Relationships

With the physical and mental struggle that is Sleep Apnea, has anyone started to doubt their feelings/love for their girlfriends, boyfriends, wives, or husbands?

Well I resemble that remark, but only because I was tired and cranky and hated myself at the time .... it has gotten TONS better after the CPAP therapy started to work.

People going through changes in life always start to question everything around them (IMHO).

I assume you are asking this because this is how you have been feeling? Give it some time, I would say. Unless your partner is not being supportive, then it can be that adjusting to CPAP has just made you more tried, emotional, reactive. I would not jump to any conclusions immediately... try to deal with one thing at a time. Make the therapy work for you, and try to make some happiness in your life - take care of yourself and try to get better first. That's just my 2 cents!

Good points...thanks for the advice

I understand exactly how you feel. I was diagnosed with OSA about the same time i found out my partner was pregnant ...sooooo excited. But the downside has been dealing with an emotional/sometimes hormonal pregnant woman (whom i dearly love), and then going through CPAP therapy, the noise, the frustration, the tears and laughter. its an ongoing journey but my better half has been so good. she has taken to wearing earplugs so we can still sleep together as i have an old F&P loan CPAP machine which sounds like a turbine. I am in the process of sorting out a new much quieter machine and also am scheduled to have ENT surgery to improve my airway which should help with compliance immensely.

Last night we laughed so much - she had her ear plugs in and i had a chin strap and Swift II on. She couldnt hear me and i couldnt talk....since we are both talkers and quite boisterous we thought it was so funny. see, sometimes it is funny and you have to hold on to those moments cause there will be times you want to cry. but i believe it does get better.

good luck my friend

Ado

RELATIONSHIPS ARE FUN, AND WHAT A CHALLENGE, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE SINGLE AND DATING - BUT EVERYONE THERE IS GOOD NEWS, IF A MAN/WOMAN ACCEPTS THAT OTHER SLEEPING BUDDY, YOU KNOW YOU HAVE A GOOD MATE, AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP WILL BE SOLID.

ROMANCE, IS THE SAME IN YOUR 40'S AND 50'S AS IN YOUR 30'S, THERE IS ALWAYS SOMETHING GETTING IN THE WAY, BUT WITH A STRONG RELATIONSHIP YOU WILL CARRY YOURSELVES THROUGH IT.

I GIGGLED WHEN I READ THE POST ABOUT THE BOISTEROUS COUPLE WHO LAUGH, HIM WITH HIS SWIFT AND HER WITH HER EAR PLUGS, SOON YOU WILL HAVE A NICE QUIET MACHINE, AND SHE WON'T NEED HER EAR PLUGS, BUT SOMETHING ELSE WILL BE IN THE WAY SOONER OR LATER.

THE BEAUTIFUL ESSENCE OF LOVE IS LOVE. REGARDLESS OF WHAT IS HAPPENING OR WHAT IS NOT HAPPENING, IF YOU LOVE YOUR PARTNER AND HE OR SHE LOVES YOU, YOU WILL GET THROUGH IT.

ONE OF THE AGE OLD COMMENTS IS TO MARRY A PERSON YOU ENJOY TALKING TO, BECAUSE THERE COMES A TIME, WHEN THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT YOU WILL BE DOING.

STOP WORRYING, JUST RELAX, FOCUS ON BEING HEALTHY, BEING COMPLIANT, ACCESSING EVERYTHING YOU CAN TO MAKE LIVING WITH A CPAP EASY, AND THE REST WILL JUST TAKE CARE OF ITSELF.

GUYS, JUST REMEMBER TO BYE HER A FLOWER ONCE A WEEK, AND TELL HER YOU LOVE HER, AND GALS, MAKE SURE YOU MAKE HIM A NICE DINNER, AND REMIND HIM THAT YOU MARRIED HIM BECAUSE HE IS THE BEST MAN IN THE WORLD.

GOOGLE VINCE GILLS SONG "LOOK AT US" AND KNOW THAT YOU TOO WILL GO DOWN IN HISTORY.

GOOD KIND THOUGHTS TO ALL

my own experience with OSA and cpap has been that my husband has continued to prove that he will support me through anything, and for that i am eternally grateful

the friend who helped me to realize that OSA was at the heart of all my physical problems, though, he didn't fare so well...after 7 years of his wife bugging him to get a sleep study done, finally threatening to leave him if he didn't, he found out that he had very severe OSA...has been on cpap for just over 2.5 years now...after the first year, he saw light at the end of his personal tunnel, began to feel better, got back to working full time, lost some weight, gained some energy...but once he was back on his feet, she left him...seems that she was sticking around till he was well again and could fend for himself, at least that's his explanation...who really knows?

Our tension was when my husband was bugging me to get evaluated for OSA and I kept blowing him off. I thought it was no big deal, and he gets REALLY angry when I ignore my health. He's been very supportive of my therapy. In fact, today I dozed off while reading and he came in and said (very lovingly) Hey Hosehead, no sleeping without the mask!

He loves me and wants me around longer than my mom (she died at 54), so he's supportive of anything I do to take better care of myself. Once I finally get off my butt & do it.