Posted: Mon Dec 17, 2007 10:32 am
my2brats:
i had just finished posting a response to cajapoto, thanking him for his kind and thoughtful repsonse, but reiterating that your original post seemed condescending and sarcastic; by the time i had posted it, you had responded to everyone's comments, so i deleted mine, thinking that you may already be feeling beat up on...now that i've read the two subsequent replies you've posted, i regret deleting mine...it wasn't unkind or inflammatory, by any means, i simply stated that if you took the time to read the entire thread you might come to learn that we have all been where your husband was, or can at least allow for the possibility, and that in these times when anger is an expression of fear, compassion and empathy goes a long way toward defusing the situation
but now i see that you aren't willing to learn from the wise people on these boards and indeed, choose instead to mock and patronize, a reaction that i agree with jeffh comes from hitting your raw nerve more than ours...i hope that you can see that the way you've responded to something we all feel so strongly about is exactly the same way you responded to your husband-- while i admit that it's not always a pleasant experience to have a mirror held up to us, a litte self awareness goes a long way...if you can move past your pique at not being successful in your original bid for support in minimizing and denying your husband's fear, you might just learn something from the people here
den, as always, you are a gentleman...thanks for that
sharon1965
i had just finished posting a response to cajapoto, thanking him for his kind and thoughtful repsonse, but reiterating that your original post seemed condescending and sarcastic; by the time i had posted it, you had responded to everyone's comments, so i deleted mine, thinking that you may already be feeling beat up on...now that i've read the two subsequent replies you've posted, i regret deleting mine...it wasn't unkind or inflammatory, by any means, i simply stated that if you took the time to read the entire thread you might come to learn that we have all been where your husband was, or can at least allow for the possibility, and that in these times when anger is an expression of fear, compassion and empathy goes a long way toward defusing the situation
but now i see that you aren't willing to learn from the wise people on these boards and indeed, choose instead to mock and patronize, a reaction that i agree with jeffh comes from hitting your raw nerve more than ours...i hope that you can see that the way you've responded to something we all feel so strongly about is exactly the same way you responded to your husband-- while i admit that it's not always a pleasant experience to have a mirror held up to us, a litte self awareness goes a long way...if you can move past your pique at not being successful in your original bid for support in minimizing and denying your husband's fear, you might just learn something from the people here
den, as always, you are a gentleman...thanks for that
sharon1965
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