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Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 2:57 pm
by Todzo
kaiasgram wrote:People have "abandoned ship" with various medical treatments for all of history, and for a variety of reasons. I don't think this is a sociopolitical issue, or one that can be answered with generalizations about "people today..."
I think the reasons that people quit PAP therapy (or any therapy) are many and varied. A lot of folks have already touched on some of the main obstacles to sticking with xPAP. I had an interesting chat with a man at the gym that I've known casually for quite a few years. This is an educated man, a university professor before he retired. Here he is, religiously working out every day (he's there when I arrive at the gym and still there working out when I leave!), but recently he told me that he has sleep apnea and tried CPAP several years ago but quit early on because "I hated it." I tried to encourage him the other day to consider starting up again -- machines are better, quieter nowadays, etc., but he wasn't going to budge. "I figure as long as I wake up every morning I'm OK." He was polite and happy to let me keep talking, but there was no way he was going to reconsider. Type 2 diabetes notwithstanding.
I hate CPAP too, likely as much as my friend did, but I'm not quitting whereas he did. Here is where the OP's question gets really interesting to me -- why one person quits while another person stays committed when both people find the therapy difficult and uncomfortable. I can't make the blanket statement that my friend doesn't care about his health, or that he's lazy and doesn't want to have to put effort into taking care of himself -- in fact he's a contradiction because in some ways he does take care of himself and obviously has self-discipline about getting regular exercise (much more discipline with exercise than I have in fact), but there's one area of his health care that he has chosen to ignore, or at least to minimize its relevance in his mind. I would love to know more about his decision to quit but our conversation didn't get that far.
Todzo you asked a great question!
Hi kaiasgram!
Thanks.
I think you make some very good points. Your friend obiviously loves his body. Since I am now working with my own PT I understand how deep your love has to go to do all of that. I think the treatment did not work for him - simply. He found himself what Dr. Mack Jones would call "PAP resistant". PAP made his health worse.
I think we need to understand from the beginning the possiblity that PAP may not work and bring us down. Lest we disregard what our body is indeed telling us.
Have a great week!
Todzo
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 3:35 pm
by Addercatter
49er wrote:
Lazer,
I have alot of respect for you but to be honest, I really fail to see this humor when people's health is at stake. Sorry, maybe doing volunteer work at the Sleep Apnea Association and processing applications from people who can't afford machines has greatly brought this all home. And if they need a bipap machine, they will be waiting a long time for it.
We all have different opinions as to what insurance will work the best in the US. But it seems there are some people who don't give a damm that people's lives are at stake from lack of insurance and just care about their bleeping rights and want to bandy about the evil "S" word.
By the way, I don't mean to sound like I am bragging because I volunteered. What I have done is negligible compared to what many people do in the volunteer arena.
But I couldn't let this go by after that experience. Anyway, let's get back to our regularly scheduled programming.
49er
Wow. All he was doing was laughing at what someone ELSE posted. Why didn't you jump all in that persons kool-aid instead?
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 3:57 pm
by Addercatter
Todzo-
What qualifies you to determine if someone else's therapy is working or not, especially when you've never even MET that person. Also, unless you have graduated medical school and are working in a part of Respiratory Therapy which specializes in the treatment of all types of sleep apnea, I believe that you just enjoy "playing doctor" on the Internet.
Kat
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 6:21 pm
by Todzo
Addercatter wrote:Todzo-
What qualifies you to determine if someone else's therapy is working or not, especially when you've never even MET that person. Also, unless you have graduated medical school and are working in a part of Respiratory Therapy which specializes in the treatment of all types of sleep apnea, I believe that you just enjoy "playing doctor" on the Internet.
Kat
Hi Kat
What I do enjoy is being able to smell the flowers around me all summer long rather than reaching for the allergy meds, seeing my weight finally come off after years of continued effort apparently helped by better CPAP management and eucapnic breathing retraining, seeing my AHI and indicators of unstable breathing low. Simply better health.
The medical community has failed when it comes to getting PAP to work for people. Why on earth are you acting as if they we should look to them for leadership?! When will they admit their failure and get down to looking at the real issues rather than trying to oppress their patients!
Of course I made no determinations, I simply posited a guess based upon my own experience and those of others that I have seen expressed in these forums and through the research as mentioned.
If you really want to help people here – more power to you.
If you are here to oppress people – may you be like chaff before the wind
Todzo
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 6:23 pm
by Posey
back to the topic...
I think I would have given up by now if I only had my doc & the RT @ Lincare. It seems to be a vast frontier that you travel alone if you are not fortunate enough to do a google and come up with a sleep apnea forum. Some of my more techie friends don't even check their data because "the RT told them not to". One of then recently had a MI and I asked her if her sleep apnea pressure needed to change. She has used the same pressure for 13 yrs and won't even check it.
Thanks to all of you who post questions and all who have the answers. I read a little and then ponder how it might apply to me.
So the answer to why we abandon ship (I think )is that there isn't enough support for CPAP & other PAP users. Docs don't know or don't care & most RTs working @ DMEs may be less than adeqaute for sleep disorders. I personally think the Rt I deal with is bipolar.
My husband works in a cardiac cath lab & I know my cardiologist well. I had a lot of symptoms that might be linked to sleep apnea but he never once asked if I snored or had any trouble with sleeping. I never made the connection either, until DH told me I snored, snorted and gasped at night. That's when I started my quest for help. Thanks to all of you.
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 6:24 pm
by ems
49er wrote:Todzo wrote:lazer wrote:Ok, my bad. I won't do an AVI and [delete] my post. I don't believe in that kind of censorship so I'll stand to be the ass on this one and let everyone see.
/Carry on with serious topic.
Hi lazer and all,
Probably I am pulling "a lazer" and going off topic and "responding to my first instinct" rather than being able to process all the inputs from such things as relevance, emotional impact to others, all of that. OSA is known to cause problems with executive functioning - part of which is the "ability to suppress the first response (reaction)". I also think I have noticed that my ability to take into account the emotional impact of what I am doing has on others is specifically affected. I think we loose the ability to be emotionally aware. You see that a lot on these forums. A very nice guy goes all horses behind in a heartbeat.
In lazer's case I know he works very hard to be healthy. I know he loves to have a good time and love him for that.
I also know he uses a breathing volume unaware PAP which automatically raises his pressure on signs I have found to be indicative of over breathing. That would make the CO2 maintenance issues worse. With CO2 out of his system his brain is starved of blood and oxygen[1]. I think that is part of his current – and strangely now chosen “horses behind” status.
So now I appeal to you lazer. Please obtain a breathing volume aware PAP or at least pursue eucapnic breathing retraining and manage your PAP use being aware of breathing volumes and stability using your nightly data. You, me, and all others will be happier and healthier for that.
I highly appreciate you lazer!
Todzo
1.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19211719
Todzo,
Totally agree with everything you said and as one who has taken threads off topic, I probably was the last person who should have said back to regularly scheduled programming.
49er
49er... I seriously don't think you had anything to apologize for. This started as a serious thread about a serious problem. It wasn't necessary for Democrats or Republicans to jump in with stupid remarks. There was another thread here for that purpose.
It took me several months to be honest enough with myself to write what I did earlier in this thread. I was embarrased. I wanted to be one of those people who didn't give up. Seeing some of the remarks made here made me feel that I wasted my time saying what I did. Those remarks were very inappropriate and unhelpful, and I felt pissed at myself for even bothering to type what I did.
That said... Lazer, I know you are one of the good guys here, and I appreciate you.
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 7:07 pm
by Todzo
ems wrote:49er wrote:Todzo wrote:lazer wrote:Ok, my bad. I won't do an AVI and [delete] my post. I don't believe in that kind of censorship so I'll stand to be the ass on this one and let everyone see.
/Carry on with serious topic.
Hi lazer and all,
Probably I am pulling "a lazer" and going off topic and "responding to my first instinct" rather than being able to process all the inputs from such things as relevance, emotional impact to others, all of that. OSA is known to cause problems with executive functioning - part of which is the "ability to suppress the first response (reaction)". I also think I have noticed that my ability to take into account the emotional impact of what I am doing has on others is specifically affected. I think we loose the ability to be emotionally aware. You see that a lot on these forums. A very nice guy goes all horses behind in a heartbeat.
In lazer's case I know he works very hard to be healthy. I know he loves to have a good time and love him for that.
I also know he uses a breathing volume unaware PAP which automatically raises his pressure on signs I have found to be indicative of over breathing. That would make the CO2 maintenance issues worse. With CO2 out of his system his brain is starved of blood and oxygen[1]. I think that is part of his current – and strangely now chosen “horses behind” status.
So now I appeal to you lazer. Please obtain a breathing volume aware PAP or at least pursue eucapnic breathing retraining and manage your PAP use being aware of breathing volumes and stability using your nightly data. You, me, and all others will be happier and healthier for that.
I highly appreciate you lazer!
Todzo
1.
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19211719
Todzo,
Totally agree with everything you said and as one who has taken threads off topic, I probably was the last person who should have said back to regularly scheduled programming.
49er
49er... I seriously don't think you had anything to apologize for. This started as a serious thread about a serious problem. It wasn't necessary for Democrats or Republicans to jump in with stupid remarks. There was another thread here for that purpose.
It took me several months to be honest enough with myself to write what I did earlier in this thread. I was embarrased. I wanted to be one of those people who didn't give up. Seeing some of the remarks made here made me feel that I wasted my time saying what I did. Those remarks were very inappropriate and unhelpful, and I felt pissed at myself for even bothering to type what I did.
That said... Lazer, I know you are one of the good guys here, and I appreciate you.
Hi ems!
The "lazer" and similar incidents here actually highlight what I believe one of the "abandon ship" problems. Non-restored sleep tends to make us without what we need to stay on track, regard the feelings of others, and so keep the projects we are doing on track and the relationships with the others working with us working well. This hurts us at home and at work
Under treated OSA tends a person toward a lack of "self tracking" (our self assessment manager - if you will - is not working well) and causes problems in decision making and problem solving. So we do not so much notice that we have a problem - but if we do - are frustrated in our attempts to find a good solution. So the problems tend to be ongoing.
This makes us rather vulnerable in a medical care setting - and - as we have seen the medical care setting is full of oppressive people. With contempt upon us they take our dollars and shove us out the door - disrespecting us for daring to have a question or call their judgment into question. Probably the makings of some class action lawsuits to come.
+++1 on “Lazer, I know you are one of the good guys here, and I appreciate you”.
Thanks for the post!
Todzo
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 7:39 pm
by Todzo
Posey wrote:back to the topic...
I think I would have given up by now if I only had my doc & the RT @ Lincare. It seems to be a vast frontier that you travel alone if you are not fortunate enough to do a google and come up with a sleep apnea forum. Some of my more techie friends don't even check their data because "the RT told them not to". One of then recently had a MI and I asked her if her sleep apnea pressure needed to change. She has used the same pressure for 13 yrs and won't even check it.
Thanks to all of you who post questions and all who have the answers. I read a little and then ponder how it might apply to me.
So the answer to why we abandon ship (I think )is that there isn't enough support for CPAP & other PAP users. Docs don't know or don't care & most RTs working @ DMEs may be less than adeqaute for sleep disorders. I personally think the Rt I deal with is bipolar.
My husband works in a cardiac cath lab & I know my cardiologist well. I had a lot of symptoms that might be linked to sleep apnea but he never once asked if I snored or had any trouble with sleeping. I never made the connection either, until DH told me I snored, snorted and gasped at night. That's when I started my quest for help. Thanks to all of you.
Hi Posey!
Good post!
Perhaps "customer service" should be made part of what our medical providers learn!?
On my research list is a question. What is the effect of repeated excursions into the hypocapnic realm? My guess is that the cardiovascular system takes a hit. Indeed I wonder if unstable breathing – followed by periodic breathing – followed by Cheyne-Stokes respiration – preceded the heart attack – so - the Cheyne-Stokes respiration which follows the heart attack – may it have caused the heart attack? I would love to know if any in your husbands lab would be willing to look into the current literature and point to some recent studies.
Thanks Much!
Todzo
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:25 pm
by lazer
I'm sorry, I really seemed to have screwed this thread up with one simple "
bolded of the quoted" and giggle moment.
I sometimes think those of us with sleep disorders need to lighten up a little on the attacks on each other and their posting styles, habits, ect... unless they are truly posing a threat.
I'll back out of this now.
Thanks to all who stood up for me. Never meant to hijack, derail, or otherwise destroy a prosperous thread.
Kudoz Todzo, I seldom understand a damn thing you are trying to convey on here whilst I follow your postings and replies but I know you are putting your perceived best effort into it I'm sure.
Just one last pic:
Click the following link and whistle along... ---->>>>
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yHFDa9efCQU
bye bye
I'm abandoning this ship! LolZ
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:31 pm
by Addercatter
Todzo wrote:Addercatter wrote:Todzo-
What qualifies you to determine if someone else's therapy is working or not, especially when you've never even MET that person. Also, unless you have graduated medical school and are working in a part of Respiratory Therapy which specializes in the treatment of all types of sleep apnea, I believe that you just enjoy "playing doctor" on the Internet.
Kat
Hi Kat
What I do enjoy is being able to smell the flowers around me all summer long rather than reaching for the allergy meds, seeing my weight finally come off after years of continued effort apparently helped by better CPAP management and eucapnic breathing retraining, seeing my AHI and indicators of unstable breathing low. Simply better health.
The medical community has failed when it comes to getting PAP to work for people. Why on earth are you acting as if they we should look to them for leadership?! When will they admit their failure and get down to looking at the real issues rather than trying to oppress their patients!
Of course I made no determinations, I simply posited a guess based upon my own experience and those of others that I have seen expressed in these forums and through the research as mentioned.
If you really want to help people here – more power to you.
If you are here to oppress people – may you be like chaff before the wind
Todzo
You are stereotyping. I am alive right now solely because of the medical community. Each one of my medical caregivers is on board with my treatment and it is turning out to be quite effective for me.
Why have you not entered any of your equipment or other treatment methods?
If you will look through each of my posts, I have oppressed no one, I have only stood up for people I have noticed are being oppressed. Hope you like the wind...
Kat
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 8:54 pm
by ems
Addercatter wrote:Why have you not entered any of your equipment or other treatment methods?
Yes, I agree. Thought the same thing. It would seem that someone asking these types of questions would post their equipment at least.
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 9:03 pm
by Todzo
Addercatter wrote:
You are stereotyping.
Kat
i think not
Todzo wrote:
I recently found out (well – accepted is probably more what happened here – the facts were there I simply did not want to see them) that only twenty percent of those commended to PAP are using those machines for more than four hours a night at one year.
I have my own ideas about why this is but I would like to know what others think.
I have also noticed that there seems to be a crisis in PAP use at the 1 month 3 month 6 month and 1 year marks – so – I wonder what you remember (or are experiencing) at about those times.
I would also love to know why you quit or how you overcame the crisis.
Thanks!
Todzo
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 9:27 pm
by ems
Whatever motives Todzo had by starting this thread and although I do think he should be more forthcoming, I think most of us can agree that it was a damn good question. In case it was forgotten... the question was, "Why do we abandon ship".
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 9:29 pm
by Cindy Lou Who
Todzo.
A sister-in-law went through 3 labs without being titrated. They sent her home with a bipap. No experience. No support! After a 3 month struggle she gave up, and gave it back to the DME. Swears she would rather die in her sleep than wear the thing.
If people don't have the positive attitude, perseverance, courage, and support And willingness to do what it takes to make this work. They may fail. Sometimes they have all of the above but don't have support. It feels like they are the only one going through this OSA thing. They may give up.
I have to admit that I am one of those that didn't have big issues with being a hosehead for life. Being a rotating factory shift worker had already trained this body to sleep under some trying conditions. Yes, there was the initial trial and error in finding the right headgear. But the second one was the charm...
My father was a great teaching example. In the mid 80's I heard him struggling to breath while sleeping. The 3rd heart attack killed him after 5 days of his lungs filling with fluid because his heart was so damaged.
I keep coming back to this form because I learned sooooo darn much here.... and still do To the point of embarrassing my Neurologist /Sleep Dr Specialist.... because I knew more about my machine than he did. And that convinced him to buy one for himself.
People here are very helpful. And that's felt and appreciated deeply. They've also walked that mile in your shoes and know what it can be like. Where your Dr and RT most likely has never been there and are clueless. That comes across to many people whether they are consciously aware of that... or not.
The key word for me is support... And I get that 100% from people here.
Bless you all!
Cindy
Re: Why do we abandon ship?
Posted: Thu Dec 06, 2012 9:37 pm
by 2 B Sleeping Soundly
Cindy Lou Who wrote:Todzo.
A sister-in-law went through 3 labs without being titrated. They sent her home with a bipap. No experience. No support! After a 3 month struggle she gave up, and gave it back to the DME. Swears she would rather die in her sleep than wear the thing.
If people don't have the positive attitude, perseverance, courage, and support And willingness to do what it takes to make this work. They may fail. Sometimes they have all of the above but don't have support. It feels like they are the only one going through this OSA thing. They may give up.
I have to admit that I am one of those that didn't have big issues with being a hosehead for life. Being a rotating factory shift worker had already trained this body to sleep under some trying conditions. Yes, there was the initial trial and error in finding the right headgear. But the second one was the charm...
My father was a great teaching example. In the mid 80's I heard him struggling to breath while sleeping. The 3rd heart attack killed him after 5 days of his lungs filling with fluid because his heart was so damaged.
I keep coming back to this form because I learned sooooo darn much here.... and still do To the point of embarrassing my Neurologist /Sleep Dr Specialist.... because I knew more about my machine than he did. And that convinced him to buy one for himself.
People here are very helpful. And that's felt and appreciated deeply. They've also walked that mile in your shoes and know what it can be like. Where your Dr and RT most likely has never been there and are clueless. That comes across to many people whether they are consciously aware of that... or not.
The key word for me is support... And I get that 100% from people here.
Bless you all!
Cindy
Good Post! Oh, and a Happy Birthday to you Cindy!!