OT - Cpap and changes in dynamic of relationship?

I know I can't be the only person to experience changes in the dynamic of their relationship, so I would like some input and advice from others on how they got through this. I know situations will be different, but here is only one aspect of my situation.

After seven months on PAP my SO finally had a conversation with me about how PAP has caused some frustration. While yes, it is partly what you are thinking , it is also the fact that snuggling is not really an option now. For nigh onto 30 years we have snuggled much of the night - just second nature. Now, with PAP, the air blowing on the back of SO's neck is making it almost impossible, not to mention the mask itself and the hose.

Have been on the LT since starting PAP, but decided to try the hybrid - which was not very good for either of us. My sleep was not as good, and the air blowing out of it was much worse.

We both realize that PAP is a necessity for me, and this probably seems like a little thing to many.... But.....

Different masks have different types of air diffusers on them. My hubby did note that the air on several of them would blow on his neck or arm. The new mask I am using now is a Mirage Micro. The air diffuser is on the hose attachment to the mask. The air holes are actually placed in a circle that blows out the sides of the attachment, instead of forward, into your partner. It is completely silent, and does not hit my hubby at all when side sleeping. There are several other masks that I have tried that also have this feature, while a lot of them do not.

I had the very same problem. I could no longer "spoon" like we used to. So now we have switched directions and she "spoons" me.

pabneypaol wrote:I had the very same problem. I could no longer "spoon" like we used to. So now we have switched directions and she "spoons" me.

Exactly.

The "headrest" vents up, above the head. It's highly thought of here on the forum, and I would really recommend this to you.

https://www.cpap.com/productpage.php?PNum=1717&PAID=215

There are numerous ways to "decapitate" it and jerry rig it to custom fit you. Rested Gal has many links to the mods. If you PM her, I'm sure she'll point you to the right place.

Sadly, I'm sort of in the opposite boat. My BF and I sleep apart, because his bed is too small for me to sleep in comfortably. He says the cpap doesn't bother him. But after months of sleeping apart, I feel less and less connected to him, and am seriously considering just ending it. I feel like we're friends and not lovers, and I really don't feel like continuing to sleep on the floor.

Try to find something that will work for both of you. I know this is a big thing.

Hugs,
Barbara

Babette wrote: I feel like we're friends and not lovers, and I really don't feel like continuing to sleep on the floor.
Try to find something that will work for both of you. I know this is a big thing.
Hugs,
Barbara

Wow Barbara,

I don't think you should have to sleep on the floor That just isn't right...I can see why you'd not be too happy with that setup.
mar

Babs -

So sorry to hear that. If he were truly a gentleman, he would immediately buy a bed that is corfortable for both of you - or at a minimum, he would sleep on the floor, couch, chair - whatever it took to make a nice person such as you happy!

Rick