Its working for me

sleepygirl4278 · Post by **sleepygirl4278** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 4:29 pm

I have had a good week with my CPAP. I have to sleep alone though to get a good sleep with it. I am up to 6 hours uninterupted sleep now. I am really trying hard to use it. I guess the honeymoon is over for me and my husband though as I have to sleep in another room to accomplish this task, and my husband says its ok with him because he knows its important for me to sleep. I thank God for his understanding. But one question for you all is how does your CPAP affect your married life?

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 5:17 pm

Usually it's the other way around: once you get a cpap and stop snoring then you move back into the bedroom with your partner.
We were in separate bedrooms until I got the cpap. Now we're back in the same bed again. Hallelujah! Married life has never been better. If my partner chose to spend the rest of our married life in a different bedroom (and not because of raise-the-roof snoring), I'm not so sure how married life would be. I'd sure want to know why.

sleepyred · Post by **sleepyred** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 5:19 pm

My husband now sleeps better since I am sleeping better. He does not mind the low noise of the machine - only thing that bothers him is when I "leak". He just elbows me and life goes on!

Linda3032 · Post by **Linda3032** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 5:26 pm

I never get the elbow anymore - since I quit snoring 3 years ago. My hubby never has to wake me up - pure bliss.

NeurosurgeryNP · Post by **NeurosurgeryNP** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 5:48 pm

Haven't found out yet. I am getting married in September. He actually just went for his first sleep test - so we'll probably be doindg it together.

idahogal · Post by **idahogal** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 5:56 pm

I have to agree with the group. We both sleep much better now and still in the same bed. My husband says he can't even hear the machine at night and he checks my "vent holes" to see if I am still breathing.

Gidgie · Post by **Gidgie** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 5:59 pm

I've long forgotten what it's like.......I sleep........perchance to dream?......

krousseau · Post by **krousseau** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 6:15 pm

It sounds like it is you who is needing to sleep alone. Sleep can be very tenuous when starting CPAP-it can seem like one more thing (like a partner moving in bed) will tip the balance. Get your bed time together before you are ready to go to sleep. Make sure your husband knows how you are managing your sleep right now-the difficulty you have-and any insecurity around sleeping alone. Is there a sleep/CPAP group you can go to. There are a lot of sleep tips online-someone post a list here recently-Talk About Sleep http://www.talkaboutsleep.com also has a good insomnia article.

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Brent Hutto · Post by **Brent Hutto** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 6:32 pm

Gidgie wrote:I've long forgotten what it's like.......I sleep........perchance to dream?......

One must always be careful when taking Shakespeare out of context.

To be, or not to be,--that is the question:--
Whether 'tis nobler in the mind to suffer
The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune
Or to take arms against a sea of troubles,
And by opposing end them?--To die,--to sleep,--
No more; and by a sleep to say we end
The heartache, and the thousand natural shocks
That flesh is heir to,--'tis a consummation
Devoutly to be wish'd. To die,--to sleep;--
To sleep! perchance to dream:--ay, there's the rub;
For in that sleep of death what dreams may come,
When we have shuffled off this mortal coil,
Must give us pause: there's the respect
That makes calamity of so long life;

Gidgie · Post by **Gidgie** » Mon Mar 27, 2006 9:52 pm

Do not be too sure, friend Brent that I was taking the Bard out of context.......Sometimes life can be miserable enough to wish for a better existence.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 28, 2006 12:36 am

Gidgie wrote:Do not be too sure, friend Brent that I was taking the Bard out of context.......Sometimes life can be miserable enough to wish for a better existence.

A better existence, yes. Non-existence, no.

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Tue Mar 28, 2006 6:18 am

Good topic! Very useful

luvmykatz · Post by **luvmykatz** » Tue Mar 28, 2006 12:17 pm

Sleepeygirl--I started on CPAP the middle of February. I was really worried about the noise, but it doesn't bother my husband at all. I am more likely to wake him up if I adjust my mask during the night and it "honks" or whistles--finding the Activa mask has helped that. I had the wrong mask and it didn't fit and seal well so now I am doing well. The whole darth vader look isn't too attractive. My husband tried not to laugh the first night but finally gave in. I was glad--laughter is a better response than horror! We've been married 30 years. Now I admit the middle-of-the-night spontaneity has taken a vacation but I think it will be back as I am starting to get much more accustomed to this new way of life. Give it time. Once you are relaxed and used to this new nightlife you will find ways of being spontaneous again. My husband still reaches out for me during the night which makes me very happy! Using CPAP takes adjustments but you will both find way to make the necessary adjustments. My husband has always slept with a portable radio and headphones listening to music or talk radio while going to sleep so maybe that is why the machine doesn't bother him! It is worth trying different things so you can get your husband back into bed with you! Now, I'm sure there are those who find the separate bed route works for them but for us we have chosen to stay together. Good luck!

Snoozin' Bluezzz · Post by **Snoozin' Bluezzz** » Tue Mar 28, 2006 1:31 pm

Gidgie - the Bard is dead, IMHO you get to use his words however you choose and have them mean whatever you wish them to mean. You can even quote them out of context if you wish! Again, that is just my opinion.

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