Madalot, you may well be beyond this point, but as you are well aware, you have been forced onto the path of learning to live with a progressive chronic illness. It's never an easy path. However, I did find the following book helpful to learn to understand how I feel about it and better understand the feelings of those around me:
http://www.amazon.com/Delicate-Balance- ... 738203238/
Your episode of family stress is what made me think of it. As you well know, physical and emotional stress impacts how our bodies react and this is especially true with someone with a chronic illness. Of course, managing stress is easier said than done.
I can highly recommend this book for anyone dealing with a chronic illness. It helped me better understand the process and how to try to find that delicate balance.
Madalot wrote:... And I think I need to start trying to keep track of it to figure out exactly what the problem is. And that's what I'm going to try to do. Keep a log of each day/night, any "arguments" with the vent, if I can determine whether it was an inhale or exhale problem, how my oxygen levels were, etc. ...
As you know I'm trying to figure out how to monitor and correlate different symptoms with my sleep. It's easy to make a comprehensive list. But then it gets to be so cumbersome you tend not to do it. At least that's my problem. I find that in my situation I often dread sleep. Other nights, I don't. Nor do I consciously know what the trigger is for one versus the other. I am trying to sort out what the subconscious trigger might be.
But by careful observation, I've discovered my dread of sleep does not always predict poor sleep.
So, when I put together my list, I'll share it here and explain what and why I am tracking. Though you have a different situation, my "thinking out loud" might help you as well as others.