sleeplessmommy wrote:He has become very hyper in the last year and has a hard time settling. He has always fought sleep since infancy. Consequently, he needs and adheres to a strict bedtime routine but he just does not fall asleep until 9pm no matter what time I get him in bed.
I think you mentioned that he may have ADHD. Sleep issues, including difficulty settling to sleep, are common in kids with ADHD. Perhaps you can talk to his doctor about giving him melatonin at night?
In reference to the incentive chart, I feel like I'd be setting him up for failure because I do feel the wake ups are not in under his control. He gets a reward when he keeps it on all night (maybe 3 times in 2 months).
Well, that reward is an incentive. Is it something very motivating that he gets immediately?
Julie wrote:I know it's impossible to tell someone else how to live, and I'm NOT judging. But I personally, if I had any options at all to work with (or maybe even if I didn't) I would do absolutely anything necessary (like changing jobs or shifts) to facilitate what my child needed, and making a child with sleep disorder(s) go to bed at a time out of synch with his own rhythms is something I'd target to fix before almost anything else.
Are you saying that the kid should dictate what time he goes to bed? And what happens in a year or two, if not sooner, when he goes to a school that starts early in the morning? You don't let a kid with a sleep disorder dictate how and when he sleeps (which would clearly be late, disrupted, and without CPAP, if he had his way), and the kid doesn't dictate when and where his mother works. This is a mother who was/is sleeping in the kid's room in order to replace his mask every time he took it off! I don't even know how she's able to function at work with the disturbed sleep she's getting. She has nothing to feel guilty about.
Never put your fate entirely in the hands of someone who cares less about it than you do. --Sleeping Ugly