Well, I had a "first date" this weekend. It's a guy I've known for almost 2 years and we just hadn't been able to "schedule" a date. But this past Saturday we took a really long ride on his Harley to go get something to eat. Since I'm in my 40's and he's in his 50's we began joking about health issues. I told him about my cpap and mask and his reaction was pretty cool.....as long as I'm staying healthy because of it, it was cool with him. Then he mentioned that if we did get serious and decided to go on an overnight trip on his bike, he'd make sure he had saddlebags big enough for my machine!
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Oh Echo you just made my day. I so needed that laugh.echo wrote:Now you have the best pick up line in the world man!
...saunters up to cute looking girl at a bar: Hi there cutie, ya ever done it with a MACHINE MAN before? It'll BLOW you AWAY
I've yet to receive my machine, but I know my husband is looking forward to it.... He looks forward to not being woken up about 10 or so times a night, or having to fall asleep first because I snore so loud. He has repeatedly said he wished the machine would also fix my Claustrophobia so that I could sleep with the light off too. I also think he looks forward to a winter where the window isn't full open with a fan blowing at the head of the bed. I have to do this to feel like I can breath even when it's literally freezing outside... The colder the air the better. I on the other hand am seriously going to miss cuddling up behind holding him and kissing his shoulder as we fall asleep, because I just can't see me being able to do that anymore with a hose attached to my head... .
Oh and Jeanne I seem to be having a problem staying logged in myself.
Admiral Cougar
Hey Cougar... Kiss with your hands.
With my current mask, I could totally cuddle either direction. In fact, I can use my lips. neener neener noo noo... But it would be difficult and involve smooshing the mask uncomfortably.
But hands are nice. You being there and being alive will be even nicer.
And do report if you can stop the fan and open window. If so, I'm going to present this to my most recent ex-boyfriend as "evidence" he might POSSIBLY have OSA himself... Can't believe that man insisted I sleep in a freezing cold bedroom with the window open so he could be comfortable... Then would stay up 3 hours past MY bedtime foofing on the computer while I whimpered and begged him to come to bed and keep me warm! Now you know why I made him get his own place!
LOL,
B.
With my current mask, I could totally cuddle either direction. In fact, I can use my lips. neener neener noo noo... But it would be difficult and involve smooshing the mask uncomfortably.
But hands are nice. You being there and being alive will be even nicer.
And do report if you can stop the fan and open window. If so, I'm going to present this to my most recent ex-boyfriend as "evidence" he might POSSIBLY have OSA himself... Can't believe that man insisted I sleep in a freezing cold bedroom with the window open so he could be comfortable... Then would stay up 3 hours past MY bedtime foofing on the computer while I whimpered and begged him to come to bed and keep me warm! Now you know why I made him get his own place!
LOL,
B.
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AdmiralCougar
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Yeah I know though I can still miss it... And about the hands, I've er tried that, but he quite finds it distracting to falling asleep.Babette wrote:Hey Cougar... Kiss with your hands.
With my current mask, I could totally cuddle either direction. In fact, I can use my lips. neener neener noo noo... But it would be difficult and involve smooshing the mask uncomfortably.
But hands are nice. You being there and being alive will be even nicer.
Well I can say that I was amazed during my sleep study seeing as after the first 3 hours of horrible sleep I was put on a machine and slept for nearly 11 hours it was warm enough that the air condition came on occasionally but not like how I run it at home, so I can only assume it will continue like that when I can begin treatment at home.Babette wrote: And do report if you can stop the fan and open window. If so, I'm going to present this to my most recent ex-boyfriend as "evidence" he might POSSIBLY have OSA himself... Can't believe that man insisted I sleep in a freezing cold bedroom with the window open so he could be comfortable... Then would stay up 3 hours past MY bedtime foofing on the computer while I whimpered and begged him to come to bed and keep me warm! Now you know why I made him get his own place!
LOL,
B.
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I've been thinking about this subject a lot. I got diagnosed three months ago, and was single at the time, and I've been REALLY worried about adding yet another hindrance to dating. I live in a fairly small town, and the pickin's are already pretty slim (at least those that line up with my weird taste and odd combination of traits), and my experience in dating the last several years is that even a lot of otherwise great women have been skittish woodland creatures at the beginning: spooked easily by the tiniest things, and off they run.
So now I have to tell them: "Well, I guess you can stay over, but I have this damned machine..."?!?!?!
The thing I've been thinking though, and this is really enforced by that HUGE PIMPLE story earlier in this thread (I mean, do teenage girls not understand how much teenage boys will get past to see a live, female bottom?) is that everyone has some sort of cross to bear, and everyone seems to think their cross is the only one, or is too much for someone else to deal with. I have lots of friends who are single parents who have a hard time dating because of it (enough of them that you'd think they'd just get it over with and date each other). I have several friends with debilitating intestinal problems and one with Lupus - funny the secrets people start telling when you open up about your own medical issues, and funny how everyone seemed to think they were the only one and everyone else was doing better than them.
And at least I don't have something that's contagious or incurable. Herpes anyone? Try dating with THAT as the thing you have to admit. So it could be a lot worse.
The other thing I've been thinking is that, for better or worse I only have two choices: be tired all the time, or be the Machine Man. I've actually had one woman I dated in the last year (right before getting diagnosed) tell me she wasn't sure if she could sign up for being with someone who was exhausted all the time - which I actually think is totally legitimate, unfortunately. And I've often consciously avoided dating because I was so tired at that point that I wasn't sure I'd be able to go on a second date within a reasonable amount of time. There have been several times when I started dating someone (before being diagnosed) and in the thrill of initial dating we stayed up super late for many, many nights in a row, and then I'd get so exhausted that I could barely go to work for a week. At that point they'd get all worried that I wasn't that into them after all, and I would have to come clean with them about my health problems (at the time, my doc was calling it Chronic Fatigue).
I still look at the personals ads and when I see someone listing that they want someone who is "active" to go kayaking or hiking with them or whatever, I skip to the next one. Same with "into travel" or "high energy" or even "positive" or "optimistic". Those aren't things I can promise yet. I'm hoping once I get this therapy working (overcoming my sinus issues), those things will come back to me.
I'm also hoping it will be easier to lose weight (4 lbs in the last week, even WITH struggling with my sinuses), which will at least increase my market value.
And if nothing else, as one of my female friends said: "Just make sure you have sex during the day." Maybe I need to hang out with HER more often...
So now I have to tell them: "Well, I guess you can stay over, but I have this damned machine..."?!?!?!
The thing I've been thinking though, and this is really enforced by that HUGE PIMPLE story earlier in this thread (I mean, do teenage girls not understand how much teenage boys will get past to see a live, female bottom?) is that everyone has some sort of cross to bear, and everyone seems to think their cross is the only one, or is too much for someone else to deal with. I have lots of friends who are single parents who have a hard time dating because of it (enough of them that you'd think they'd just get it over with and date each other). I have several friends with debilitating intestinal problems and one with Lupus - funny the secrets people start telling when you open up about your own medical issues, and funny how everyone seemed to think they were the only one and everyone else was doing better than them.
And at least I don't have something that's contagious or incurable. Herpes anyone? Try dating with THAT as the thing you have to admit. So it could be a lot worse.
The other thing I've been thinking is that, for better or worse I only have two choices: be tired all the time, or be the Machine Man. I've actually had one woman I dated in the last year (right before getting diagnosed) tell me she wasn't sure if she could sign up for being with someone who was exhausted all the time - which I actually think is totally legitimate, unfortunately. And I've often consciously avoided dating because I was so tired at that point that I wasn't sure I'd be able to go on a second date within a reasonable amount of time. There have been several times when I started dating someone (before being diagnosed) and in the thrill of initial dating we stayed up super late for many, many nights in a row, and then I'd get so exhausted that I could barely go to work for a week. At that point they'd get all worried that I wasn't that into them after all, and I would have to come clean with them about my health problems (at the time, my doc was calling it Chronic Fatigue).
I still look at the personals ads and when I see someone listing that they want someone who is "active" to go kayaking or hiking with them or whatever, I skip to the next one. Same with "into travel" or "high energy" or even "positive" or "optimistic". Those aren't things I can promise yet. I'm hoping once I get this therapy working (overcoming my sinus issues), those things will come back to me.
I'm also hoping it will be easier to lose weight (4 lbs in the last week, even WITH struggling with my sinuses), which will at least increase my market value.
And if nothing else, as one of my female friends said: "Just make sure you have sex during the day." Maybe I need to hang out with HER more often...
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That wasn't your real name?!!! No wonder I kept getting Luigi's Pizza when I called that number.Babette wrote:[One night at the Motel 6 maybe, but I definitely wouldn't give him my real name or phone number.
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That's ah-numbah twenty six. Ah-ten minutes!TWolf wrote: That wasn't your real name?!!! No wonder I kept getting Luigi's Pizza when I called that number.
TW
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And if nothing else, as one of my female friends said: "Just make sure you have sex during the day." Maybe I need to hang out with HER more often...
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WAFFLES!!!!!!!!!!!
Heh heh heh!
Okay, now that the private joke is over.... (ANYTHING for you, BS!)
Several people on this forum have mentioned starting a cpap dating thread. Where we can date each other. I am personally so TIRED of internet dating, I can't wake up for it (I used to say "get it up" for it, but I got too many nasty comments....).
I've been single since diagnosis. My sorta-ex boyfriend and I haven't slept together since I've gotten the machine. He's tried, for other reasons, I haven't bit. I'm going on a trip in November, to see some old friends I haven't seen for awhile at a big historical reenactment. At least one ex-boyfriend will be there. And I know at least one other man there who has made it clear he wants me, warts and all. And I suspect two more horndogs would take me, hoses or no hoses, butt pimples and all. Do I want them? I dunno. Give me a few more weeks of therapy, maybe I can wake up for it. If they keep up this level of email barragement, they may wear me down...
I think in some respects, women DO need to get to the realization that men would... uh... F _ _ _ .... uh... "sleep with" rocks, but would prefer a warm breathing body. Most of them would settle for sex with a hosehead if it was offered. Long term relationship? Maybe not. Those seeking the ACTIVE ENGERGETIC KAYAKING BARBIE ain't gonna get past an initial visual scan of me ANYWAY, so I'm not REAL WORRIED about confessing a cpap addiction.
As for me - I've dated a hosehead, very casually (i.e., it was just sex), and had no problem with his hose. I know there are other women out there who feel the same way. I DO WHINE ABOUT DATING OLDER, MEDICALLY INFIRM MEN. CPAP, in my humble opinion, isn't even on the LIST of things I'd really prefer NOT to have to deal with again. Now, I have also complained about dating the chronically fatigued. Since I'm now one of them, I think my complaints are fewer in that arena.
List of things I really don't want to deal with anymore:
Baby Mamma Drama - particularly when the children are fully grown and have children of their own. I mean - COME ON! Figure out how to get over your ex and get her over you!!!!
Recreational Drug/Alcohol Addiction that is more important to you than spending time with me.
Prostate problems that you blame on my weight.
I've worked around alot of things. I've compromised/surpressed my own political/religious views because my hormones convinced me that I WAS IN LOVE with a particular moronic Republican Right Wing Religious Zealot. I've done that several times. I'm really hoping I'm over that particular self-loathing phase of my life...
I guess what I'm trying to say is, looking for love on the internet and in the personals is just a huge waste of time. I recommend meeting people in your current life. If they aren't there right now, you need to contemplate adjusting your activity schedule, or just be patient. Having SOMETHING in common with someone, other than sex, gives you much more to talk about when vertical.
Or pre-book a room at the Motel Six in the next town and remember to only give out the phone number for the WAFFLE HOUSE when cruising the bars!
Sorry, thanks for listening to my ramblings. Not that I have an answer for myself or anyone else.
LOL,
Barbara/Babette
Heh heh heh!
Okay, now that the private joke is over.... (ANYTHING for you, BS!)
Several people on this forum have mentioned starting a cpap dating thread. Where we can date each other. I am personally so TIRED of internet dating, I can't wake up for it (I used to say "get it up" for it, but I got too many nasty comments....).
I've been single since diagnosis. My sorta-ex boyfriend and I haven't slept together since I've gotten the machine. He's tried, for other reasons, I haven't bit. I'm going on a trip in November, to see some old friends I haven't seen for awhile at a big historical reenactment. At least one ex-boyfriend will be there. And I know at least one other man there who has made it clear he wants me, warts and all. And I suspect two more horndogs would take me, hoses or no hoses, butt pimples and all. Do I want them? I dunno. Give me a few more weeks of therapy, maybe I can wake up for it. If they keep up this level of email barragement, they may wear me down...
I think in some respects, women DO need to get to the realization that men would... uh... F _ _ _ .... uh... "sleep with" rocks, but would prefer a warm breathing body. Most of them would settle for sex with a hosehead if it was offered. Long term relationship? Maybe not. Those seeking the ACTIVE ENGERGETIC KAYAKING BARBIE ain't gonna get past an initial visual scan of me ANYWAY, so I'm not REAL WORRIED about confessing a cpap addiction.
As for me - I've dated a hosehead, very casually (i.e., it was just sex), and had no problem with his hose. I know there are other women out there who feel the same way. I DO WHINE ABOUT DATING OLDER, MEDICALLY INFIRM MEN. CPAP, in my humble opinion, isn't even on the LIST of things I'd really prefer NOT to have to deal with again. Now, I have also complained about dating the chronically fatigued. Since I'm now one of them, I think my complaints are fewer in that arena.
List of things I really don't want to deal with anymore:
Baby Mamma Drama - particularly when the children are fully grown and have children of their own. I mean - COME ON! Figure out how to get over your ex and get her over you!!!!
Recreational Drug/Alcohol Addiction that is more important to you than spending time with me.
Prostate problems that you blame on my weight.
I've worked around alot of things. I've compromised/surpressed my own political/religious views because my hormones convinced me that I WAS IN LOVE with a particular moronic Republican Right Wing Religious Zealot. I've done that several times. I'm really hoping I'm over that particular self-loathing phase of my life...
I guess what I'm trying to say is, looking for love on the internet and in the personals is just a huge waste of time. I recommend meeting people in your current life. If they aren't there right now, you need to contemplate adjusting your activity schedule, or just be patient. Having SOMETHING in common with someone, other than sex, gives you much more to talk about when vertical.
Or pre-book a room at the Motel Six in the next town and remember to only give out the phone number for the WAFFLE HOUSE when cruising the bars!
Sorry, thanks for listening to my ramblings. Not that I have an answer for myself or anyone else.
LOL,
Barbara/Babette
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Barb I for one think you bring OUT great points.... Be YOURSELF "Say whats on your mind / call it a SPADE and let them deal with YOU!!Anonymous wrote:Prostate problems that you blame on my weight.
I've worked around alot of things. I've compromised/surpressed my own political/religious views because my hormones convinced me that I WAS IN LOVE with a particular moronic Republican Right Wing Religious Zealot. I've done that several times. I'm really hoping I'm over that particular self-loathing phase of my life...
Sorry, thanks for listening to my ramblings. Not that I have an answer for myself or anyone else.
LOL,
Barbara/Babette
P.S. I'm NOT a "moronic Republican Right Wing Religious Zealot" but have meet them...........
I've been married 35 yrs. and this is the second one? No real reason but everybody has somebody out there they can deal with!!!!!
Bert
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So... what would you consider to be the best "dating" mask?
By that I mean the quietest, most unobtrusive mask... something that won't make the more casual overnight partner wonder how the heck he ended up sleeping with an alien or seek refuge from the noise by going to sleep in the bathtub.
As Cher once said in a TV commercial, "I'm not a nun, we all know that..."
same here, and while you didn't know that before, you know it now. I don't plan to be in a commited relationship anytime soon, and I admit I'm still having a lot of trouble dealing with this aspect of OSA treatment. I can talk about all kinds of really personal stuff with no problem, but I'm embarrassed about my CPAP.
By that I mean the quietest, most unobtrusive mask... something that won't make the more casual overnight partner wonder how the heck he ended up sleeping with an alien or seek refuge from the noise by going to sleep in the bathtub.
As Cher once said in a TV commercial, "I'm not a nun, we all know that..."
same here, and while you didn't know that before, you know it now. I don't plan to be in a commited relationship anytime soon, and I admit I'm still having a lot of trouble dealing with this aspect of OSA treatment. I can talk about all kinds of really personal stuff with no problem, but I'm embarrassed about my CPAP.
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I agree with birdshell. My boyfriend is more focused on me wearing the mask than I am. When I'm not sleeping at his house, he calls each night before going to sleep to make sure that I haven't fallen asleep watching tv or reading without my mask. If the person that you're involved with really cares about you, he or she will be much more concerned with your health and safety than whether or not you have to sleep with a mask. No, it's not the most romantic thing (the mask), but it beats the alternative!
My only complaint in the sleeping-together department is that my boyfriend is so attentive to my sleep apnea issues that when we sleep together he wakes up several times during the night to check to make sure I'm okay - especially if he hears a leak or I make a strange sound. I'm the one who ends up feeling bad because I sleep much better with him, yet I know he gets a better night's sleep without me!
My only complaint in the sleeping-together department is that my boyfriend is so attentive to my sleep apnea issues that when we sleep together he wakes up several times during the night to check to make sure I'm okay - especially if he hears a leak or I make a strange sound. I'm the one who ends up feeling bad because I sleep much better with him, yet I know he gets a better night's sleep without me!
Syd
Diagnosed w/severe OSA/CSA on 7/27/06
Untreated AHI @ 52, some OSA, but mostly CSA Started CPAP on 8/01/06
Switched to APAP on 9/01/06, pressure @ 12-16.
Diagnosed w/severe OSA/CSA on 7/27/06
Untreated AHI @ 52, some OSA, but mostly CSA Started CPAP on 8/01/06
Switched to APAP on 9/01/06, pressure @ 12-16.
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NAII. You can see through it, it looks very much like an oxygen cannula, just fatter. You can SORTA kiss through it. And you can position the vents a little bit, so you aren't totally blowing air on your partner.zzzzzz!! wrote:So... what would you consider to be the best "dating" mask?
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