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by reenee » Mon Sep 24, 2012 8:29 pm
Hi Newbie:
I read this and was sort of ashamed of how upset I am about the whole thing. I can't help it, but I am still really upset. It sounds like that after the positive answers you got, you felt even better. I used to be a happy person, but now struggle with depressed mood due to a tragic loss. I have and continue to do all I can about the loss, (counseling, groups, exercise, eating right, church, friends, volunteering, working, etc. I just think this cpap thing is the final straw. I have had a heck of a time accepting that this is my life now, sleeping with a rubber hose up my nose. My husband also is very wonderful and supportive. I don't know why I can't get to the acceptance stage. I was diagnosed in April with severe sleep apnea, I have been struggling to comply, pretty much hating every minute of it. I keep feeling like someone somewhere is making mountains of money off these air compressors and my life feels like it is over, or I secretly want it to be over, because I feel it is the last straw. I posted this entry on the other page after that wonderful fellow wrote the thing about accepting change.
Re: Especially for newly diagnosed - Dealing with Change
by Reenee on Fri Sep 21, 2012 8:49 pm
Thank you for this lovely entry. It was beautiful, and well said. What I would like to know is does anyone ever question this? Does anyone ever wonder why so many people on Craigs list are selling their Cpap machines? Does anyone else ever question who is making all the money out of scaring everyone to death stating that if they did not use this machine they were going to have a heart attack or stroke? I have been struggling with this mess since April. I loved the references to Elizabeth Kubler Ross in your posting, but and this diagnosis is similar to a death, I have read a lot of Ross in the past year and a half since the death of my only son. I was put on anti depressants which I think led to the pushing me over the apnea abyss. Before I was diagnosed I did not think anything would ever bother me again, but this mess has. My mother is 92, and probably has sleep apnea. She is just starting to lose her memory in the past 6 months. She does not have high blood pressure, no heart attacks, no strokes, no cancer, no diabetes, she drove a car till 6 months ago. We are not thin, but not too far over the lowest bmi indicating obesity. (it is pretty low now, have other people checked this?) I have extreme trouble sleeping, wake up about 3 - 5 times each night to use the bathroom, and each time I get back into bed to try to get back to sleep I need to put that stupid cold nasty reptile that blows on my like a rabid cat. It takes forever to get back to sleep, and in the beginning I cried. I thought the promise of cpap was supposed to decrease bathroom trips in the night, (mine has increased since only being able to sleep on my back) help you to lose weight (not hardly despite exercise and low calorie diet) and help with daytime sleepiness and headaches. The only improvement I have found is a reduction in headaches. My ahi is 85. yeah, I know high, severe. You would think that I would be so dang happy now. I am almost as angry as I was when I was diagnosed in April. I have seen a couple of surgeons who both said that my tonsils are not big enough to bother removing. I saw a specialist last Wed who said that the reason why I have such bad sleep apnea is because I had several teeth removed when I was young and my mouth is small I guess and my airways are also small. He also said that after menopause women's throat muscles slack. Do any other women get angry that whenever they refer to women with sleep apnea they depict young pretty women with no mask on peacefully sleeping on a white pillow case?? I also had no diabetes, no high blood pressure, no sign of heart attack or stroke. I actually was so depressed that I resent that they told me that I had this stupid thing and wish that they would have let nature take it 's course. I am also a believer, but if God is our reward for living by his laws, why does everyone want to extend it? The two biggest reasons I use the machine are to not snore, and the idea of having a stroke and surviving does not sound like a good thing. I am sorry this is so cranky. I just can't get enough sleep. I know I sound very depressed, and probably am, but does anyone know of any anti depressants that don't exacerbate sleep apnea?? Or that don't have any side effects? Peace. I am hoping to have someone find the ironies that I have. Maybe some day I will get used to it, but it feels like a life sentence, and that I am being punished. I really hate it.
No one in my family is sick. I am overweight and continue to try to lose. Any other happy words? Reenee