I am ready to scream!

Kristy5550 · Post by **Kristy5550** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 5:48 pm

I finally have a mask for my CPAP that I can tolerate so I am wearing it all the time now. My problem is .......HUBBY! He keeps waking me up saying "You are leaking"! Well, I can feel and hear it if the mask is 'leaking' and 9 times out of 10 it is NOT! I don't know what to do. Maybe I will come in here in moms room and sleep on the floor! Any suggestions?
I told him to get ear plugs, but that didn't get me very far. He told me "You don't have to wear that all the time". Well, my Dr. seems to think differently. It makes me SO stressed. I am doing what I am supposed to do and I get yelled at!!

wading thru the muck! · Post by **wading thru the muck!** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 5:55 pm

Kristy,

You and Heidi (sleeping with the enemy) need to get your husbands together and tell them to "get a life." My guess is your husband does not like the cool air blowing on him. Maybe try facing away from him, then you might send another breeze his way

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:10 pm

I think muck is right. We have had a few posts in here from sleep apnea ppl whose mates have no clue as to whats going on. You need to show him some posts in here so he can learn. Tell him this is a life threatening probelm and that you will be using that machine forever. He needs a education.

Liam1965 · Post by **Liam1965** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:18 pm

Then there's me, my wife Janet is so interested in making sure I'm as healthy as can be, SHE'S the one who found cpaptalk.com and started reading through it, and encouraged me to join.

So if you're ever sitting there thinking "Damn, that Liam makes so much noise, it's hard to find the signal", thank Janet.

Liam, a lot more "whipped" than he lets on.

Kristy5550 · Post by **Kristy5550** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:20 pm

You have a wonderful LOVING wife Liam!!
She is a sweetheart!
You are blessed.

Kristy5550 · Post by **Kristy5550** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:22 pm

wading thru the muck, you really have a good idea there
I think he would like that! NOT!!!
Anyway, thanks for the LOL.
BTW: He is out of town tonight !! I will get a GREAT nights sleep.

Mikesus · Post by **Mikesus** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:23 pm

Liam1965 wrote:Then there's me, my wife Janet is so interested in making sure I'm as healthy as can be, SHE'S the one who found cpaptalk.com and started reading through it, and encouraged me to join.

So if you're ever sitting there thinking "Damn, that Liam makes so much noise, it's hard to find the signal", thank Janet.

Liam, a lot more "whipped" than he lets on.

Liam,

Better check those insurance policies... Could be a really good act, so when you keel it looks like she was worried bout your health...

Kristy5550 · Post by **Kristy5550** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:25 pm

Guest,
You have a good point.
The problem I have so many dx.. besides the apnea, I think he is in denial. He doesn't want to think about it all. If you don't know about it or think about it, it doesn't exist.
Thanks for posting to me.

Liam1965 · Post by **Liam1965** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 6:26 pm

Mikesus wrote:Better check those insurance policies... Could be a really good act, so when you keel it looks like she was worried bout your health...

More than likely, but the joke is on her, because my insurance policies and my entire estate goes to my children. Little does she know. Mwahahahahaha.

Liam, not letting some WOMAN take my stuff.

(Let's see if I can get women pissed at me like I had gays pissed the other day.)

johnnygoodman · Post by **johnnygoodman** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 7:24 pm

Howdy,

Kristi, believe it or not a popular complaint of those married to cpap'ers is that they get "shot" by the air. I know this from overhearing cpap.com calls and from being my father's son.

I've heard that some masks are better at dampening or redirecting the air flow than others. I'll call in the big guns and ask Ted or Adam to look at this thread.

Help is on the way!

Johnny

Kristy5550 · Post by **Kristy5550** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 7:32 pm

Thanks Johnny. I appreciate the help.
I am at the end of my rope!

NeurosurgeryNP · Post by **NeurosurgeryNP** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 8:17 pm

Make HIM sleep in another room! LOL. Jen

meister · Post by **meister** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 8:40 pm

What man after having vigorous sex doesn't fall right to sleep?

rested gal · Post by **rested gal** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 8:56 pm

Amen, Neuro!

Really, when you think about it, here's a woman - Kristy - who is trying her best to get her health back - having to use a medical treatment that is uncomfortable in so many ways.

And what kind of support does she get at home? A man WAKING HER UP to complain about a little air. It doesn't even matter exactly what he's complaining about - whether it really is a leak, or air hitting him, or noise or what! The very idea of deliberately waking her up during treatment. grrrrrrr

Call it denial, call it not understanding the extreme importance of this kind of treatment, call it not really understanding the danger of sleep apnea. Make excuses for him all you want, but I call it absolutely inexcusable. If Kristy had gone out and bought some kind of silly gadget on her own to try to treat sleep apnea, ok. But this is doctor-prescribed medical treatment. Any spouse worth his/her salt should be trying to help the other deal with this medical problem.

Yes, Kristy, I'd go into another room or to the couch to continue my treatment without interruption. Neuro definitely had the better idea, but I doubt a husband that inconsiderate would give up his comfortable bed. I'd probably go farther away than to another room, myself; but everyone makes their own decisions. You had symptoms of sleep apnea that you are working on. He seems to have symptoms of something else and may not be willing to work on his own problem.

Good luck, Kristy...good luck.

Titrator · Post by **Titrator** » Tue Feb 22, 2005 9:03 pm

Hiya Kristi,

There are two masks by Fisher & Paykel that are darn near dead silent and the exhaust vent gets deflected and will not shoot out on your mate.

The Fisher & Paykel Flexifit HC 405 and the Flexifit 407 are both top drawer and not that well known. They are both nasal masks that have a glider system. This enables the mask to stay in place as you roll from side to side.

This should keep do the trick for your husband as well as give you a comfortable nights sleep.

Here are the links below.

HC 405
https://www.cpap.com/productpage/791

HC 407
https://www.cpap.com/productpage/1282

Let me know what you think.

Ciao,

Ted the Titrator.

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