Rubicon wrote: ↑Thu Sep 29, 2022 3:19 pm
How's his function during the day?
And I think this is a critical point in that from what you're describing I see a man basically chair-ridden, who could easily be taking multiple naps per day. While the company line is that you need 7.8 hours per sleep per day, it doesn't matter how you get it. If he's napping on & off during the day for several hours it's not reasonable to expect him to sleep for a continuous 7.8 hours at night. Sleep consolidation should be considered if appropriate.
With all that depression no meds? Look of surprise. OK not really.
My dad is a brilliant, persistent, stubborn, and tough man; even with all his health issues he’s far from chair ridden. The day I brought dad home from the hospital after he nearly died following heart surgeries and even though he couldn’t even stand from a chair without assistance I had to spend hours arguing with him to convince him allow me to do the yard work for him that he had put off until his heart was fixed.
My dad loves the outdoors and up until 2 years ago he hiked a minimum of 5 miles a day and his likely unrealistic goal is to get back there. No matter how bad his pain and weakness he gets outside and walks everyday. Before his heart surgery things were bad, incredible weakness, dizziness, breathlessness, syncope. Following surgery it took longer than he had hoped to rebuild some strength and stamina, but things from my perspective had greatly improved.
As to how he is doing right now, he had been making steady improvements until about 3 weeks ago but over the past 3 or so weeks some breathlessness, dizziness, and weakness have seemed to return and there has been a decrease in the amount of physical activity he can do.
If he’s had a really bad nights sleep he will take an afternoon nap, but he doesn’t sleep all day.
It’s good advice to not be married to 8 hours of sleep a night, but that is the standard my dad wants for himself and I’m unlikely to talk him out of.
As far as the depression, he has been given numerous meds for it over the years. During his last 2 major depressive episodes he would take himself on and off the meds he had most recently been prescribed and would sometimes decide to restart old psych meds he has stashed away that a previous doc had prescribed. I felt that his self treatment
made things quite a bit worse so for now I’ve backed off on trying to convince him to take the psych meds.
It’s a tough illness:(