Am I bugging or offending anyone...? Sorry, not intentional

Peter · Post by **Peter** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 7:29 pm

Open letter to everyone,

Seems as of late that I've received several PM's or e-mails from individuals within this forum who aren't very happy with the posts I've made. Some have outright called me a few choice names, and seem to think I want to known as some kind of expert or guru, and that I don't think anyone else knows what they're talking about. I'm terribly sorry if that's the impression I've given. I've only been a member since early January, and if anyone wants to research my posts, I don't find where I'm attempting to portray myself as such. However, there seems to be a common thread among several individuals that I'm a conceited, self absorbed 'look at me' individual. I honestly can't say I believe that of myself, and I'm certainly not conceited at 300 lbs on a 5'8" frame. I rather feel like a gross, unnattractive, undesirable, unlovable piece of $hit most of the time. And, contrary to one individual's remark, I wasn't trying to stroke my own ego by a couple of the lengthy posts I made. I don't have an ego. It's $#!#ing buried by 140lbs of extra fat!!! If you want me to go away, then say so in a post that all can read. But, I guess I'll just quit making any posts at all so I don't pi$$ anyone off anymore than I already have. Like I said, "Sorry, NOT intentional."

Peter

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 7:44 pm

Peter, just remember that there are lots of sleep-deprived people here that may have left their best judgements at the door when they are speaking about topics so important to their well-being. Heck, we all are here to vent.... and learn!
So don't you give up on us here yet. We are all in the same boat!

Paul B · Post by **Paul B** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 7:50 pm

Peter, I haven't noticed any issues with your posts; I'm not saying you weren't displaying those characteristics, only that I didn't notice them. On the other hand, I'm not critical of most people's individual differences, in fact, I quite enjoy them. No matter what you do, you're bound to upset someone at some point in time.

1koolcat · Post by **1koolcat** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 7:55 pm

Peter,

Sounds like a few insecure individuals are trying to throw THEIR weight around by attacking you personally in their emails and PM's.

Personally, most everything I've read on the CPAPTALK forum has been very helpful to me. If I start reading a post and it seems too long or is not very interesting TO ME, I click the BACK button on my browser and check out the next posting.

Without this forum (and others like it) I would be feeling pretty lonely in my dealing with my OSA and CPAP treatment. I have had my machine for just over six months now, and it hasn't all been fun and rosey. This forum has calmed some of my fears and helped me re-evaluate how I measure my own progress.

I can relate to you on several levels because I, too, joined this forum in January . . . I used to live in Portland proper (mid-1980's) and my name is Peter as well. I have also struggled with self-esteem as my life went from "dull as dishwater" to "total disaster" as my sleep deprivation continued untreated until my 43rd year. Though I may never meet you face to face, we are brothers.

Keep up the good work. Your postings are appreciated by many.

the "other" Peter

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 8:56 pm

I haven't noticed anything objectionable about your posts. I have also been "flamed" here for no reason other than "someone was tired" & I was easy prey. I don't buy that excuse at all. There is no excuse for bad behavior! Anyway, I think your thoughts & comments are as important as anyone else's here, so please continue to post.

snamvar · Post by **snamvar** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 9:38 pm

Hi Peter,
I really feel that one gets what he/she wants from a forum like this. I have found this forum to be a great source of information and support. I also think that most of us have suffered (and are suffering) from different consequences of OSA. Let me also say that I have found this forum to be very civilized You should see some other forums where people name-call and yell at each other. Most, if not all of us on this forum do not know each other in person, so please don't take it personally. We all get opinionated at time. It's your right to be on this forum and share/benefit from it (unless the admin says otherwise)

Good luck with your treatment

53now · Post by **53now** » Wed Feb 02, 2005 9:47 pm

AHHHHHHHHH Good ole "Message Boards". A Computer "Expert" friend of mine gave me some valuable advice several years ago when he said..............."If you wear your feelings on your shoulders.....stay away from Message Boards. Sooner or later you will get your feelings hurt or get very ticked off OR Both ! AND he was right. I visited what was supposed to be a Christian Message Board and ..............to make a long story shorter, I got into a 3 week verbal battle with some "gentleman".
Well as far as Peter is concerned........... (I did a "Peter Search") ha ha
I didn't see anything that bothered me !
Let's all remember........"We're all on the same side of the bed " !!!!

have a great day !! Hang in there Peter !

Rich

rested gal · Post by **rested gal** » Thu Feb 03, 2005 12:02 am

Peter, Rich (53now) is right. Just ignore carping and go right ahead posting. I think you're doing fine and have enjoyed reading your posts.

Janelle · Post by **Janelle** » Thu Feb 03, 2005 9:51 am

Peter, there has been nothing offensive, at least to me, in any of your posts. We are all here to share our experiences and how we have solved some of the problems associated with our treatment. Is that egotistical? I don't think so. If I were to say, "This is what I did for that...." that's not egotisical, it is sharing. If you can help one person, your advice was worthwhile. Maybe it will be tomorrow, maybe it will be next month. If it worked for you, it might work for others.

And remember that SA often makes people irritable. Chalk it up to that and don't let the turkeys get you down.

Now, if you really want to see some irritable posts, go to the Talk About Sleep Forum and get a load of a certain individual over there!

Liam1965 · Post by **Liam1965** » Thu Feb 03, 2005 10:11 am

Janelle wrote:And remember that SA often makes people irritable. Chalk it up to that and don't let the turkeys get you down.

Irritable? How DARE you. Just because I don't sleep very well, you call me IRRITABLE? Why, I'll tear you a new one, you... you... you... words fail me.

Liam, who is, clearly, just being silly, and who also doesn't find anything offensive in Peter's posts.

Clownshow · Post by **Clownshow** » Thu Feb 03, 2005 1:09 pm

Peter... Don't worry about the crusties - They have no sense of humor. Remember You can always cut and past a PM onto a thread so everyone can see it

Machine

Machine	Mask