fiancee complaining about noise

kayfouroh · Post by **kayfouroh** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 7:12 am

sharon1965 wrote:
kayfouroh wrote:I have two. I have a full face mask (F&P HC431), which my girlfriend doesn't want me to use around her
why?

Too big, hose gets in the way.

rested gal · Post by **rested gal** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 9:50 am

As much as I absolutely love my Headrest nasal pillows mask, I don't think it's quiet...if "quiet" is a major consideration.

The Headrest does make a noticeable shussssh sound every time you inhale.

Doesn't bother me. I was used to that same Darth Vader-ish "inhale sound" with the Breeze I used before I switched to the Headrest.

The noisiest masks I've tried were the NA and NA II, the original Swift, the Snapp, and the Lyra.

The quietest mask I've tried is the SomnoPlus by SomnoTech.

As Kathy (kteague) mentioned, one of the best features about the Headrest mask is where the exhaust vent is positioned, up out of the way at eyebrow level and pointing straight up like a little chimney. The venting air never hits anything...not the bedcovers, not your own arm, not your own head pillow, and best of all -- not your bedpartner.

So, even though there is that regular "more sound when you inhale" from the Headrest, there is no additional sound of the exhaust air suddenly hitting the bed covers. Not even if you pull the covers all the way up over your eyes.

The Headrest is a bulky looking thing with its own headgear. But, if you remove all the headgear, attach a couple of homemade soft, stretchy straps to it, and route the main air hose up overhead, the Headrest is one of the most unobtrusive masks I've ever used.

Lets you lay the side of your face absolutely flat on your pillow... no more need to hang your face off the edge of a pillow in an attempt to keep a traditional mask from pressing into your cheek or getting dislodged sideways. Great mask for toss and turn sleeping in any sleep position, including tummy sleeping.

Of course, every person is different. Just 'cause I like the Headrest soooo much (with or without the headgear) it doesn't mean that mask would suit the next person at all.

bap40 · Post by **bap40** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 10:12 am

I feel sort of sad that your fiance is complaining about YOUR medical treatment. My husband could care less how much the machine and or mask sounds. He is just gratefull that he now does not have to worry and stay partially awake to to make me roll over when I would stop breathing!

I hate to ask, but does she compain about other things too???

Maybe this should be an ahhahh moment???

Sorry to sound so negative, but I think our partners should support and help us not to compain about "sounds" Did she ever deal with your snoring if you did snore????

Good luck

BarryKaraoke · Post by **BarryKaraoke** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 11:20 am

bap40 wrote:I hate to ask, but does she compain about other things too???

Maybe this should be an ahhahh moment???

Sorry to sound so negative, but I think our partners should support and help us not to compain about "sounds" Did she ever deal with your snoring if you did snore????

Part of me agrees. Would she also say "I don't want you wearing that artificial leg around me. Crutches only."?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 11:39 am

Don't forget to remind her that you know PLENTY of single female cpap-ers you can replace her with.

LOL,
Babs

ozij · Post by **ozij** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 12:38 pm

[quote="Anonymous"]Don't forget to remind her that you know PLENTY of single female cpap-ers you can replace her with.

LOL,
Babs

miggity · Post by **miggity** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 1:31 pm

I thank you all for your help on this subject, but feel compelled to say that my fiancee means well and doesn't want to interfere with my treatment, and that she also has a medical condition --- low blood pressure --- that is exacerbated by lack of sleep, so we need to figure out something that works for both of us. She's not a complainer in general, and is really supportive of me.

ozij · Post by **ozij** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 1:39 pm

Like they said:
It could be the air hitting the bedding,
It could be a leak she had better check for with the back of her hand,
And could it be a mouthleak? Could a mouthleak be waking her, but by the time she checks, you've already closed your mouth?

O.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 1:41 pm

You're a VERY GOOD fiance to stick up for her.

Sometimes good sleep is more important that sleeping TOGETHER. You might have to try some apart time.

I would be annoyed as all heck if my partner was keeping me awake. I actually do sympathize.

Earplugs. Sleep apart. BIGGER BED. I cannot - at this point in my life and therapy - conceive of sharing a queen sized bed with ANYONE. I would have to demand a King, or separate beds. Luckily, newer homes are built with these giant master suites that will accommodate two queen size beds.

Even newer homes come with two master suites...

BEST OF LUCK!
Babs

goose · Post by **goose** » Thu Mar 27, 2008 5:46 pm

Too big?? Get's in the way of what???

That's one of the masks in my rotation (HC431) and I certainly don't find it too big, well not really anyway.....I'd have to say it gets in the way of sleeping more than the headrest does (I love my headrest) but there are times -- like now -- when my allergies or sickness plugs my nasal solution so I have to use a FF.......

Kind of brings up an interesting picture though.......

cheers
goose

miggity · Post by **miggity** » Fri Mar 28, 2008 1:52 pm

i used the Fisher & Paykel 704 (i think that's the #) nasal mask last night, and although it left a sore on the bridge on my nose, my fiancee was pretty happy with it and said it was much quieter. i looked over at my machine at some points during the night (when i was awoken by it being too tight on my nose) and saw that i was only blowing at 8.0, when i would usually be blowing at 10.0+. wonder why that would be...

andy88488 · Post by **andy88488** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 8:16 am

I found the sound of the Respironics A-flex disturbing myself, because it seemed to get so much louder when I inhaled. My solution was to move the machine off my bedside table and onto the floor.

brandyII · Post by **brandyII** » Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:49 pm

I have the same machine as you but a different mask as you can see from the pic below. I couldn't find A-flex to put on my machine listing but it looks the same anyway.

I guess I'm lucky because I'm the one who would be complaining about the noise and my husband is a loud snorer and I wear ear plugs to bed and have my machine on and a fan just to sleep at night. God help me if the electricity goes out! Good luck you'll work out something, you both need sleep and maybe it is just going to take her time to get used to it. Not everyone likes ear plugs either. Best to you both brandyII (still married to a snorer for 25 years)

dmstangu · Post by **dmstangu** » Tue Apr 01, 2008 8:05 am

miggity wrote:i used the Fisher & Paykel 704 ... and saw that i was only blowing at 8.0, when i would usually be blowing at 10.0+. wonder why that would be...

Less leaks. Probably that's why it is quieter too...

Casiesea · Post by **Casiesea** » Tue Apr 01, 2008 10:45 am

I understand your fiance's issue. It was actually my sleep problems that lead to the discovery of my husband's sleep apnea. I have horrible insomnia, when I finally do go to sleep any sound will wake me up. His snoring was so loud, I could hear him from my neighbors driveway. We slept in different bedrooms on opposite sides of the house and he would still wake me up. My daughter even ended up sleeping with me because he was waking her up, too. I finally went to the doctor to get medication to help me stay asleep, we walked away with a sleep medicine referral for him.

Eventually, everyone in the house started sleeping with sound machines (even the baby, lol). Now, I could probably sleep through a tornado. I guess we would be a prime target for burglary. That is if anyone dare come near a house that sounds like ours at night.

So, I can certainly understand your fiance's trouble. OSA effects bed partners sleep, too. Disrupted sleep feels bad no matter what the cause. What I do not understand is why any partner would care about mask appearance (not op's issue)! To me, that would be a HUGE red flag! I wouldn't care if my husband had to wear full body armor to bed as long as it would help him feel better. Anyone who truly cares about you will love the way you look in the equipment! I love looking at my husband sleeping peacefully wearing his little mask (ahh, if he would only sleep peacefully for more than a few minutes). Seriously, isn't your partner supposed to be sleeping while you are wearing it anyway?

Interesting tip for ADHDers ... some people with ADHD (my daughter and I) have trouble staying asleep because the mind will not shut down, even during sleep. White noise can be extremely beneficial because it keeps the brain busy and lets the person rest.

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