Ok, after wasting too much time and money with the ENT dr I think I figured it out on my own.
I've been recording my sleep to see if different things help. Diet, meds (glucocordicoids/antihistamines/others), timing, etc. Was even trying antihistamines as that seemed extreemly likely. But nope, nothing really seemed to change it. I thought it was antihistamines as I did seem to have some effect in the past, and I thought lately as well. Well it turns out we are very hard to experiment on as there are so many outside variables. And the one that was throwing me off was exercise.
I'm an inconsistant runner/exerciser, so I was doing it here and there. Well it turns out if I do a run, so far at least 30 minutes of around a moderate intensity (like say around 60-75% Max HR) I get 2 nights without snoring, after that I start snoring again. Even doing longer runs of say 1 hr at a higher intensity didn't seem to make a difference so far, still only 2 nights. I've done some research and it appears that there are some biochemical reasons along with some physical reasons for why they think it helps. And I'm not even talking about weight reduction. As I mentioned somewhere before my BMI is good, weight is good and I'm in decent shape as I can now run longer and longer distances (up to around 9 miles without having to stop).
Anyway I thought I'd throw this out there just in case someone is in a similar position. With what seems like UARS, but no alergies and no low blood oxygen, no apneas, doesn't sleep well and feels tired no matter how much sleep. Still going to experiment more, but most likely am going to make sure I at least get a short run in every other day or so.