My husband just doesn't understand.

[DWaldman]

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[RebornSleeper]

Thank you everyone for your understanding. It really does help!

I finally was able to connect with my DME rep. I am coming in Monday to be fitted for a mask. I have NEVER touched a FFM so getting fitted will give me a great start in finding one. My insurance will cover one per three months. Since that won't happen until after most of the cold/flu season has passed, I will be purchasing one. We can pay for a mask. He just hates spending money and is being an ass about it. He doesn't understand the difference it makes. He's like "you have lived with this for years, why can't you get through any colds in the next three months?" I understand from HIS perspective it may not seem like such a big deal. But I will hopefully NEVER go without my cpap again. I rather like sleeping well and not feeling horribly and violently ill when I wake up. Until he goes through it, I just don't think he is going to understand! Such a shame. Maybe I will bring him to my doctor's appointments and their "professional" opinion will be more reliable then my personal experience. So sad.....

Thank you so much for your support! It means so much to know I'm not in this totally alone.

[LSAT]

You will pay a lot more for a mask at the DME vs buying online....Be aware of that.

[Gasper62]

If I had a spouse that had become so clueless and uncaring where my health and happiness were concerned, I'd request a period of being apart for a reevaluation of the relationship ! That they don't know or care that this apnea stuff can kill, either directly or indirectly, speaks volumes. (IMO)

[betam4x]

I know exactly what you mean about the cold/allergy stuff. While I have yet to actually need a FFM, I have to use multiple nose sprays and an allergy pill every night before bed. Even then it takes a high humidity setting to get my nasal passages to completely open up. Worth it though. My AHI last night was 0.59. Regarding your husband, i can somewhat understand his perspective. My wife and I are on a pretty strict budget. However, at the same time, if you need the mask, you need the mask. Do you guys go out to eat? Does he drink? Does he smoke? Recommend to him that if you can't afford a medical device to treat a medical condition that you cut back on other stuff to the point where you CAN afford it. Make him realize that medical expenses are part of the budget.

[DWaldman]

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[RebornSleeper]

Lsat, my DME rep is part of the hospital here. They actually recommended that I come in for a fitting then take my script to cpap.com to purchase the mask. I appreciate their honestly. She said their FFM's start at $300! That's robbery!

Gasper62, he has out of control diabetes. He refuses to do anything about it because he believes doctors and such are just out to kill you or bankrupt you. He works out and eats very well but it's a genetic thing. Every single one of his siblings (8 counting him) have diabetes. The youngest one died of it already. She was diagnosed in her teens with juvenile D. He's a normal weight, works out regularly and eats very clean. He thinks it is enough but his sugars are in the 300's. So he's even killing himself rather then listen to a medical professional and get help.

Betam, we very rarely eat out. We grow most of our own food, milk, eggs, meat some fruit and veggies. Very organic and clean. We have food allergies so we don't do much eating out or store food. Neither one of us drink or smoke, and never have.

DWaldman, I actually understand what your saying. That's why we have a Living Trust that states what will happen....LOL! Got my own back even if I'm brain dead!

[Pugsy]

Should you elect to try a mask from cpap.com look for the ones with Free Return Insurance...there are a good many masks with Free return insurance and some with a for purchase return insurance.
The return insurance means you have 30 days (from time of shipping) to get the mask back to cpap.com and get your money back and they will even email you a printable pre paid shipping label.

Alternately you can try on the demos at the DME store and pick one that seems to work well and then order it from cpap.com since the prices are considerably less than DME pricing.

The free return insurance helps out a lot when trying a totally new mask. We just don't know how well we are going to like something until we try it on.

For a full face mask to use with a cold or flu situation you might also look at the Respironics Amara View mask.
It uses a cradle cushion under the nose (like the DreamWear nasal mask) and then has a mask covering the mouth for the times you need to mouth breathe. I haven't had a chance to try out this mask just yet but from the looks of it I think it would be less intrusive for those people who tend to get a little claustrophobic with full face masks.

Remember with any Respironics product (mask or whatever) if you order from cpap.com and it says "call for pricing"...make the phone call because it means it doesn't cost as much as the MSRP price is showing.
For my recent DreamWear purchase from cpap.com that meant a $20 savings on the mask.

[metsfan302]

well offer stands if u need one ill donate

[Sir NoddinOff]

If I had a spouse that had become so clueless and uncaring where my health and happiness were concerned, I'd request a period of being apart for a reevaluation of the relationship ! That they don't know or care that this apnea stuff can kill, either directly or indirectly, speaks volumes. (IMO)

Way over the top Gasper62, that's not helping. She's got 4 young kids, is very scared, is a stay-a-home mom and probably is just going thru a typical couple's adaptation period with her worried husband (who does sound a bit cheap, truth be told). Gasper: Stop being a drama queen (king, I just saw the 'M' for male in your profile). Give 'em some space before you pull out the big guns.

[Gasper62]

If I had a spouse that had become so clueless and uncaring where my health and happiness were concerned, I'd request a period of being apart for a reevaluation of the relationship ! That they don't know or care that this apnea stuff can kill, either directly or indirectly, speaks volumes. (IMO)

Way over the top Gasper62, that's not helping. She's got 4 young kids, is very scared, is a stay-a-home mom and probably is just going thru a typical couple's adaptation period with her worried husband (who does sound a bit cheap, truth be told). Gasper: Stop being a drama queen (king, I just saw the 'M' for male in your profile). Give 'em some space before you pull out the big guns. I mean....whew.

Pipe down, Mr. Morality Policeman. I merely stated my personal feelings and the obvious fact that someone isn't a very caring mate if $$ trumps health needs. (Seriously skewed priorities) At no point did I suggest any actions be taken...... by ANYONE. Abuse takes many forms................

[Sir NoddinOff]

If I had a spouse that had become so clueless and uncaring where my health and happiness were concerned, I'd request a period of being apart for a reevaluation of the relationship ! That they don't know or care that this apnea stuff can kill, either directly or indirectly, speaks volumes. (IMO)

Way over the top Gasper62, that's not helping. She's got 4 young kids, is very scared, is a stay-a-home mom and probably is just going thru a typical couple's adaptation period with her worried husband (who does sound a bit cheap, truth be told). Gasper: Stop being a drama queen (king, I just saw the 'M' for male in your profile). Give 'em some space before you pull out the big guns. I mean....whew.

Pipe down, Mr. Morality Policeman. I merely stated my personal feelings and the obvious fact that someone isn't a very caring mate if $$ trumps health needs. (Seriously skewed priorities) At no point did I suggest any actions be taken...... by ANYONE. Abuse takes many forms................

As I underlined in YOUR initial reply Gasper, you said you'd do such and such if that happened to you... that directly implies advice, only someone with their head in the clouds would see it otherwise. Furthermore, it's easy for you to say since you're a man and obviously don't have many shared feelings with a woman's point of view in a prickly case like this. Empathy has been around for a millennium or more, Gasper, give it a try. As for being Mr. Morality Policeman, yeah, I guess I reluctantly am at this one point in time and I just called you out... twice. Consider yourself busted.

[Gasper62]

If I had a spouse that had become so clueless and uncaring where my health and happiness were concerned, I'd request a period of being apart for a reevaluation of the relationship ! That they don't know or care that this apnea stuff can kill, either directly or indirectly, speaks volumes. (IMO)

Way over the top Gasper62, that's not helping. She's got 4 young kids, is very scared, is a stay-a-home mom and probably is just going thru a typical couple's adaptation period with her worried husband (who does sound a bit cheap, truth be told). Gasper: Stop being a drama queen (king, I just saw the 'M' for male in your profile). Give 'em some space before you pull out the big guns. I mean....whew.

Pipe down, Mr. Morality Policeman. I merely stated my personal feelings and the obvious fact that someone isn't a very caring mate if $$ trumps health needs. (Seriously skewed priorities) At no point did I suggest any actions be taken...... by ANYONE. Abuse takes many forms................

As I underlined in YOUR initial reply Gasper, you said you'd do such and such if that happened to you... that directly implies advice, only someone with their head in the clouds would see it otherwise. Furthermore, it's easy for you to say since you're a man and obviously don't have many shared feelings with a woman's point of view in a dire case like this. Empathy has been around for a millennium or more, Gasper, give it a try. As for being Mr. Morality Policeman, yeah, I guess I reluctantly am at this one point in time and I just called you out... twice. Consider yourself busted.

Busted by a touchy/feely that tends towards pontification.......here........ have a tissue ! Did you actually read the OP header ??? Anyone that hangs their laundry on a public forum is obviously soliciting input and opinions. We now have record of both yours and mine. Self impressed much ?

[metsfan302]

[Sir NoddinOff]

If I had a spouse that had become so clueless and uncaring where my health and happiness were concerned, I'd request a period of being apart for a reevaluation of the relationship ! That they don't know or care that this apnea stuff can kill, either directly or indirectly, speaks volumes. (IMO)

Way over the top Gasper62, that's not helping. She's got 4 young kids, is very scared, is a stay-a-home mom and probably is just going thru a typical couple's adaptation period with her worried husband (who does sound a bit cheap, truth be told). Gasper: Stop being a drama queen (king, I just saw the 'M' for male in your profile). Give 'em some space before you pull out the big guns. I mean....whew.

Pipe down, Mr. Morality Policeman. I merely stated my personal feelings and the obvious fact that someone isn't a very caring mate if $$ trumps health needs. (Seriously skewed priorities) At no point did I suggest any actions be taken...... by ANYONE. Abuse takes many forms................

As I underlined in YOUR initial reply Gasper, you said you'd do such and such if that happened to you... that directly implies advice, only someone with their head in the clouds would see it otherwise. Furthermore, it's easy for you to say since you're a man and obviously don't have many shared feelings with a woman's point of view in a dire case like this. Empathy has been around for a millennium or more, Gasper, give it a try. As for being Mr. Morality Policeman, yeah, I guess I reluctantly am at this one point in time and I just called you out... twice. Consider yourself busted.

Busted by a touchy/feely that tends towards pontification.......here........ have a tissue ! Did you actually read the OP header ??? Anyone that hangs their laundry on a public forum is obviously soliciting input and opinions. We now have record of both yours and mine. Self impressed much ?

Me touchy feely? Please. More like empathy (look it up). So you're saying any poor apnea sufferer who dares show up here and complain (whine?) deserves everything they get, especially from the likes of you - is that what you're actually saying? Your dizzy pretzel logic aside, I think there's a right wing rant headed our way. Go for it Gaspman, don't hold back. It's been a slow day for me.