Partners & CPAP: Dating, Sex, & Adapting with Your Partner

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carolyngoodman
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Partners & CPAP: Dating, Sex, & Adapting with Your Partner

Post by carolyngoodman » Sun Jan 10, 2010 9:44 pm

Greetings,

In deciding which article to feature this week, I could not help but see that the CPAP and sex life thread, which was only posted a week ago, has lit a fire under this community.

Montana User said he gets asked about this topic all the time from his patients. We hear this topic brought up often as well. If people do not ask about it directly, there is usually a half joking comment.

I am happy to see how open this community is to talking about this topic and sharing their experience not only about the affect of CPAP therapy on their sex life, but how CPAP therapy affects their relationships in general.

I read along this week as you added to this thread and it also brought up some older ones of people asking how to get their partner to be supportive, or how far along in the dating relationship do people let their perspective partner know about their condition.

The CPAP Wiki already had an article that dealt with CPAP therapy and Partners, however your comments really enhanced this article. This topic is personal and many people have different perspectives on it, so I changed the format of the article a little to adjust to this. The article goes over some major issues:
  • Dating - When do you let your partner know about the CPAP?

    Sex Life - What is the impact of CPAP therapy on your sex life? How do you adjust?

    Finding Support - What do you do when your partner is not supportive?
Look over the article, see if you think it is comprehensive. If you have comments or questions to add, please feel free to edit. Also, if you think there are major elements missing please add them. Too often this topic is laughed off and not directly addressed.

You can read and edit the article here:

wiki/index.php/Partners_and_CPAP

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Re: Partners & CPAP: Dating, Sex, & Adapting with Your Partner

Post by soxfan426 » Sun Jan 17, 2010 6:35 am

My girlfriend broke up with me right after i started cpap. So i guess it was a turn off for her.

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Re: Partners & CPAP: Dating, Sex, & Adapting with Your Partner

Post by allinknots » Sun Jan 17, 2010 2:32 pm

soxfan426 wrote:My girlfriend broke up with me right after i started cpap. So i guess it was a turn off for her.
Wow, Soxfan. I'm guessing others have probably told you this, but it's better you found this out sooner-than-later. She sounds a bit shallow. I'm guessing she has her own issues as well; would she have wanted you to break up with her if she woke up with "bad breath" or "bad hair"? lol, It may be childish, but it would be fun to imagine this conversation, "I'm breaking up with you because your cpap is a turn-off." "That's fine, because your messy bed-head hair and bad morning breath are a turn-off, too." lol

She sounds like she has a bit of growing-up to do. And good-luck to her finding a guy who is absolutely perfect, because Jesus Christ is back up in Heaven.

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