I want to thank you all so much for your stories and advice. It's amazing how much just knowing that I'm not overreacting and that others understand -he acts like I'm talking about new age magic medicine fads- helps me to cope. To answer a few questions, he is classified as "obese" though he doesn't...

So every night I listen to my husband whistle in an out as he breathes, before pausing for a minute, and gasping and coughing, then whistling some more. During the day he drifts off whenever he sits or is bored (he once fell asleep WHILE our daughters speech therapist was talking to us, waiting room...