Julie wrote:Do you realize the (new) OP has not come back for answers? Any idea why that might be? Yes xxxxxy did his usual ghastly thing, but it might have been ignored by the OP and his question answered, but you have decided (Tas) to fight with him in the midst of the OP's first post in the forum, and I'm sure by doing so drove him (or is it a her?) away for good. Don't you have anything smarter to do? XXX can be forgiven for being a real problem child, but what's your excuse?
Julie, I'm new here and I feel exactly the way you describe. (I registered in 2012 but only started reading and posting a lot recently.) I'm debating with myself whether to keep posting here because of the rudeness and animosity in this forum.
I think it's quite likely that I'm going to drift away from this forum in the next few days because I don't enjoy listening to people insult each other.
What bothers me most is that a bunch of sane, mature, intelligent people are ganging up on somebody who obviously has problems.
I agree with you that xyz can't help it. I don't want to try to categorize him because If I do it will sound like I'm insulting him, which will only add to the problem, but surely the sane mature intelligent people here who are lowering themselves to his verbal level can see that he can't help it.
It serves nobody, absolutely nobody, to insult him. It only drives newcomers away from this forum.
Correct his mistakes, yes, certainly, but do it in a polite way. Even if he's rude, be polite. Be kind to him. Find it in your heart to be compassionate to somebody with problems.
If we met him in real life, I think most of us would feel sympathy for him. It would never occur to us to insult him.
There are people on the Internet with serious problems. They aren't all like us.
I have two sleep disorders: UARS and Non-24. Until recently I got considerable relief from UARS with humidified CPAP (I tried APAP but found no advantage), a Swift FX nasal pillow mask, and Micropore tape over my mouth. Nothing has helped my Non-24.