spouse of CPAP user - very cranky if he is without

sharon1965 · Post by **sharon1965** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 10:32 am

my2brats:
i had just finished posting a response to cajapoto, thanking him for his kind and thoughtful repsonse, but reiterating that your original post seemed condescending and sarcastic; by the time i had posted it, you had responded to everyone's comments, so i deleted mine, thinking that you may already be feeling beat up on...now that i've read the two subsequent replies you've posted, i regret deleting mine...it wasn't unkind or inflammatory, by any means, i simply stated that if you took the time to read the entire thread you might come to learn that we have all been where your husband was, or can at least allow for the possibility, and that in these times when anger is an expression of fear, compassion and empathy goes a long way toward defusing the situation

but now i see that you aren't willing to learn from the wise people on these boards and indeed, choose instead to mock and patronize, a reaction that i agree with jeffh comes from hitting your raw nerve more than ours...i hope that you can see that the way you've responded to something we all feel so strongly about is exactly the same way you responded to your husband-- while i admit that it's not always a pleasant experience to have a mirror held up to us, a litte self awareness goes a long way...if you can move past your pique at not being successful in your original bid for support in minimizing and denying your husband's fear, you might just learn something from the people here

den, as always, you are a gentleman...thanks for that

sharon1965

DreamStalker · Post by **DreamStalker** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 10:37 am

Wulfman wrote:
DreamStalker wrote:I think our group has a great sense of humor and I also think Snoredog had the best suggestion ... really!
On the other hand, maybe they're like my wife and me. We've been kidding each other for years that we're saving other people from being miserable.

Den

Well, I was thinking that maybe some nightly spousal water boarding might help balance out some of the crankyness in their marriage ... but I now think the husband might not survive that much O2 desaturation

Hey double bratt! ... get your husband on the forum and we'll have him rolling on the floor in no time

cajapato · Post by **cajapato** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 10:43 am

Taking my cue from our esteemed colleagues in D.C., I have flip flopped. I was for this before I was against this.
Well said, Sharon

Wulfman · Post by **Wulfman** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 10:47 am

When she mentioned that he had been in law enforcement for 25 years......well, that just put EVERYTHING into perspective.

Den (has had many friends in "law enforcement"....and wondered how they got on THAT side of the law)

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 10:54 am

Now now... Some of my best friends on this forum are in law enforcement... Of course, I'd really hate to be their spouse when they break their mask and they don't have a spare.

Remember: Guns don't kill people, frustrated CPAP-ers kill people.

LOL,
Babs

sharon1965 · Post by **sharon1965** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 11:00 am

we can count on you, babs, to bring humour to ANY situation , not to mention dreamstalker and den in all their wicked irreverence!

btw babs...how ya doin?

SleepGuy · Post by **SleepGuy** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 4:35 pm

my2brats, thanks for being a good sport about this thread. After finding this forum for the first time, someone I know commented to me that it sounds like some people on the forum need some more sleep

All of that said, this is a fantastic place to get some very good advice from people who know a whole lot more about xPAP (and a lot of other stuff) than I ever will.

my2bratts2407 · Post by **my2bratts2407** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 4:43 pm

thanks SleepGuy!

too bad 'sportsmanship' doesn't go far here. Too bad so much energy was spent being mouthy and out and out rude but that goes with the territory I suppose when dealing with, um, let me guess... people??

Regardless, cpap.com was a great bit of advice that I got and we've ordered some equipment today. As far as insight from spouses of CPAP wearers... oh I already know that answer to that judging by the reaction I rec'd from all the friendlies I found here. (except for the few that actually read what I said rather than interpreted a WHOLE new meaning to my correspondence)

Who has more fun than people, really! Barrel of laughs!

sharon1965 · Post by **sharon1965** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 5:56 pm

wow, you really still just don't get it

DreamStalker · Post by **DreamStalker** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 6:09 pm

sharon1965 wrote:wow, you really still just don't get it

I do I do!

It's not the CPAP that makes the hubby cranky ... it's the bratty wife

papdaddy · Post by **papdaddy** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 6:27 pm

JeffH · Post by **JeffH** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 6:36 pm

As we used to say in the construction business....

I think she's about a half a bubble out of plumb.

JeffH...LOL

my2bratts2407 · Post by **my2bratts2407** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 8:07 pm

oh I get it alright...

just reviewed the cpap.com order and my dear beloved hubby ordered only one mask b/c he only needs one at a time...

so for anyone of you think that I may have stepped on his most recent mask... hell no... but I sure as hell will step on the new one

how does the crow taste? knowing what I am up against?

hmmmm

roster · Post by **roster** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 8:35 pm

my2bratts2407 wrote:........He and I will sit for a good hour laughing about this unbelievable reaction from most of you........

Intellectual giants you are.

papdaddy · Post by **papdaddy** » Mon Dec 17, 2007 9:11 pm

HEHEHE

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spouse of CPAP user - very cranky if he is without

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