opposite sex and cpap

[zorrro13]

I do believe its the next big thing in the porn industry as it hasnt been "done " before. Could you picture it mass orgy?

Oh my... is it wrong that this is actually what briefly passed through my mind when I first saw that "Resmed gone wild" thread?

SceneStealer, I totally know what you mean about this:

I don't spend nearly as much time around friends and at public functions as I did when I had more energy

as well as that whole "finding a healthy mate" thing (I'm a biology geek).
The optimist in me would like to beleive that since we humans think we are so far "superior" ( ) to the other creatures on this planet, we should be able to use our higher brain functions to look past things (such as having to sleep with a CPAP machine) which might have been "undesireable" in our evolutionary past. My daytime sleepiness probably would've made me a crappy hunter/gatherer... but OSA is treatable now, so no problem, right?

As various posts in this thread have shown, that's not really the case, at least for many of us who are still single. (F- off machine man? Yikes....)

I'm glad that most of the people on this board who are married/committed seem to have supportive spouses/partners. My best friend's husband actually has OSA, and she's not bothered by the machine at all. She's just glad that he's not so tired all the time and seems healthier, because she wants to keep him around for as long as possible. That's the right kind of attitude, IMO.

But for me, the whole OSA thing is yet another reason why I'll probably stay single. It just seems like another thing for me to feel insecure about, or something someone could use to be rude (F- off machine girl, maybe?).

It's already hard enough to meet people when you're tired all the time and feel like crap. The last thing I want to do after dragging myself through a work day/week is go out and try to socialize. It all seems pretty pointless anyway, because I never really meet anyone that interesting

*And let me just clarify that I'm only talking about my experiences with the guys who live in my little corner of the world, this is NOT a generalization of all men...

The guys I meet (when I actually meet anyone, that is) all seem pretty nice, but they basically act like a bunch of overgrown teenagers. For the most part, these are people who are in their 20's & 30's, who've had some kind of education, and have a career, but still live like they're 18 and in the college dorm/frathouse.
I've met lawyers, accountants, teachers, etc, who probably earn decent salaries, but still live with 7 roommates packed into some tiny house, and spend all their free time playing Xbox. Despite being educated, they don't seem to have any real interests/hobbies, or their own opinions about anything. One guy I went out with actually considered it a "date" when I came over and we ate fast food while he played Xbox...
But other women in my age group around here don't seem to be bothered by this fact, because all that seems to matter to them is whether or not they have a boyfriend/husband. So they'll put up with all kinds of BS just so they don't have to be single (heaven forbid).

So basically, I'm surrounded by boring, immature guys; and women who will settle for whatever they can get, just so they don't have to be alone. And since I have a low tolerance for being treated like crap, I'm probably out of luck. I'm also really independent and opinionated, which usually doesn't seem to go over well. Also, no matter what age the guys I meet are, they all seem to prefer the 21-year old Barbie doll types, which I am not. The fact that I'll be 27 on Friday probably puts me past my expiration date, at least around here.
Finally, on top of these (and many other) issues, there's the CPAP machine. At this point, I'm thinking, why even bother with the dating scene? It's not worth my time and energy anyway.

Yuck. Sorry for the long rant.

[Babette]

Would ya'll quit talking about my butt pimple?

Amanda, WHAT ZORRO SAID!

You're shelf life doesn't expire until 67. Not 27. You were sleepy and read the manufacturer's date stamp wrong.

And now OceanPearl will log on and tell me how he's over 67 and his sex life is better than mine, so shut up.

You're sleepy. I believe it will get better. I think you're mass pretty and a ton of fun. If I was gay, I'd definitely date you.

Sidebar - why is it I meet way more interesting women then men? I'm so TIRED of being heterosexual...

Anway, hang in there. It's gonna get better.

......I'm sorry, I'm typing this while watching "Secretary" and trying to figure out why people think this flick is so racy. So far it's just sad and disturbing.

ANYWAY, back to Amanda... You're way too cool for those stupid boys you've been hanging out with. I can only suggest interesting older men. Craigslist?

Cheers,
B.

[zorrro13]

Hey Everyone
Babs is a machine women and got a PIMPLE ON HER ASS
Thats it Babs its all over for you

[Babette]

Hey Everyone
Babs is a machine women and got a PIMPLE ON HER ASS
Thats it Babs its all over for you

You forgot I'm Fat, Forty, and a MAJOR BITCH!

Maybe I should get a dog...

LOL,
B.

[lilsheba]

OH Babette don't you go knocking the movie Secretary it's one of my favorites. I consider it well done, and it covers a subject that a lot of films don't touch on.

SECRETARY RULES!

[Babette]

Okay Sheba, keep your favorite. It's.... interesting.

Not my cuppa tea. Been there, done that, already recycled the t-shirt.

Now Harold & Maude, that's MY favorite!

http://www.geocities.com/rainforest/5862/harold.htm

CAT STEVENS RULES!

Don't be shy just let your feelings roll on by
Don't wear fear or nobody will know you're there
Just lift your head, and let your feelings out instead
And don't be shy, just let your feeling roll on by...

...Well, if you want to sing out, sing out
And if you want to be free, be free
'Cause there's a million things to be
You know that there are

Cheers,
Babette - Unrepentant Maudist

[Catnapper]

There was a note in the paper today about the ratio of men to women in some area. Apparently there were 8 men to 1 woman in the population. The person warned however that for a woman the odds were good, but the goods were odd.

Made me laugh. Isn't that just the way things are?

[ScottGA]

I would like to hear other peoples experience with the opposite sex and how and if they adjusted to dating a hosehead. It took me a year to tell someone that i sleep with a machine. she had no trouble adjusting at all however we split recently and her paring words were " f off then machine man" anyone got any good, bad,funny stories?

At first she was just glad I didn't snore anymore!! Now my wife of many years can hardly sleep with me....mask squeaks, air export too loud, etc. She often goes to the couch. I just quit worrying about it. I am sleeping now, more rested and will live longer. My intolorent wife's profession? An RN!!!

[Nodzy]

There was a note in the paper today about the ratio of men to women in some area. Apparently there were 8 men to 1 woman in the population. The person warned however that for a woman the odds were good, but the goods were odd.

Me? Odd? No. I prefer to think of myself as being... pleasingly off-kilter, with a few utterly delightful twists.

[sharon1965]

You forgot I'm Fat, Forty, and a MAJOR BITCH!

um, babsy, you forgot...you're actually 42

I'm also really independent and opinionated, which usually doesn't seem to go over well. Also, no matter what age the guys I meet are, they all seem to prefer the 21-year old Barbie doll types, which I am not. The fact that I'll be 27 on Friday probably puts me past my expiration date, at least around here.
Finally, on top of these (and many other) issues, there's the CPAP machine. At this point, I'm thinking, why even bother with the dating scene? It's not worth my time and energy anyway.

amandalee, amandalee, amandalee!!
first of all...move...no, i guess it's not that simple...but yeah, your prospects sound really lame...maybe you do need to seek out older friends...you seem like an old soul to me, maybe been here before, that kind of thing...it's hard for you (and me) to look past these things because you are past it...i just turned 42 a couple of weeks ago, and i've been noticing that 29 is the new 19...i hate to sound like an old windbag, but when i was 29 i was delivering my first baby, and i wasn't young to be doing that! but my best friend's sister recently came for the weekend and at 29 she totally reminded me of me at 19...all drinking, partying, pot-smoking, staying out all night, talking non-stop about guys and sex...it was embarrassing...but maybe i should chalk that up to my advanced age...anyway, said the old lady, things have really changed

so you seem to have the opposite perspective from a lot of girls i know who are in their mid-late 20's...they seem to think they have all the time in the world to grow up, that they'll meet mr. right when they're 40 and start a family then...well, if you're into biology, you know that the human hasn't really evolved much so biologically, that's still old to start having babies, even if society seems to think it's ok...well here you are, only 27 and thinking you're past your sell-by date...please change your perception of that! it's patently untrue, but if you vibe it, that's what people pick up on

as for being independent and opinionated, that was (is) me, too...i remember being in my twenties and deciding to resign myself to the possibility that i'd never be attached (married, marital-equivalent, whatever)because i was never that barbie doll that seems to still be revered...i was spunky and feisty and quirky and unique--none of which seems desirable when you're young; but i met a man who not only accepted me, he encouraged me to be myself...to this day,after 19 years together he still just shakes his head with a big grin saying, 'that's my girl'...

if you just live your life, enjoying it the best you can, there is bound to be someone who sees your unique qualities as positive and desirable...and even if you don't, you know you'd rather be you than one of those girls you referred to who put up with bs just so they don't have to be single (ewwww); i can't think of a worse, more destructive, soul-sucking reason to be with someone who isn't right for you...

sorry if i'm mothering you...

sharon1965

[6PtStar]

Hey Babette, dogs are good. They don't care if you have a pimple on your posterier and they will take you the way you are and don't try to change you. Besides they will be waiting at the door every day and give all the love they have.

[Guest]

Hey Babette, dogs are good. They don't care if you have a pimple on your posterier and they will take you the way you are and don't try to change you. Besides they will be waiting at the door every day and give all the love they have.

You know, after I posted that I was sitting there watching TV and thinking "I just want someone to be GLAD TO SEE ME when I get home." Clearly I DO want a dog, not a mate.

I've often said I miss the ex-boyfriend's dog more than I miss HIM.

LOL,
B.

[Guest]

Jeez Sharon, you won't let me lie about my age?

And I agree totally about today's 20-somethings. My ex-receptionist (just cleaned out her desk - YIPPEE!!!!) is the most childish 25 year old I've ever met. It's like working with a 15 year old. Her constant dramas remind me so much of living with a teenager.

Of course, my mother keeps telling me 40 is the new 60...

Cheers,
B.

[zzzzzz!!]

Of course, my mother keeps telling me 40 is the new 60...

Um, I think that's supposed to be 60 is the new 40. On the other hand, my knees have it backwards today because they sure feel like they're in their 60s!!

[Wolfmarsh]

Its interesting to read the perspectives in this thread. Im 28, been married for 3.5 years, and only been a hosehead for about 5 months.

When I first got my machine, I made my wife promise not to laugh at me, but she has now become so accustomed to it, if I go out of town, she has to have a white noise generator to replicate the "wwsssshhhhh" of the exhaust vents.

I wouldnt give up hope amanda, the guys you are looking for are out there, just think positive .

Just keep putting yourself out there (in real life, not necessarily here) and someone will bite soon (hopefully not too hard )