Sex and the CPAPer - Newbies, please ignore!

[lifeartist]

Well, its good to know I am not alone with this part of cpap too. I understand all the people here who say they feel the mask, hose etc hinders their love life. I have been married 30 years so I've been through the low times and highs too. I do feel that if we are "in the mood" the mask is gone. I don't worry about if I have to take it off, or not put it on. I have dealt with a lot feelings about not being sexy, so I decided right away to NOT let this cpap use be another obstacle to our love life. This comes from being a breast cancer survivor, so you can see why I say I've dealt with bigger issues of feeling unsexy. I think we make up for it in variety/creativity though......

[admiralross]

Hello All!

It's been a while since I've been on here. I hope everyone is well.

My wife works & goes to school. After she comes home most of the time she is tired. I work from home and take care of things here. I attempt to do all I can assist in the home so it's less she has to do. Most of the time we get to sex on Friday night Saturday mornings. I'm ok with that. I wish it was more often but I understand we both need to be in the mood at the same time. Lately what I've been doing is setting a time go out to the hotel for the night or the weekend. Yeah it maybe a lot of money but sometimes it worth it to get away. Leave all of the distractions of home (kids, dogs, computers) The machine comes along. But we don't dwell on it that it's there and in the way. We just are grateful for the time we have ALONE. We can do what ever we want how we want. Make all the noise and not worry about the kids hearing it all.

I hope things work out & good luck,

[Guest]

I tried that. Took the ex-BF to a hotel. He spent several hours trying to get the "free wi fi" connection to work. I finally hollered "We're here to have hotel sex! Get a clue!!!" He asked - not looking up from his laptop - what is hotel sex? I answered - you get to make all the noise you want without worrying about the neighbors or the dog. He kept typing.

Glad it's working for somebody else!!!!

LOL,
B.

[admiralross]

I tried that. Took the ex-BF to a hotel. He spent several hours trying to get the "free wi fi" connection to work. I finally hollered "We're here to have hotel sex! Get a clue!!!" He asked - not looking up from his laptop - what is hotel sex? I answered - you get to make all the noise you want without worrying about the neighbors or the dog. He kept typing.

Glad it's working for somebody else!!!!

LOL,
B.

Don't get me wrong. I do have my laptop. But I have better things to play with

[Empis]

Congratulations admiralross for think like that, I bet you wife feels lucky to have you as a husband, I wish my husband can think like that, its true that somebody else said before that whenever you have little kids around things changes a lot.....and sometimes things go downhill... and now I am affraid that my relationship become bad, I am using the machine almost 2 weeks while my husband went in a business trip, he knew that I was taking the sleep test and that I was fixing to get the machine, but I don't know how is going to be his reaction after see me with the mask whenever he comes back (2 more weeks). I am affraid

[admiralross]

Congratulations admiralross for think like that, I bet you wife feels lucky to have you as a husband, I wish my husband can think like that, its true that somebody else said before that whenever you have little kids around things changes a lot.....and sometimes things go downhill... and now I am affraid that my relationship become bad, I am using the machine almost 2 weeks while my husband went in a business trip, he knew that I was taking the sleep test and that I was fixing to get the machine, but I don't know how is going to be his reaction after see me with the mask whenever he comes back (2 more weeks). I am affraid

I can't take all of the credit our marriage has it ups and downs for almost 10 yrs. Sex has been a part of it. But you try to learn from your mistakes. If not then you are doomed to repeat them. Don't make assumptions til you see his reaction. What is more important my health or your selfishness? It's your health we are talking about here. People have to start having an open mind and kick their selfishness to the curb. Until then people will always have problems. Sure everyone has wants/desires. We are humans and we love sex. It's something we gotta have. However, we have to meet in the middle/compromise. If not we're in trouble.

Over all. Prayer is key. I don't know if you believe but I do. Through him all things are possible.

[admiralross]

He spent several hours trying to get the "free wi fi" connection to work.

Forgot to mention. Wi-fi connection, no problem. I was @ a Super 8 once. Once everything was said & done. I was able to get into their network and look around. All in 5 mins.... That hotel sucked in more ways then one. That was a disappointment. I called Corp. and complained like hell!

[Woody]

If you and your partner both have full face mask on you won't have to
waste all that time on forplay or wonder if your bad breath may spoil the
experience! On the other hand it might be kind of hard to have that after
sex cigeret while having a full face mask on!

[Blackneto]

I've been trying to get my wife to bump uglies while I'm wearing the mask but she keeps evading me.
every time i roll over and give her a nudge, first thing out of her mouth is "Take off the mask" - I suppose thats fair. But how am i going to live out my Darth Vader fantasy of saying through the mask "I am your Father, I am your Father, I am your Father" (as opposed to "who's your daddy)

But somehow I think she knows thats what I have in mind...

but all humor aside, that part of our life hasn't diminished after 4 kids and 14 years. Despite health problems on her side and now mine.

[Guest]

Black, are you sure that's all it is? Are you SURE you didn't mention she buy a gold lame bikini and put her hair up in buns?

LOL,
Babs

[Guest]

BTW, on a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT NOTE, I'm taking a poll here. Am I the only woman in the world who is completely squicked out by the phrase "Who'se your Daddy?" and hates to be called "little girl" and REFUSES to answer with the "Oh Poppy!" expected reply????

Serious pedophile overtones for me. Just can't go there....
Babs

[danmc]

I tried that. Took the ex-BF to a hotel. He spent several hours trying to get the "free wi fi" connection to work. I finally hollered "We're here to have hotel sex! Get a clue!!!" He asked - not looking up from his laptop - what is hotel sex? I answered - you get to make all the noise you want without worrying about the neighbors or the dog. He kept typing.

Glad it's working for somebody else!!!!

LOL,
B.

So...did he get the wifi though?...

[danmc]

Yeh I agree on the whole "daddy" and little girl thing - creeps me out and I'm a bloke. It's probably relatively harmless, more of a naughty thing to do than pedo overtones maybe?

[Guest]

Dan - I'm sure he did. I'm sure I lost interest in it, however, and kicked him to the curb eventually.

And, well, now that you put it that way, okay, maybe I'm just too thin skinned in that area. It's a safe way to be naughty. Okay, I can understand that. But can't we play firefighter and naughty nurse instead?

LOL,
Babs

[danmc]

Well, my partner actually is a registered nurse (not working as one now though so no sexy uniform coming home) and I have a...ahem..."fireman" I suppose...

But getting back to the wifi..maybe he was trying to google "hotel sex" :p