Just saying "HI!" and looking for a hug...

GumbyCT · Post by **GumbyCT** » Wed May 28, 2008 8:21 am

Hugs GF,
we watched my mom go the very same way. With animals we can do something so they don't suffer but for people, we can do nothing more than make the comfortable, strange.

I remember telling my mom - We have a lifetime to prepare, for the inevitable - Somehow a lifetime doesn't seem long enough.
Hugs....

ozij · Post by **ozij** » Wed May 28, 2008 8:45 am

I'm thinking of you Cindy.
O.

Hawthorne · Post by **Hawthorne** » Wed May 28, 2008 8:53 am

You're in my thoughts and prayers, Cindy. You have some wonderful memories to help you through this and to keep him with you always!

sharon1965 · Post by **sharon1965** » Wed May 28, 2008 9:11 am

cindy,

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((cindy)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))

sending all the hugs you can stand,
sharon

preemiern · Post by **preemiern** » Wed May 28, 2008 10:40 am

I just wnat to thank you all for your outpouring of love and support. I knew I could come here and find the care of old friends who I met when I first came to this board, as well as care from new friends who I am just beginning to meet here. All of the care and support is so much appreciated. I feel like I have a piece of home with me here in this board.
PawPaw is still with us, but just barely. he does still open his eyes when we talk to him, and I believe he knows he surrounded by all of us who love him. it means so much that we are able to keep him home with us right until he steps into the next part of his journey. and while his journey here with us is ending, I know that the journey for him is just beginning in a new and better place.
I have to say--I would rather go this grief and sadness now than to have never known our PawPawand escape the sadness of his leaving. he has been a good PawPaw, and I am grateful for the chance to continue to tell him that.
Before he became too sick, he also got to meet my grandbabies--they are his first great grandchildren...and while the babies won't remember meeting PawPaw, I know he takes his memories of them with him.
Again--I want to say THANK YOU to all of you for your care, support and kind thoughts...it means so much to know that you are all here...again--you give me the feeling of home and friends!!!!
Love - Cindy

preemiern · Post by **preemiern** » Wed May 28, 2008 10:41 am

-SWS wrote:Cindy, my heart goes out to you. Aunt Weeza gives you her best too...

Thank you SWS--You made me smile!!! Give aunt Weeza a hug for me if you can drag her away from the pool boy!!

Guest · Post by **Guest** » Wed May 28, 2008 1:50 pm

{{{{{Cindy}}}}}}

Hey Cindy, I'm not surprised you're there, nor that you're stepping up to the hard stuff to help your mom.

Remember when I was new and crazy and you talked me down off the ledge? You show real grace and courage under fire. Your family is lucky to have you.

My thoughts and prayers are you with you.

Huggers,
B.

rested gal · Post by **rested gal** » Wed May 28, 2008 2:14 pm

Cindy, I'm so sorry to hear about what your stepfather and the whole family is going through. So sad.

Many, many hugs go out to you, good friend.

preemiern · Post by **preemiern** » Wed May 28, 2008 2:18 pm

awwwww-thanks Babs!!!!! In the midst of all this, after PawPaw is gone--I want my mom to have the peace of knowing that we kept him home, and that he was surrounded by love right up until the end!! And having the support of everyone here and the care is helping me stay strong to do what I need to do--so again--thank you all for your care and support and encouragement...who would have thought two years ago when I started xPAP therapy that I would have this wonderful community of caring and support in my life--I truly cherish and treasure each and everyone of you!!
PawPaw is still with us right now, but breaths are getting farther and farther apart. I know his spirit is in the room looking down on all of his loved ones, and just not quite ready to let go yet. My sister in law and I got him changed and spongebathed this morning and got fresh linens under him, and he is looking very peaceful and comfortable. That is what I want for my mom to be able to remember when she looks back on these last few hours with PawPaw...that he was comfortable and peaceful.
hugs again--Cindy

preemiern · Post by **preemiern** » Wed May 28, 2008 2:20 pm

thank you Laura--I carry all of the hugs with me, and everybodies support is keeping my spirit fed and comforted. it's just hard after losing my grandma not quite two years ago to see my mom going through this again.

Beulah · Post by **Beulah** » Wed May 28, 2008 2:37 pm

Cindy

I'm sending my thoughts and prayers your way. My father died of cancer in 1990 at the age of 57, and he so didn't want to leave. How wonderful that you're there for your mother and dealing with all those details so that she won't have to. Do remember to eat and sleep and take care of yourself too. God bless you all.

Paula

kteague · Post by **kteague** » Wed May 28, 2008 3:39 pm

I was thinking about your comment about your loved one's impact in your life being worth this time of pain.

When going thru one period of dealing with what seemed to be a disproportionate number of losses (who am I to say that anyway?), I realized that the potential for such loss was only because I had been disproportionately blessed with so many who truly mattered to me. It's kind of a mixed blessing - so much more to miss, yet an abundance of good memories.

In sorting thru my thoughts on how to prevent such hurt, I once penned the following lines...

If I fall from this mountaintop at least I’ve seen the view
If one day these arms are empty they’ll have known holding you
If the song in my heart goes suddenly off key
I’ll always remember loving you loving me

Cindy, I'm glad you and your family were so richly blessed by your loved ones presence in your life.

Kathy
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preemiern · Post by **preemiern** » Wed May 28, 2008 8:38 pm

Thank you Kathy--that is beautiful, and exactly how I feel!!
Hugs--
Cindy

Bookbear · Post by **Bookbear** » Wed May 28, 2008 9:34 pm

It's a rough time, no matter how much you are prepared... you mom is lucky to have you there. I trust your memories of his love and kindness and the times you were able to share will bring you comfort. You and your family are in my thoughts.

preemiern · Post by **preemiern** » Thu May 29, 2008 6:16 pm

just wanted to update and let you all know that our PawPaw passed away this morning at 9:40 AM. He was at home with us, and had his family around him, and he got a send off full of love.
Thank you all for your kind words and support at a time when I was feeling very low.
We have a lifetime of wonderful memories to sustain us through this time, and we are all greatful that PawPaw was a part of lives...he truly gave us a lifetime of love...we just wish we could have had him longer...
hugs to all--
Cindy

Just saying "HI!" and looking for a hug...

Hugs

Laura

On Loss

kathy

To all of my friends...UPDATE on PawPaw

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