Julie wrote:Yes, it actually seemed pretty obvious that he has problems, but we are not therapists and reminding anyone to listen first, speak later is not provocation, and in fact might save him from putting his other foot in it, open to other remarks.
The comments here so far are from a tiny minority of the readers and users of this forum site.
FOOT IN THE MOUTH syndrome are from some of the other off-topic comments left by these few hot-heads.
The problem lies with the
KNOW-ALLS. They do not believe in forums, open discussions, on-topic discussions. So they stay
off-topic with their SHOOT-THE-MESSENGER games.
Those of us in the caring industries know this perpetual Know-All problem, who like assaulting the "obvious" scapegoat. So if a possible scapegoat has any sight of deviance from the CPAP group mind, they are chosen by the bullying minority for assault by the bullying minority. The whole of the caring industries: medical practitioners, lawyers, police, emergency services, ... are aware of this problem with very closed minded "clients". Clients, Customers, Patients, Students.
Most people, by definition, are not professional do-gooders. Society needs its real-work people. However we human resource people will always be in a minority, as it should be. Junior HRM people should always be "nice", inoffensive and "polite" to the helpees. Agreed.
Senior people, HRM or not, are usually hidden from the front-line end-users. Retired senior people like myself, no longer need to maintain our organizational reputations and our future incomes. So it may be very suprising that the true senior insights are visible to junior HRM staff, or the client end-users of CPAP products and services.
In my many decades of professional consultation with small business enterprises like this CPAP forum, they are upset that Frank & Fearless expertise is not made available to them. The psychology of why this is no possible is listed above. In financial terms however, the small business people cannot afford the resources (not just $$)) to gain reliable access to this expensive, rare information.