So, I'm here on the computer and behind me, my wife is fast asleep. She rolled onto her back and started to snore...not loudly or anything, but a steady snore nonetheless.
I could only stand it for about 30 seconds, then I had to poke at her until she turned onto her side and stopped (don't think badly of that as it won't affect her night...she is the Yin to my sleep disordered Yang...I've personally seen her sleep through an earthquake.)
Then I started to think...how bizarre is it that I, somebody who could snore the pictures off the walls, be so completely intolerant of the sound of snoring?
It has been that way as long as I can remember...the sound of somebody snoring grates on my nerves worse than anything else, even when I am not trying to fall asleep myself.
Is anybody else a snoring hypocrite like me?
Anybody else completely intolerant of other people snoring?
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SanDigital
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Anybody else completely intolerant of other people snoring?
San Digital - The Patron Saint of Funk
Yes, my husband, soon to be ex, was as intolerant as you.
He couldn't sleep with my snoring. He couldn't sleep with the windows open because the birds bothered him, he couldn't sleep with the shades up since the light bothered him at dawn.....
Now, you say that poking your wife doesn't bother her, and her own snoring doesn't bother her, but consider the fact that you may be wrong.
I didn't think my snoring was bothering me, yet I had been searching for the answer to my tiredness for years, and it was gradually getting worse. The answer for me was that the snoring was actually waking me up even though I was doing it and I never got deep sleep.
Do both of yourselves a favor. You have found your way here so you are on the right track.
Get your wife in for a sleep study before you resent her even more than you obviously do now and end up divorced like me.
She may indeed also have apnea or be having disturbed sleep due to her snoring. Maybe even if she isn't sleep deprived herself, she could benefit from a CPAP to stop the snoring and you would sleep better too.
I could be wrong and your own bedrooms might be the answer, but you need to have her do a sleep study first to make sure that there is no other problem for her arising from the snoring. That is if you really care about her.
He couldn't sleep with my snoring. He couldn't sleep with the windows open because the birds bothered him, he couldn't sleep with the shades up since the light bothered him at dawn.....
Now, you say that poking your wife doesn't bother her, and her own snoring doesn't bother her, but consider the fact that you may be wrong.
I didn't think my snoring was bothering me, yet I had been searching for the answer to my tiredness for years, and it was gradually getting worse. The answer for me was that the snoring was actually waking me up even though I was doing it and I never got deep sleep.
Do both of yourselves a favor. You have found your way here so you are on the right track.
Get your wife in for a sleep study before you resent her even more than you obviously do now and end up divorced like me.
She may indeed also have apnea or be having disturbed sleep due to her snoring. Maybe even if she isn't sleep deprived herself, she could benefit from a CPAP to stop the snoring and you would sleep better too.
I could be wrong and your own bedrooms might be the answer, but you need to have her do a sleep study first to make sure that there is no other problem for her arising from the snoring. That is if you really care about her.
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SanDigital
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[quote="snoregirl"]Yes, my husband, soon to be ex, was as intolerant as you.
He couldn't sleep with my snoring. He couldn't sleep with the windows open because the birds bothered him, he couldn't sleep with the shades up since the light bothered him at dawn.....
Now, you say that poking your wife doesn't bother her, and her own snoring doesn't bother her, but consider the fact that you may be wrong.
I didn't think my snoring was bothering me, yet I had been searching for the answer to my tiredness for years, and it was gradually getting worse. The answer for me was that the snoring was actually waking me up even though I was doing it and I never got deep sleep.
Do both of yourselves a favor. You have found your way here so you are on the right track.
Get your wife in for a sleep study before you resent her even more than you obviously do now and end up divorced like me.
She may indeed also have apnea or be having disturbed sleep due to her snoring. Maybe even if she isn't sleep deprived herself, she could benefit from a CPAP to stop the snoring and you would sleep better too.
I could be wrong and your own bedrooms might be the answer, but you need to have her do a sleep study first to make sure that there is no other problem for her arising from the snoring. That is if you really care about her.
He couldn't sleep with my snoring. He couldn't sleep with the windows open because the birds bothered him, he couldn't sleep with the shades up since the light bothered him at dawn.....
Now, you say that poking your wife doesn't bother her, and her own snoring doesn't bother her, but consider the fact that you may be wrong.
I didn't think my snoring was bothering me, yet I had been searching for the answer to my tiredness for years, and it was gradually getting worse. The answer for me was that the snoring was actually waking me up even though I was doing it and I never got deep sleep.
Do both of yourselves a favor. You have found your way here so you are on the right track.
Get your wife in for a sleep study before you resent her even more than you obviously do now and end up divorced like me.
She may indeed also have apnea or be having disturbed sleep due to her snoring. Maybe even if she isn't sleep deprived herself, she could benefit from a CPAP to stop the snoring and you would sleep better too.
I could be wrong and your own bedrooms might be the answer, but you need to have her do a sleep study first to make sure that there is no other problem for her arising from the snoring. That is if you really care about her.
San Digital - The Patron Saint of Funk
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The two posts show two entirely different attitudes people h ave to and about others.
Some may call it tolerance or being anal.
For those looking for anything to be irritated about, they can usually find something.
The fact that the one is about to be an ex spouse tells me there are other issues and evidently not resolved.
My wife will occasionally snore anad I suppose that if we did not get along, I could use this as another reason to be upset.
The fact that her spouse does not even like the sound of birds chirping tellm me hi is not a very happy or tolerant person.
Stop snoring and leavewindows down and he will find womething else to bitch about.
Tolerance is not always easy if there are other problems.
It is very easy if there are no problems.
Some may call it tolerance or being anal.
For those looking for anything to be irritated about, they can usually find something.
The fact that the one is about to be an ex spouse tells me there are other issues and evidently not resolved.
My wife will occasionally snore anad I suppose that if we did not get along, I could use this as another reason to be upset.
The fact that her spouse does not even like the sound of birds chirping tellm me hi is not a very happy or tolerant person.
Stop snoring and leavewindows down and he will find womething else to bitch about.
Tolerance is not always easy if there are other problems.
It is very easy if there are no problems.
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sharon1965
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sandigital
i did laugh when i read your post
i have snored like crazy my whole life, but because i've always been sleep deprived, i'm almost always the first one to fall asleep (ie. before my head hits the pillow ), so i'm usually not affected by other people's snoring
if, on rare occasion, my hubby dozes off first, i absolutely CANNOT fall asleep with his very light, very quiet snoring! i poke him in the ribs or push him onto his side myself, lol...if my son or daughter across the hall snores i can't fall asleep! it's kind of crazy, but i always assumed it was because sleep means so much more to me than 'normal' people and, while i consider myself to be a tolerant person, i couldn't tolerate anything getting between me and my zzzz's
i think you're both lucky that your sleep behaviours haven't been an issue...mine haven't significantly impaired our relationship, i guess mainly because my hubby works more midnights than days! good thing, huh? but if i travel with friends or relatives, you can bet they always want me to have my own room! and sleepovers as a kid? not an option LOL
sharon1965
i did laugh when i read your post
i have snored like crazy my whole life, but because i've always been sleep deprived, i'm almost always the first one to fall asleep (ie. before my head hits the pillow ), so i'm usually not affected by other people's snoring
if, on rare occasion, my hubby dozes off first, i absolutely CANNOT fall asleep with his very light, very quiet snoring! i poke him in the ribs or push him onto his side myself, lol...if my son or daughter across the hall snores i can't fall asleep! it's kind of crazy, but i always assumed it was because sleep means so much more to me than 'normal' people and, while i consider myself to be a tolerant person, i couldn't tolerate anything getting between me and my zzzz's
i think you're both lucky that your sleep behaviours haven't been an issue...mine haven't significantly impaired our relationship, i guess mainly because my hubby works more midnights than days! good thing, huh? but if i travel with friends or relatives, you can bet they always want me to have my own room! and sleepovers as a kid? not an option LOL
sharon1965
If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got...
Sandigital - I totally understood what you're asking. As the freight train in the relationship you'd think I'd be somewhat immune to my wife's gentle snoring (the relatively infrequent times she does it). However it drives me to distraction and I can't get to sleep. And as far as those exasperating winged demons screeching outside my window in the morning - well I've got a 12 gauge to discourage their rude behavior.
I love going on retreats with the men from my church but absolutely refuse to go on an overnight trip unless I can find a nearby hotel. I can't share my room with someone other than my wife, because even deep breathing will keep me awake. I usually have to turn on a fan to try and drown out the other background noises.
Is that anal enough for you?
I love going on retreats with the men from my church but absolutely refuse to go on an overnight trip unless I can find a nearby hotel. I can't share my room with someone other than my wife, because even deep breathing will keep me awake. I usually have to turn on a fan to try and drown out the other background noises.
Is that anal enough for you?
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