I don't see if Angel said her husband was actually USING his CPAP all night, either. That alone, if apnea is all it is, would make a HUGE difference in his daytime sleepiness. He HAS to use it to get any results.
Peter, another sleep study is an excellent idea. I don't know why his Dr. hasn't suggested or even demanded one.
Angel, if you husband is truly this sleepy during the day, or the afternoons from what you have observed, tell him to take a nap when the kids do. It might make a difference in his daytime sleepiness. And he must use his CPAP for the nap too.
I know I feel a heck of a lot better after a short nap right after lunch. I'm 100% complaint with my CPAP but I still get really sleepy after lunch or sometimes just need to lie down and rest an hour or so, even if I don't sleep. Refreshes me for the rest of the day
It would also improve his moodiness and irritability. Luckily, I never had any of that, I just never had any energy. I could force myself to get things done at work as long as I was "going" and not stopping, but around noon I'd "hit the wall" and just couldn't do another thing. I'm still a bit that way. But I've only been on CPAP since early Dec. I figure I've got a long way to go before I'm 100% again.
In the meantime, I have the Provigil to take if I need to be alert all day, like when driving for long periods, And thanks to CPAP I see a light at the end of the tunnel. And I have an understanding spouse of 39 years who understands my condition and supports me.
Help me my husbands sleep apnea is ruining our marriage
No, Peter, I think you missed my point.
What I was trying to say is that she should not give up trying to get him to another doc, or get him to nap with his mask, or excercise to loose the wieght, she should never stop trying to make things better.
That she should expect this weird behavior as part of what is happening, and not as her husband being a lazy jerk.
At the same time I know how hard it is to convince a husband to go to that doc again - he may say yeah yeah ok - and roll over and nap without his mask.
I know just before my husband went to his sleep clinic appointment we fought like cats and dogs for a week. He was so stressed out about it he was acting out in ways that seemed to have nothing to do with apnea or poor sleep.
Apnea does not end when you go home with your cpap, for me I have seen him on it for a year now, he is still not able to do anyting for more then a couple hours, when he has a night where he takes off his mask by accident, or it leaks a lot - he is cranky and mean the next day and cant do Anything - I could either start crying and fighting and say oh your so mean to me you big jerk, or I could gently suggest he go take a nap.
Maybe you are luckey enough that your therapy is working perfectly and you wake up each and every day refreshed and ready to tackle the world, maybe you do your share of chores around the house and take your turn with the kids - but for those of us who's homes arn't like that, a stress free supportive partner is just as important as a good fitting mask and an appropriate pressure setting.
but there is no therapy for us.
What I was trying to say is that she should not give up trying to get him to another doc, or get him to nap with his mask, or excercise to loose the wieght, she should never stop trying to make things better.
That she should expect this weird behavior as part of what is happening, and not as her husband being a lazy jerk.
At the same time I know how hard it is to convince a husband to go to that doc again - he may say yeah yeah ok - and roll over and nap without his mask.
I know just before my husband went to his sleep clinic appointment we fought like cats and dogs for a week. He was so stressed out about it he was acting out in ways that seemed to have nothing to do with apnea or poor sleep.
Apnea does not end when you go home with your cpap, for me I have seen him on it for a year now, he is still not able to do anyting for more then a couple hours, when he has a night where he takes off his mask by accident, or it leaks a lot - he is cranky and mean the next day and cant do Anything - I could either start crying and fighting and say oh your so mean to me you big jerk, or I could gently suggest he go take a nap.
Maybe you are luckey enough that your therapy is working perfectly and you wake up each and every day refreshed and ready to tackle the world, maybe you do your share of chores around the house and take your turn with the kids - but for those of us who's homes arn't like that, a stress free supportive partner is just as important as a good fitting mask and an appropriate pressure setting.
but there is no therapy for us.