Do you ever go a night without CPAP?

[PST]

I'm not sure it's worth the risk. You are likely to lose sleep, experience frequent arousals, and worry about O saturation.

[GaryG]

Here's something for thought: Did you ever consider maybe she has OSA as well and will be bringing her CPAP with her?

[teresamichele]

Maybe my standards are higher than most - but if I'm going to have sex with someone, I'd want them to be truthful with me and I'd be truthful with them.

Like Cher said in Clueless, "Look how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet!"

Just ask yourself - would you want her to keep something like this from you? If you're just in it for sex, maybe you don't care, but if you really want to see this work out, be upfront.

[Autopapdude]

ike Cher said in Clueless, "Look how picky I am about my shoes and they only go on my feet!"

That is a great line..love it.....lolololol

[briank]

No, I would not deliberately go a night without CPAP.

But I can understand your uncertainty about telling her about your CPAP too early on.

If I were single and dating though, and I felt it was too early to tell someone about my CPAP, I would feel it was too early to spend the night night with them, too. But that's just me.

[Captain_Midnight]

Uncle M, you ask a reasonable question; and, it's one that has surfaced a few times before.

I believe that if you introduce your sleepover guest to the concept a tad in advance, mentioning that it's just a way to use physics to keep your airway open, and even ask her to let you know if it bugs her, things will go better than you worried that they might.

e5g, I'm not a moralist, and I have never yet criticized the tone of another's post. That said, when someone asks a perfectly legitimate question, there is no call to write...Pull back and remove your head from your anal opening!!! no matter how many smilies with which you choose to punctuate your sentence.




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[Hose_Head]

I'm having a lady friend over this weekend overnight. We'll be sleeping together (in both meanings of that phrase, LOL). I'm afraid to introduce her to the CPAP at this point. She knows I use one but she's never seen or heard the noise of one of the machines. I'm afraid that she will start thinking about having to go through life sleeping next to someone with that awful noise making machine and she might drop me quickly before she falls head over heals for me. I would like to reach a point where she's so attached to me that she won't care about the machine.

Yes I have tried to sleep a night without my xpap. Couldn't do it. Could not sleep. Felt miserable. and just had to get back on the hose.

It's best to use it anyway. Snoring's likely to be a big turn-off. And you won't be your real self in the morning. Do you really want her to see you as a half asleep grump?

Ya gotta use protection, man

[Guest]

I recently went TWO nights without mine (I travelled downstate and it was too much of a "bother" to pack it up).....I am STILL suffering the consequences.....I feel like absolute H@$LL two days later! I say USE it because if you don't, you are going to be VERY cranky the day after and that's so not good to start a relationship!! Good luck!!

[elg5cats]

Captain Midnight

e5g, I'm not a moralist, and I have never yet criticized the tone of another's post

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Really????? What's this?

That said, when someone asks a perfectly legitimate question, there is no call to write...Pull back and remove your head from your anal opening!!! no matter how many smilies with which you choose to punctuate your sentence.

Your noncriticism is noted........Should my posts disturb you, feel free not to read them.

elg5cats

[Captain_Midnight]

e5g writes...Your noncriticism is noted

My post was, indeed a criticism, with "yet" meaning up to the point of writing it.

Your tone did not disturb me personally. Respectfully, however, I'll tell you why I made an issue of the tone of your comment.

There are a lot of folks, people who rarely post, or never post but want to on this forum. If some of these good folks have a question or two; however do not ask for fear of being ridiculed, then the situation is, in fact, disturbing.

Regards- - Capt. M.


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[elg5cats]

e5g writes...Your noncriticism is noted My post was, indeed a criticism, with "yet" meaning up to the point of writing it. Your tone did not disturb me personally. Respectfully, however, I'll tell you why I made an issue of the tone of your comment. There are a lot of folks, people who rarely post, or never post but want to on this forum. If some of these good folks have a question or two; however do not ask for fear of being ridiculed, then the situation is, in fact, disturbing. Regards- - Capt. M..

I find it interesting how you defend your noncriticism to make it legitimate......fact is writing styles vary and appeal to different people in different ways.....Your style may be equally problematic to some people....when you begin to try to micro manage writing styles, you create the offensive conflict you suggest attempting to protect against......as stated before, if my posts are bothersome to you, don't read them. Don't delude yourself into believing you will control the method in which I post...I will make that decision. And I will not guilt myself into believing I control others decision to post or not!

elg5cats

[bcab17]

Right on, Greybeard.

Hey Unclematt, there's nothing adolescent about your hesitance to use the cpap on a first night with someone. It seems like a very normal feeling to me. Those here who are preaching the "man up and just do it" philosophy sound pretty tough, and while I respect their fortitude, it just may not be that simple for some people. I am someone who "needs" my cpap every night, but if I were in your situation I too would think twice about using it.

As your relationship moves forward, of course you will need to see that she is ok with your cpap...but for the first night? Well, perhaps when the time comes for sleep you could casually mention that you hope she doesn't mind some snoring since you won't be using the cpap. You just might find that she's cool about it, and replies something like "don't be silly...use the cpap, and let's both get some sleep."

Good luck, relax and have fun!

YEAH RIGHT! Sacrifice your health for vanity. How ludicrous! IF someone can't accept you for the person you are, then it is time to look for someone who will. I'd NEVER think twice about my Cpap use and impressing someone. How about going to the next step of stupidity? Get plastic surgery to make sure you look like Brad Pitt. Then, the girl will be sure to go for you--isn't that the same logic? If you can't be who you are, then perhaps you are the one not ready for a relationship. it isn't a question of "manning up--" it is a question of health and well-being sacrificed to impress a member of the opposite sex. If you had a prosthetic leg, would you be shy about wearing it, lest people think you have a disability? Be grateful that you're under treatment, and look for a woman who understands.

Wow "Dude"...you should actually relax and READ what I posted. Where did I say "sacrifice your health for vanity"? I never advocated not using the cpap. I was mearly trying to show the original poster some compassion by saying that his hesitence is understandable. You say that you would NEVER think twice about it, and I would like to think the same of myself, but I am openminded enough to realize that not everyone can be that sure. And I don't think it's about impressing someone. I think it's more about feeling selfconscious, and I just don't think it's so far fetched to understand how someone might feel just a little bit selfconscious wearing the mask in front of a new girlfriend for the first time. Yes, sacrificing health for vanity is ludicrous. It's just too bad that you wasted your time ranting about something I never said.

[Bobxyz]

Before I started using a cpap 3 years ago I had night time incontiance needing to change my adult diaper 3 times a night on average.
From the day I started on the hose I haven't had this problem except during one of the only 2 times I dosed off without the cpap.
So excluding the first week I was on the hose I have used it EVERY time I sleep.

[elg5cats]

quote="bcab17"]

Right on, Greybeard. Hey Unclematt, there's nothing adolescent about your hesitance to use the cpap on a first night with someone. It seems like a very normal feeling to me. Those here who are preaching the "man up and just do it" philosophy sound pretty tough, and while I respect their fortitude, it just may not be that simple for some people. I am someone who "needs" my cpap every night, but if I were in your situation I too would think twice about using it.As your relationship moves forward, of course you will need to see that she is ok with your cpap...but for the first night? Well, perhaps when the time comes for sleep you could casually mention that you hope she doesn't mind some snoring since you won't be using the cpap. You just might find that she's cool about it, and replies something like "don't be silly...use the cpap, and let's both get some sleep."
Good luck, relax and have fun!
[/quoteYEAH RIGHT! Sacrifice your health for vanity. How ludicrous! IF someone can't accept you for the person you are, then it is time to look for someone who will. I'd NEVER think twice about my Cpap use and impressing someone. How about going to the next step of stupidity? Get plastic surgery to make sure you look like Brad Pitt. Then, the girl will be sure to go for you--isn't that the same logic? If you can't be who you are, then perhaps you are the one not ready for a relationship. it isn't a question of "manning up--" it is a question of health and well-being sacrificed to impress a member of the opposite sex. If you had a prosthetic leg, would you be shy about wearing it, lest people think you have a disability? Be grateful that you're under treatment, and look for a woman who understands.

Wow "Dude"...you should actually relax and READ what I posted. Where did I say "sacrifice your health for vanity"? I never advocated not using the cpap. I was mearly trying to show the original poster some compassion by saying that his hesitence is understandable. You say that you would NEVER think twice about it, and I would like to think the same of myself, but I am openminded enough to realize that not everyone can be that sure. And I don't think it's about impressing someone. I think it's more about feeling selfconscious, and I just don't think it's so far fetched to understand how someone might feel just a little bit selfconscious wearing the mask in front of a new girlfriend for the first time. Yes, sacrificing health for vanity is ludicrous. It's just too bad that you wasted your time ranting about something I never said.

Perhaps there's another question to be asked in situations as this. If a relationship is in early stages of development that CPAP should be hidden, is the timing right for sleeping together? What's the goal here....relationship or sleeping together? For one night stands, is CPAP ON/OFF?????
elg5cats

[Autopapdude]

Wow "Dude"...you should actually relax and READ what I posted. Where did I say "sacrifice your health for vanity"? I never advocated not using the cpap. I was mearly trying to show the original poster some compassion by saying that his hesitence is understandable. You say that you would NEVER think twice about it, and I would like to think the same of myself, but I am openminded enough to realize that not everyone can be that sure. And I don't think it's about impressing someone. I think it's more about feeling selfconscious, and I just don't think it's so far fetched to understand how someone might feel just a little bit selfconscious wearing the mask in front of a new girlfriend for the first time. Yes, sacrificing health for vanity is ludicrous. It's just too bad that you wasted your time ranting about something I never said.

The post was directed at the originator of the thread, named bicab, NOT YOU. So, relax. Everyone here is so touchy about advice. I've been 100% compliant for 11 years on xpap. We all feel self-conscious, but most of us who use xpap do so for the benefit of health and well-being. Thought I'd give some advice to a newbie who was making a mistake on the most important aspect of Cpap therapy--consistency and compliance. Maybe my input isn't appreciated, so I will keep shut, and let newer folks make their own mistakes. MEA CULPA.