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tillymarigold_ wrote:

Mac33 wrote:Mac33 wrote:... Do you guys know what romance and sexuality is? ...

Probably wrong choice of words but CPAP is just not sexy no matter how we spin it on here. This wasn't meant to offend anyone but bring light to a very real problem. My girlfriend was very supportive and knows all about family health problems but she was taken aback first time she saw me sleeping with the mask on. As close as we are I felt I lost my masculinity when I first started using CPAP. That's why compliance rates are only about 50% if that.
For a young couple this can be a game changer and with divorce rates so high this doesn't help a relationship.

Doesn't HELP a relationship? Are you crazy? CPAP SAVED my relationship!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was 28 and had been married 2 years when I was diagnosed and my husband was on the verge of leaving me. I was sleeping 11-12 hours a day and spending 9 at work ... which meant I was doing nothing around the house. And I was exhausted all the time, which meant that I spent half of our few hours together yelling at him and the other half crying. Both of us spent all our time trying to decide if we should even bother to keep trying or not.

I've been on CPAP for three years and our relationship now is AMAZING. Now that I'm able to have a relationship with something other than my pillow. My husband tells people, often, that CPAP is the best thing that ever happened to our relationship.

Yeah!!! Great story. My husband tells me I am a LOT less cranky since going on XPAP. I think HE'S a lot less cranky since I've been on LOL - since he isn't being work up by my snoring and thrashing around : ) Altogether, we're both more rested and happy. So glad it saved your relationship!

It was dark when I woke. This is a ray of susnhnie.

Hi all, I have been with my guy for almost a year. At first he didn't sleep much with the mask. He thought he may not need it anymore. Having three other friends on it, I was familiar. When my man moved in with me he went to the doctor and it was determined he still needed his mask.

It does not freak me out. However, we work very different hours and the noise of his mask has kept me in a light non-satisfactory sleep and for months I have been having nightmares and strange dreams. I talked to him about it and he offered to sleep in another room for awhile (he has a nice one). This will not change our sex life since I can't really cuddle with him with the mask on. We will be going to see the doc soon and maybe we can find a quieter machine. This doesn't have to be permanent. What a great guy to compromise and not freak out on me for my honesty!

Who knows, maybe this will be adding some spice to our relationship? Stranger slips in in the dead of night???

Relationships are nothing if not for the work we do to maintain them.......

I have to agree that this is not a good sign for your marriage, but does not have to be a death knell. Two people in a truly loving relationship can work out almost anything. The key to this is the fact that "love" is an active verb; it isn't just what you feel, it is what you do. I think you should let her know that you are disappointed in her reaction, but will give her time to get used to your equipment and therapy. See if she tries to do better. If she does, then there is a good chance you will be able to deal with the other issues that will turn up in the future.

Good luck with your fiancee and your therapy.