While I might not put it quite that way, I think I agree with your core idea. Judging and critiquing and minimizing when people are fighting depression is probably the worse thing you can do if you want to help them. That said, we all tend to do it to some extent, when we judge their complaints "silly", but I try to remind myself not to do that. Heck, I try to remind myself every day, just yesterday I was SMH reading people here talking about how sleep studies felt like a violation, and I'm thinking to myself "being raped is violation, laying in a hospital bed for a month is violation". Then I reminded myself it's not a competition and if some people felt that way why should I consider their feelings illegitimate?49er wrote:Have you ever considered that one reason why the depression rates are so high is we don't allow people to experience "unacceptable" emotions and that maybe encouraging this would shorten the duration and enable people to get into problem solving mode?chunkyfrog wrote:Den:
Plus a million.
Self pity only makes you feel even worse,
and really alienates everyone who has it worse than you!
Which is easily half the planet. Yep.
No matter how minor or severe a problem someone has, there will always be someone who has it worse. But it doesn't mean that issue isn't legitimate.
Another of my huge pet peeves is when people refer to suicide as a selfish act, there is truly nothing a person could say that is more out to lunch and reveals they don't have a clue, and is ironically the very type of attitude that makes it more difficult for people that are experiencing that level of depression and mental illness.
I'll bet many people here have dealt with years of criticism due to mental health issues related to apnea as well as poor sleep habits.
Anyhow, this cartoon sums up it up how we often deal with people struggling with mental illness. Before someone misinterprets, of course I'm not saying people don't also need to search out help to get better, just that the way we approach people is often counter productive.
