Dealing with elderly patient and bipap

Please read the info that PR gave you and the main pg Announcement... you don't need a 'card reader' as such but I don't know the details, so please read the stuff. And you'd do well to encourage your sister (and self) to at least learn about pressure settings - it's easy, really! Just know that the doctor does not have to do changes - we make our own all the time and can help you just tweak hers a tiny bit (neglible in real terms) to help her get some air going... 4 won't do it, 6 might. I'd take my mask off too if I couldn't breathe!

Doctors often want absolute control, even though they may not be proficient
in how the MACHINE works. [It could be the MONEY]
Doctors are not available at night or on weekends, either.
This forum operates 24/7. And is FREE.
Survival often depends on self-sufficiency--ignore that--and face the consequences.

If the computer you or your sister would be using has an SD card reader, you don’t need one; if not, you do.

Ideally your sister could handle the Sleepyhead/Oscar chores and then either post here herself or email screenshots to you for posting. Plan B might be for her to mail the SD card to you for you to deal with SH/Oscar, though she should have a new SD card ready to pop in the machine while the current one is with you.

1) Will your sister get on board with this forum and post results? Does she see your parents every day? Takes just a minute to download the data onto a laptop, then she can post later when she has a chance. Yes, you do need a card reader, but they're often built in to laptops and computers.

2) Does your mother have dementia? That alone could be the cause of fiddling with the mask. Something to touch and mess with, something that's not usually there (when she's awake). That becomes a whole other issue which pressure has nothing to do with. And although she doesn't want to wake your father, if he could get on board, that would help. Does he know how to assemble it or help her put it on? And even though it has magnets, it will also have velcro, to adjust it, that's where you could sew it once a comfortable position is set. That way she can't disassemble it completely, just take it off with the magnets.

I took care of an "elderly" man without dementia (had other issues) and he got a CPAP. This was long before I got one. I didn't know anything about it besides the instructions I was given. I cleaned it religiously, replaced parts on schedule, everything a good caregiver should do, lol. I always made sure he had it on at bedtime, turned the machine on for him. Rarely would he keep it on all night although occasionally he did, and lo and behold, he felt better those mornings. He mainly took it off to use the bathroom and didn't put it back on. He could put it on by himself, He did every night. Sometimes it just annoyed him so he took it off. Sometimes he was in a bad mood going to bed and he refused it. We caregivers always appreciated when he would wear it so we didn't have to listen to his snoring all night on the baby monitor.

3) The suggestion of having her wear it while watching TV is a good one, actually a lot of people try this in the beginning to get the feel for it. I know she's not a beginner, but it may help.

And I'm sorry you're going thru this. So hard to take care of our parents froma distance, I'm in the same boat.