How Fat Are You?

mcdunde64 · Post by **mcdunde64** » Sun Jul 24, 2005 5:13 am

I weigh 230 ponnds

blainefox · Post by **blainefox** » Sun Jul 24, 2005 1:52 pm

I'm a regular lardass and can't seem to lose any weight since I went on insulin.

I'm 6'2" and weigh 352 lbs.! Ugh...

Flower51 · Post by **Flower51** » Wed Jul 27, 2005 2:50 pm

Hi .... I know the feeling but you know what? You aren't a "lardass" so don't call yourself that. We're all harder on ourselves, more judgemental than we'd be w/someone else. Give yourself some grace.....Medication, life, genes, being sedentary, our food choices or just plain gluttony can all add up to added pounds, right? It doesn't have to be a life sentence or a death sentence and "lardass" is NOT who you are no matter how bad you're feeling right now about things.

You are made in the image of God. You were created out of love by God.
He loves you in this moment of imperfection just as much as He would if you weighed 125 pounds and wore your imperfection only on the inside. Accept that love and accept yourself where you are right now. And if you are mad at God for the shape you are in or mad at yourself just plain tell Him...He can take it afterall. He's got big shoulders. Just talk to Him and ask Him for help. And while you are at it, think about the lessons He's teaching you through the particular body He's given you and the lessons He wants to teach you through it....about commitment and faithfullness for example....and thank Him for it. Have you ever thanked Him for the body you have????? I know that was a HUGE stretch for me until He showed me His perspective and what He's given me in this body as a way of communicating His presence to me and my need for Him in the most simple things.

There are many food plans out there....I've tried most everyone and the only thing that has worked for me is a very simple and very "narrow road" way of eating called paleo/neandrathin which is a variation of low carb.
If you want details let me know. I've been fat since I was a child and struggled my entire adult life w/weight issues. I've been more disciplined than most thin people I know in my eating habits, but just really needed to find the right thing for my particular body and FINALLY at the age of 53 I've hit on it. What a relief! I'm not a normal size YET but I'm getting there and I'm eating healthy and feeling great. My food plan is so simple its a no brainer so it is easier for me to eat the right foods than if I gave myself a lot of wiggle room. For me more choices means more temptation. For me no choice means more temptation. So this is a good balanced program...All healthy food all the time. LOL. And it removes foods that are "trigger foods" for me to overeat and also foods that I seem to have intolerances to that pack on the weight.

Just give yourself some time to think about what you want and how you want to get there and stop calling yourself LA ....call yourself a "work in progress" like we all are, whether "heavyweights or lightweights"...pm me if you want to....

btw...theres a song I love. When I first heard it I couldn't sing it w/out crying through most of it because I didn't believe it. Now I do.
This is the song:

I will change your name,
You will no longer be called
Wounded, Outcast, Lonely or Ashamed.

I will change your name
Your new name shall be
Faithfullness, Confidence, Overcoming One,
Joyfullness, Friend of God, One Who Seeks My Face,
One Who Seeks My Face.

Terry

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 27, 2005 3:23 pm

I've just never been able to quite wrap my head around why being overweight should be such a stigma or character issue. As far as the health risks go, it's like any other health risk... if you're a grown-up, it's up to you to address or not. Doesn't affect or harm anybody else. What's the big deal? I actually kinda feel icky about "fat acceptance groups" because although I agree that what size you are shouldn't be an issue, they're makin' a big hairy issue out of it, too.

Just odd to me.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:23 pm

But when it comes right down to it, it is a character issue. There is definitely something different in my character (I am morbidly obese) than the character of a thin person. I obviously care less about my health, I obviously care less about my appearance, and I obviously care less about my children than a person who controls their eating, exercises and works at being healthy. The healthy person is doing what he can so he'll be around for his kids in the future.

I don't know what it is in my character that makes me this way. I love my kids, but I am disgusted with myself that I obviously have not loved them enought to take care of myself for them. I have the ability to do everything in my power to live a long and healthy life, yet for years I consciously chose NOT to live a long and healthy life everytime I ate and didn't exercise. This is the ultimate issue for me and because this is my ultimate issue, I am now in the 2nd month of eating sensibly and trying to exercise and I've lost 25 pounds.

I love my kids and now I'm proving it to them.

LisaRenea · Post by **LisaRenea** » Wed Jul 27, 2005 6:27 pm

Hello everyone,
My name is Lisa, tomorrow I will be 27 years old, I am 5'7 270lbs, pretty scary huh, lol, This is my first time posting so bear with me, I have always been on the heftier side since I was about 13 years old but not always fat, I was always active in school, hung around all the "cool" people, was into sports, (basketball, and softball). I had to drop out of basketball in the 11th grade because I had gotten pregnant with my first son. After I had him I went back to softball for a couple of years and then quit that as well, when I was 21 I had my second son and that is where it all began. I just wasn't motivated to do anything about my weight, I feel that I am a beautiful girl, you know I always get you have such a beautiful face, lol, I had the hot boyfriend that liked bigger girls and liked me the way I was, so I just wasn't worried about it, But now I am disgusted every time I look into the mirror, from the neck down just makes me sick, I still don't look like I weigh almost 300lbs, and nobody knows just by looking at me, but I know and it is driving me crazy, I just graduated nursing school, to become an LPN, and the past year is where 40 of my lbs have came from, if anybody has gone back to school, i am sure they can relate my eating habits are horrible. Well now that school is over I hope to get this weight off and feel better about myself, I am even thinking about getting surgery to help, I am not sure yet! Well now that everyone knows my story, this is what has brought me to this site, Yesterday was my first sleep study apt. come to find out I do have sleep apnea, Im not to familiar with how bad it is because I have not had a chance to talk to the Dr. himself, I just talk to the nurse, she told me that in my REM sleep is when it occurs and that my oxygen fell to 75, that is all I know for right now, my follow up apt. is in Sept. I just wanted to come on here and get some info from not Dr.s but people who are going thru the same thing I am right now! So feel free to write me anytime I wish everyone the best and hopefully we can beat this before it beats us, lol!!!

WAFlowers · Post by **WAFlowers** » Wed Jul 27, 2005 7:28 pm

Lisa, are you aware of the studies the link sleep deprivation with changes in hrormone levels that control appetite. With as little as 2 nights sleep deprivation your body could be telling you that you are 1000 calorires short of what you need; lying to you and saying you are in a famine.

When you were in school were you short of sleep and snacking all the time? If so, there may be a link.

When you start sleeping well (with CPAP?) you could find that you have a reduction in your appetite along with more energy encouraging you to be more active. I hope you find that these will help you to start melting the unwanted pounds off.

I wish you the best of luck (and hope that luck isn't needed). Keep us informed on your progress.

fatso · Post by **fatso** » Wed Jul 27, 2005 7:45 pm

I'm so fat I have my own zip code.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 3:17 pm

Hello Bill,

You are sooo right when it comes to not sleeping and snacking all the time due to school, now I am trying to get out of that habit but it is so hard, cause what many people dont realize is that overeating and eating in general is a serious addiction, that many people do not understand,Thank you so much for you reply it means alot, I just hope that I will be happy with my self again, I used to be on the heftier side but I was always happy with me! I just want to get that confidence back.

LisaRenea · Post by **LisaRenea** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 3:22 pm

Lol, the text below is from me i am new to this and I forgot to sign in, by the way how do you get the smiley's on , when I try clicking on the symbols pop up not smileys??? Thanks again bill for the encouraging words!

LisaRenea · Post by **LisaRenea** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 3:25 pm

lol, oh forgot to mention its my birthday today, woo hooo 27 years old im getting old, lol

WAFlowers · Post by **WAFlowers** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 3:49 pm

27? Gee, that's old. I'm only 25 (in my mind).

OK, I'm really 48; old enough to be your father. But I was comparing notes with my parents (Dad will be 73 next month and Mom is 75) and they agree, they're only 25 inside. Gran (Dad's Mom) passed away shortly before her 99th and used to disparage the "younger folk" in the home that acted old when they were only in their 70's or 80's. She put most of them to shame with how active she was despite being stuck in a wheel chair because arthritis had destroyed her knees.

You (and even I) still have a long way to go.

Oh, and congratulations on your birthday.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 6:52 pm

Anonymous wrote:But when it comes right down to it, it is a character issue. There is definitely something different in my character (I am morbidly obese) than the character of a thin person. I obviously care less about my health, I obviously care less about my appearance, and I obviously care less about my children than a person who controls their eating, exercises and works at being healthy. The healthy person is doing what he can so he'll be around for his kids in the future.
Power

That's squirrely logic for justifying weight being an issue for anyone but yourself, and I don't buy into it. If you buy into that, you'll also have to buy into:

1. People who fly private planes, go rock climbing, go skiing, or do any other kind of risky activity they enjoy are less virtuous than those who don't, because it endangers their health. If your very life isn't your health, I don't know what is.

2. People who have unappealing features or any kind of cosmetic flaw are morally obligated to do what they have to do in order to get plastic surgery, because being what others consider "attractive" is more virtuous than being "unattractive."

3. Anyone who has children with someone who has a family history of cancer or other predisposition to illness is less virtuous than those who mate with better genetic models. In fact, by that logic, it's kind of selfish not to give your child the most attractive genetic makeup they can have, as well, and you should never reproduce with anyone society doesn't deem "hot." And if you yourself aren't "hot," you shouldn't reproduce, either.

I judge virtue in others by how they care about the planet, how much they actually think about their actions, how much they try to develop their intelligence and higher faculties, their sense of humor, how kindly they treat others, how creative they are, and generally the vibe they create around them. Anything else is their own dadgummed business.

I can understand not being satisfied with your own appearance and your health, but if you take on that odd societal albatross of skewing character to cover things it finds visually appealing, not only are you setting yourself up to be so unhappy you'll despise yourself enough to self-sabatoge yourself, but you're buying into superficiality itself. You're more likely to lose your soul than lose weight. I think, anyway.

You're allowed to disagree. I don't mind. I just thought I'd share my take on things. There are more of us (of every size) than you think. And we're more fun (and I think brighter) than the unwashed masses buying into the Cosmo Quiz pop quiz psychology of today. So there.

I bet when it's not such a big deal to you, losing weight will be no big deal, too. You'll lose it in your own time when you're ready. Because, really, doing risky things stops being such a rush when its a bore.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 7:09 pm

You know how some people say that in every fat person there's a skinny person fighting to get out?

My skinny person is really comfy. He's very happy, enjoys the food, and likes TiVO a LOT.

CandyADiva · Post by **CandyADiva** » Thu Jul 28, 2005 8:57 pm

Well I'm 224 and I'm happy with my weight I dont look like I weight this much but I do. But my doc said I'm over weight and losing some pounds wont hurt me and I know he is right but my husband loves me the way I am.

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