Hi Rebamom,
Some people take to the CPAP very easily, some have to work at it a while, and then they become compliant. And then there are those that cannot get used to it and they go searching for other ways to control their sleep apnea. A lot try their best to ignor it or pretend it is not serious.
Which group do you fall into?
"So now I'll start at the beginning, start researching why the airway collapses and see what interesting things develop there and what research has been done to help prevent that on a permanent basis. From what I'm starting to see, this is not a rare problem, so there has to be research going on somewhere, whether it be fixing the cause or retraining the mind."
It sounds to me that you plan to take a similar path to me. I have not taken to the CPAP well. Everything told me to lose weight, which I did, and was able to reduce my untreated sleep apnea from an AHI of 19.5 to 13.5 as confirmed by an HST. That was last year.
I did some more serious research and came up with a plan to 'cure' myself of sleep apnea. I recently completed a couple of HSTs and will continue with my activities. My untreated AHI is now around 5.
I started a thread on Apneaboard in Jan outlining my plan. Maybe it could help you with some of your reasearch.
http://www.apneaboard.com/forums/Thread ... leep-Apnea
Using weight loss, general exercise, and tongue/throat exercises I managed to get my AHI down to approx 5.
Not using a machine currently.