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[AdmiralCougar]

Christy, I think that's a fair rant.

In my estimation, Gamers and Non-Gamers get along about as well as Jehovah's Witnesses and Non-Christians, for the most part.

I think I definitely fall into the Non-Gamer crowd, but I try to be inclusive of my Gaming friends. I just prefer they don't bring me into their games. Just like I prefer my Christian friends to leave me out of their Church.

I'm sure no one meant this to be a rant on anyone on this forum who games. It has just been a thread peopled with non-gamers. We feel free to express ourselves here, in what we perceive as a safe place.

Please don't feel personally attacked. It certainly in no way was intended that way.

You're right - there are some very intelligent, very interesting Gamers on this planet. Is there a word in your community for the slacker drinking cheap beer through a straw who'd rather game than have a date with a real live human? Maybe we could use that term instead of "Gamer" as our derogatory word.

Huggers,
Barbara

'gles Babs I know I tried not to take it personally it just comes to a point where something felt like it had to be said. My husband actually asked why I hadn't said something earlier. I told him because I know no one here means to offend anyone or hurt anyone's feelings. I don't expect anyone to understand why we like to spend time Gaming, but respect us for who we are as people and not generalized as a group. It's the same thing that happens with any type of generalizations like Blonds, Fat People, Races, Sexual Preferences... etc.

As for a word we use I can't think of anything off the top of my head but I can ask my D&D group tomorrow when we meet... It might just turn into a fun brainstorm session...

Christy

[scenestealer]

Wow (pun intended), I'm really sorry that what was supposed to be a random aside came off as anti-gaming. Not my intention at all. In fact, that this particular girl was into WoW was kind of cute to me, since I like dorky. So I'm sorry that that offended. Didn't mean there to be a value judgement either way.

What I MEANT was that I couldn't relate to the beer-thru-a-straw, ignoring me date, and my only point of reference was a girl who played WoW, who I dated for like a week, and in an unrelated development, turned out to be insane.

I've spent many a night sitting around while my friends played Halo. I spent one of my friend's last birthday down at the video game rental place killing zombies, so...

Again, sorry about that.

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[AdmiralCougar]

Scenestealer, it totally wasn't just you it was just through the whole thread seemed to be negative towards Gamers in General. I just wanted to point out that there may be bad seeds in every group but that doesn't make generalizing the whole so acceptable.

Everyone we are totally cool ok don't feel like I have hard feelings for anyone. We're all one big family here and we are always learning from each other. Everyone needs to feel like they can share I totally agree with Babs this is on open safe environment. I just felt it was time I shared too.

Christy

[j.a.taylor]

So basically, I'm surrounded by boring, immature guys; and women who will settle for whatever they can get, just so they don't have to be alone. And since I have a low tolerance for being treated like crap, I'm probably out of luck. I'm also really independent and opinionated, which usually doesn't seem to go over well. Also, no matter what age the guys I meet are, they all seem to prefer the 21-year old Barbie doll types, which I am not. The fact that I'll be 27 on Friday probably puts me past my expiration date . . .

Amanda,

You may feel like it, but you're not past your expiration date. There is a man out there that will accept you for who you are, challenge you to be your best, and continue to love you even when you fall short (and even when a hose is strapped to your face). Xbox fantasies only last so long, and the little boys have to grow up . . .

Christy,

You're right, the tone of our thread painted with a broad brush.

However, I don't think any of us intended to attack gamers in general. In essence, we were talking about those individuals, who are a part of every group, who refuse to grow up and live in the real world. Be they gamers, computer geeks, bookworms, workaholics, etc. . . .

They're unable to engage in relationships with others, because they're so absorbed in themselves and their activities. And too much self-absorption isn't good for any of us.

Obviously, your gaming activity isn't self-absorbed, but a social-networking activity as well as a personal interest.

Thanks for putting us in check (no offense to our chess players ), pulling us out of our self-absorbed comments, and putting the conversation back on track.

I apologize for my part in the conversation. It's good to be reminded that sometimes even an inadvertent offense still has a sting . . .

I appreciate your graciousness in bringing a smiling correction.

[odawa]

Hello everyone.
I tried the online dating thing, and there are just horrible people out there. From what I've found all they want is to play, and not commit at all.
I joined a group. The Tip toppers of Detroit, its a social group for tall people and I've met the most awesome man, he is wonderfully supportive. The group does different social events just about every week. It's a part of the tall clubs international and they have parties in different parts of the country. My suggestion is that sometimes internet shopping is not a good thing and you have to actually get out and meet someone. Try joining a club, Church or something, have a good attitude and good luck.

[lilsheba]

It's funny cause this never should have worked out. But I met my boyfriend online, pre internet, this was in the local computer bulletin board days. We started chatting online, and the second time I saw him he ended up moving in with me. It's now been going on 15 years.

That is not the way I would advise meeting someone but it did happen to work for me.

[SisterShotgun]

I met my husband online in a RV forum

Not bad considering we have many of the same interests and get along great. I am a step-mom to his son and he will be adopting my son here in a year from now..

But that said, not all online dating works..I have a friend who met some major wackos

[Nodzy]

I am pleased that some people do find a comfortable and lasting fit with someone.

Dating? That word alone has a >shudder and tremble effect< on me. But then, I get a hinky feeling when my shadow gets too close.

[lilsheba]

I am pleased that some people do find a comfortable and lasting fit with someone.

Dating? That word alone has a >shudder and tremble effect< on me. But then, I get a hinky feeling when my shadow gets too close.

I'm not surprised at that one!

[Nodzy]

I am pleased that some people do find a comfortable and lasting fit with someone.

Dating? That word alone has a >shudder and tremble effect< on me. But then, I get a hinky feeling when my shadow gets too close.

I'm not surprised at that one!

lilsheba,

Congratulations. Most guys have socks that last 15-years or longer, but not too many have a mate that makes it that far and remains as comfortable as the old socks. You are obviously good for each other.

You're not surprised? Hmmm... I didn't know we had met before. Or is it that I convey a small hint of skepticism about mating? Possibly, I admit.

It's really not too complicated -- I just doubt that the right mate for me exists, or is single and ready, or will cross my path and be interested... and can quickly get my interest, or even my attention. Too, it's not like I've been holding auditions, or hunting for the lass.

I spend far more time dodging the hoochies and desperate divas than I do fantasizing about having a life paired in something far better than hit-or-miss tolerance. Oh well… I figure that a Lotto win and having a great mate are about even odds, and I do plan on hitting the Lotto.

Nodzy

[lilsheba]

Nodzy...you have displayed a small hint of skepticism in finding a mate yet

But that's ok....and while I'm lucky in my situation I wouldn't be unhappy if I was alone. I love being alone, and being able to do what I want and have things left the way I want....

The good thing is you have time to explore yourself and do things you want to do. Explore hobbies. Or read endlessly on this forum since we all seem to hang out here on a regular basis

[amandalee]

Amandalee, you know if you weren't so darn far away, I'd say I had a solution for both of us, because you're totally a cutie.

Thanks!

And frankly, I have a lot of the same problems with the women in my area that you have with men in yours. ..... seem to be as intellectually curious, or as driven to do something more with their lives as I am. I'm lucky to have a great group of friends, many of whom spend their free time doing really impressive things (most of my friends are artists, musicians, filmmakers, or some combination thereof). So I don't lack intellectual stimulation.
Wanting more from life just tends to make you more picky. People who expect less also expect less from their mate - surprise, surprise. They also have a lot more people to pick from, because the world is filled with people who are trying to fit in. When you're proud of your own individuality, you put yourself (and therefore your potential mates) into a much smaller group. But it's not like you can, short of brain damage, change that. Nor should you want to. Even if being excessively smart seems to be a negative evolutionary trait (meaning it makes you LESS likely to have offspring).

Great post. You totally nailed it. I meet very few people who seem really interested in learning/trying something new, or doing anything other than what they always do.

[Nodzy]

That fragrance.... is it really PAPpy Luv at first quote? I really like this board...PAP tech city, woes village, success towers, tangled hoses... and flagrant blush lines.... it's so interesting.

[Nodzy]

Nodzy...you have displayed a small hint of skepticism in finding a mate yet

But that's ok....and while I'm lucky in my situation I wouldn't be unhappy if I was alone. I love being alone, and being able to do what I want and have things left the way I want....

The good thing is you have time to explore yourself and do things you want to do. Explore hobbies. Or read endlessly on this forum since we all seem to hang out here on a regular basis

lilsheba,

You are right... but being alone, whether by choice, happenstance or a combination of both or more.... leaves many an amorous thought without a tangible home. I won’t belabor the advantages you mentioned or the others… but in a great union even those things can fit in mutually respectful moderation.

Nodzy

[Babette]

Nodzy, if you keep dodging the Hoochies, I'll never manage to hit you.

Sorry, couldn't resist.

I've met some really interesting wonderful people on the internet. None of them turned into lasting relationships. Most of them ended up rejecting me. The last one, I seriously got the impression he was so hurt by previous relationships, he was pre-rejecting me to avoid his own rejection. He came crawling back a few months later, but I was so hurt, I lashed back at him even worse. It's still an embarrassing, painful period to me. I think about him everytime I drive past his house to go to a grocery store I particularly like. We had such great chemistry when we weren't being defensive...

Ah well. Things happen. Perhaps he is a lesson to me to not be so self-protective myself.

I've also met my share of crazy weirdos. And lots of men who I describe as "DS" - Deservedly Single. I've found lately that the interesting ones tend to come in packages I would not ordinarily look twice at. One thing about internet dating is you can feel safe to tell each other things you'd feel shy about saying on a regular date. You can become far more intimate far quicker. And you can also ascertain negatives and conflicts far faster.

And you can be lied to far easier. I am particularly stupid about men lying to me online. A group of my friends were so shocked that I fell prey to one of our number they knew to be.... Hmmmm... A Drunken Lazy Slacker? I met him online. I fell prey to his pretty words. They were equally shocked that I swore he was incredible in bed. All were true. I finally had to give him up. The best sex in the world couldn't compete with his vices. I spent many years in shame avoiding those friends. They seem to be compassionate and willing to take me back, weaknesses and all. I may even go visit them in a few weeks.

I still say life would be so much easier if I could just have my sex drive removed.

Cheers,
B.