistakes me for a senator or congressperson.

amandalee,
allow me to clarify my earlier words, for fear of offending anyone: i know i said SOME of the 20-somethings i KNOW, but i definitely don't want to open myself up for any overly defensive responses, because i really did mean SOME and not ALL

Oh, I know. It's the same for me--I'm talking about some/many of the people I've met personally, definitely not a generalization about everyone.
Among the people I've met in my general age group, there seem to be alot of extremes: The ones who are obsessed with getting married/being in a long term relationship; the ones who are always out partying, smoking pot, etc, and hooking up with a bunch of random people; or who otherwise refuse to grow up (like the Xbox guys).
I tend to be more of a "middle of the road" type of person, and it's frustrating to not meet people who seem to take more of a similar approach to life...

but these days that seems very rare, to see someone younger than say, 28 or so with their own place (at least where i live, in a university town with more home-based students than you can shake a stick at)...maybe that's part of why you're struggling...you are an independent woman who is out on her own and the majority of the people around you are still living like adolescents (the adolescent stage seems to last all the way to 30 these days, instead of 20)

Yup, I know exactly what you mean. I lived with my parents while I went to school, and then left a few months after I graduated and turned 22 (much to my mother's dismay If she'd had her way, I would still be living in my boring, crappy hometown).
I lived with various roommates until I was 24, but that was way too much drama for me, so I got my own place. And I'm glad I did--no more obnoxious roommates to tease me about how I sleep all weekend, watch too much TV and never cook. Sure, the rent is a little more expensive, but my sanity is priceless...
Still, nearly everyone I meet around here thinks I'm weird for not wanting to live like I'm still a college freshman. ITA that people should have fun in their 20's. For me that means at least trying to get my act together and grow up a little; but I still have a car I like; and go shopping and on vacations (just not as often as some people I know who act like they're still living in the sorority/frat house ).
I don't mean to sound like I'm complaining about my life; I've just been thinking alot lately about all this stuff. I like my life (granted it would be better if I wasn't so damn tired all the time, but oh well).

Anyway, that's more about me than anyone probably wanted to know...

amandalee wrote:Anyway, that's more about me than anyone probably wanted to know...

Amanda,

Let it fly whenever you get the urge. Part of the healing in PAP therapy is unloading stresses, and avoiding unnecessary stresses when possible. While your situation is not unique, it may feel as though it is to you. No doubt it is unfulfilling, and troubling to you. And most mortals need fulfillment in whatever terms each craves and feels.

Obviously, you found personalities, minds and spirits here that interact well with yours... however physically distant they are from you. They are as close as your computer. Not what you crave, maybe… but at least they are attentive, supportive and genuinely caring. I, for one, have never found your posts to be anything but heartwarming and interesting.

I’m sure that some may not like my long-winded, convoluted posts – but maybe my words help one or two people. Maybe someone gets a chuckle or recognizes something of their self in what I've written. Maybe I touch a part of someone deep inside that needed a gentle dusting. Or, maybe they reel back, wide-eyed and mutter… "WTH is he rambling about." It’s all good.

Let it fly, and don’t fret the flutter-by worries.

Nodzy