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by JayR_1945 » Sun Jun 14, 2009 9:30 am
Riv,
First of all, I apologize if I came accross a bit heavy. I was hearing the concerns of an "Anti" infiltrating a forum on sleep apnea. But, from you previous posts, you are indeed an apnea patient, and smoking is just a side issue.
Once I saw that the war-like tobacco issue was becoming a problem in relationships, I gave up on the active search for Ms Right. Yes, participating in the quitting process together may have some benefits if there is already a strong supportive relationship. However, the quiting process is tenuous. For those who quit on their own the success rate is about 15% after a year. ....30% for those who use use a program. They now claim 40% with Chantix or Buproprion, but there are adverse effects: major depression and thoughts of suicide. The quitting process is now considered a lifelong effort. But, does the reasonable person really want to spend their time, emotional energy and money on programs that just don't work.
So, given the dismal success rate, if your partner does quit (and becomes a rabid anti-smoker), what happens if you experience some major stress in your life and you start smoking again? My point is that the tobacco issue is a problem for relationships. It's contentious. There is too much social force, an not enough decent solutions. Yes, I'd like to see a better analysis of the problem and solutions that work for everone. (I do that in the research areana.) Then I'll resume the search for Ms. Right. Hang in there ladies.
In the mean time, finding better solutions to the sleep apnea issue does show some promise.
Jay R.
I am a Systems Engineer/Researcher, and Navy Veteran/ I am not a doctor. All of my suggestions are from my own experience and research. For medical advice, talk to your health care professional. They are good people and could use the work.