Should I get up

cpapjack · Post by **cpapjack** » Wed May 24, 2006 2:09 pm

My wife and I had our third child in March. She was wonderful and got up with him at night since she wasn't working her normal job and she doesn't mind it. Well, now that she's back at work, she does mind it, even though she says she doesn't. I got up at nights with out other two children, meaning we would take turns. One night it was my night, the next would be hers and so on. Now, my question is, do I continue to be the nice guy that I am and go back to the every other night feedings or will that disrupt my therapy too much? Looking for honest answers here please. Thanks !!!!

johnnygoodman · Post by **johnnygoodman** » Wed May 24, 2006 2:28 pm

Greetings,

Very interesting question you've got there. Let me go ahead and slap a huge I AM NOT A DOCTOR, THIS IS NOT MEDICAL ADVICE, OR EVEN GOOD ADVICE disclaimer on this.

That said, from what I've heard no one gets any sleep when there are young children in the house to be tended to - apnea or not!

If you have used CPAP therapy to obtain restful sleep and have a month or more under your belt to repay your sleep debt, then I think you are on the hook as a parent and good marriage partner to share that duty.

Again, just my two cents on a toss up question.

Johnny

SuxBeingU · Post by **SuxBeingU** » Wed May 24, 2006 8:27 pm

How much do you get up. Our kids are older but I was never up more than an hour a night. You can still get 5-7 good CPAP hours I would assume. I don't think giving up an hour or 2 to save your marriage and/or keep peace and harmony alive in your house is gonna hurt you.

brasshopper · Post by **brasshopper** » Wed May 24, 2006 10:42 pm

....if you can't do the time.

Offerocker · Post by **Offerocker** » Thu May 25, 2006 12:46 am

IMHO, it is worth everything in the long run for you to sacrifice your sleep time equally with your wife. Your CPAP is for you to get "good" sleep when you do sleep.

apneaicinisrael · Post by **apneaicinisrael** » Thu May 25, 2006 3:06 am

One option is splitting the nights, rather than doing every other. Like, the baby is hers until 3 am, and yours after that, or vice versa. Then you can count on a block of good CPAP sleep.

GOOD LUCK!

I just remember (my youngest is 7 years old, but it wasn't THAT long ago!) the feeling that "we will never sleep a whole night again". But it does pass. Since you have two other kids you know that! And figure that you are getting better quality sleep now than you probably did with your first two.

I have this image of a sleepy father on a rocking chair feeding a baby with his headgear still on but the hose flapping. Hmmm

AII

Offerocker · Post by **Offerocker** » Thu May 25, 2006 5:39 am

[quote="apneaicinisrael"]

I have this image of a sleepy father on a rocking chair feeding a baby with his headgear still on but the hose flapping. Hmmm

Yes, that's quite a picture...poor kid! He'll probably wonder where his "REAL" daddy went! and wonder if he's from Mars!! Hopefully that childhood memory won't stick at that young age.

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