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Julie wrote:So as long as someone is registered, their gratuitously nasty reply to a valid comment is OK, as long as they don't delete it, as long as they ignore it (don't want to fan the flames after all) and have the personal attack (untruthful as it may be) stand in perpetuity? How would you have responded, what would you have actually said in the circumstances - please just give an actual alternative answer I could have written to respond to what was left - generalities don't cut it or I wouldn't ask.

robysue wrote:

Lucyhere wrote: Edit: Deleted posts are a no-no. But, can a nasty post by a "Guest" be deleted, or is it there forever? I understand the post can't be foed.

In my humble opinion the only use for the Spam button is to remove honest-to-God Spam. In other words, a post by an anonymous user trying to SELL something (particularly something NOT related to CPAP) or a post advertising a clear SCAM. Others may differ with my opinion.

• Spam: Noun
  1. Irrelevant or unsolicited messages sent over the Internet, typically to a large number of users, for the purposes of advertising, phishing, spreading malware, etc.
  
  1.1 Unwanted or intrusive advertising on the Internet. [as modifier] ‘an autogenerated spam website’
  
  2 trademark A tinned meat product made mainly from ham. (https://en.oxforddictionaries.com/definition/spam)

jnk... wrote:

Julie wrote:So as long as someone is registered, their gratuitously nasty reply to a valid comment is OK, as long as they don't delete it, as long as they ignore it (don't want to fan the flames after all) and have the personal attack (untruthful as it may be) stand in perpetuity? How would you have responded, what would you have actually said in the circumstances - please just give an actual alternative answer I could have written to respond to what was left - generalities don't cut it or I wouldn't ask.

If I ignore a personal attack of me, then I do not validate it. If I can manage to speak kindly to the attacker, then what I would hope "stands in perpetuity" would be a testament to the attacker's inappropriateness and maybe, just maybe, an example of the value of attempting some online cheek-turning. YMMV.

robysue wrote:, usually by anonymous "guest" posters, that contain clearly unwanted ADVERTISING or involve PHISHING or other attempts to scam people.

Pugsy wrote:

robysue wrote:, usually by anonymous "guest" posters, that contain clearly unwanted ADVERTISING or involve PHISHING or other attempts to scam people.

Carolyn and her team are working hard in trying to put up roadblocks to make harder for "guests" to spam us.
There are also spammers who take the time to register and log in so they can post their garbage..either in the body of the post or sometimes they do the sneaky spammer links in their signatures in hopes we won't notice...but I notice and those get removed also.
Then Carolyn gets a note with a link to the profile and she in turn blocks them from doing it again.
Now we can't prevent them from using another email addy to register and do it again but we sure slow them down.

Julie wrote:Thank you JNK for your reply - at least it was specific.

Julie wrote:So as long as someone is registered, their gratuitously nasty reply to a valid comment is OK, as long as they don't delete it, as long as the person attacked ignores it (don't want to fan the flames after all) and leaves the personal attack (untruthful as it may be) stand in perpetuity?

Julie wrote:MYOB

Pugsy wrote:

Lucyhere wrote:Another question: If I see the beginning of a belittling, bully like, uncalled for post(s) from a member (or non member), my intent is to copy and paste all posts involved in this thread, immediately, in the hopes of stopping the poster in his/her tracks, so as not to derail a helping thread. That's what I think is the intent here. Am I correct?

That part of the experiment is still a work in progress.
I don't think copying the fight and posting it here will necessarily cause the parties involved to move the spat. They already know what they have said to each other or want to say to each other and I would think that they could do the copying and pasting themselves.

Lucyhere wrote:That's why I said what I did about moving the post(s) to this thread, and maybe adding a post to the other thread saying that the offending post(s) had been moved, or something along those lines. ??

Pugsy wrote:I think that a non aggressive, non threatening, non judgemental (if we can get all that accomplished) "suggestion" to both parties (I would do it in one post) saying something like...

So and so we know you have some differences of opinions but how about you take the rest of the discussion over to the Time out Thread...or create your own...or maybe use private messages so that the original intent of this thread which was so and so's question/problem doesn't get derailed and lost in the heat of where this discussion seems to be heading.



***I agree with you. Makes more sense. Maybe use the same paragraph in all such threads.



Don't turn into what it is you are wanting to stop...you are likely to end up with the 2 offenders both joining forces and jumping down your throat.

Pugsy wrote:I just want to ask in a nice way to not derail the thread. Will it work? I don't know but at least I tried and the OP knows that someone at least tried to bring some order back to the thread.