Dating and the CPAP

jmsnyc wrote:If I did start dating someone, I would probably not wear it the first one or two times we had a sleepover but then I would come clean....

so, you think loud snoring, gasping, gagging and not breathing would be more attractive to the new girl?

TheLankyLefty wrote:Hello all. I was tipped off that this subject was posted which goes along with some videos I just posted.

Some videos on the topic (meant to be a serious/irreverent mix):

CPAP, Sex, and Dating. http://youtu.be/dzY-ItKR6zg

CPAP, Sex, and Marriage. http://youtu.be/xAQB2i8IKV8

Happy and healthy sleeping to all.

LL

Thanks TheLankyLefty! I'll definitely check out these links. The rest of y'all are cracking me up with your stories of getting it on in the early days. I didn't become a teen until the 90s. There were some pretty big cars back then, thankfully!

All this talk of sex in cars. Is no one creative any more?
How about on a motorcycle, or a ladder?
The world is full of exciting places.

jmsnyc wrote:

corvallisgrace75 wrote:

chunkyfrog wrote:Kinky, the frog appreciates kinky.

chunkyfrog, it's a shame you're a woman. I mean, it's not a shame. But if you were a guy, I'd be saying, "Hey....how you doin'?" LOL!

Hey....how you doin'?

I was diagnosed with sleep apnea in 06 but never stuck with the CPAP, now 9 years later I'm about to have another study.

Ironically I was dating a nurse and we were at dinner and I told her I was going to have a sleep study done, I asked her how she would feel about a guy using CPAP and she responded positively - ironically we broke up a week later - I do not think the two are related but you never know...

From speaking with doctors I should be on CPAP, so after my next study in 3 weeks I think I am going give it another go again. If I did start dating someone, I would probably not wear it the first one or two times we had a sleepover but then I would come clean.... I would tell her I have a deep dark secret, she would probably fear me telling her I was married or something and then hopefully the CPAP machine would sound a little more bearable.

But yes, I am thinking of starting a CPAP meetup group so fellow CPAPers could meet and date Then its a non-issue

Where do you live jmsync? I'm in for a CPAP meetup group. Actually, that just gave me a good idea. I could either START one, or see if anything out there like that exists. Yeah, it's hard to know what might drive a person away. Sorry about things with the nurse, but life goes on, eh?

I kind of agree with you. That I might not wear it the first couple of times I had a sleepover. The only reason being that I don't snore loudly and my apnea isn't horrid. And of course, that it would be a weird thing to break out for a first sleepover. Sure, there can be sex and both parties return home afterwards. And I know it isn't totally honest. But I guess....well, in my dating experience, once someone is into you and knows you, they're more likely to be accepting. If you let all of your skeletons out of the closet too early, people freak out and run away. I know that a lot of people have said that it's a "weeder". But I don't blame a nice guy for being weirded out by it. Let me date someone first and then go from there.

BlackSpinner wrote:

jmsnyc wrote: If I did start dating someone, I would probably not wear it the first one or two times we had a sleepover but then I would come clean.... I would tell her I have a deep dark secret, she would probably fear me telling her I was married or something and then hopefully the CPAP machine would sound a little more bearable.

And what if she says "Oh good I can bring mine next time too"?

Haha! that would be awesome. One of my ex's totally snored and gasped and all that. We talked about it recently. Of course, he has a steady girlfriend now, so again, I look at it and go, "Well, you two are already committed. She's likely not going to leave you over that." But seriously, early on in the dating process, sh&t is weird. Even good guys could be scared off. I mean, yeah, if they are, they're not for me. But in a world where most people get dates from online dating sites, including me (does anybody meet "organically" anymore?) if a guy thinks a gal is weird, he might break it off and say, "Next!". Whereas before online dating, a guy would meet a nice woman and perhaps be less likely to kick her to the curb because it wasn't as easy to meet people. I dunno. Just my experience...

corvallisgrace75 wrote:
Where do you live jmsync? I'm in for a CPAP meetup group. Actually, that just gave me a good idea. I could either START one, or see if anything out there like that exists. Yeah, it's hard to know what might drive a person away. Sorry about things with the nurse, but life goes on, eh?

I kind of agree with you. That I might not wear it the first couple of times I had a sleepover. The only reason being that I don't snore loudly and my apnea isn't horrid. And of course, that it would be a weird thing to break out for a first sleepover. Sure, there can be sex and both parties return home afterwards. And I know it isn't totally honest. But I guess....well, in my dating experience, once someone is into you and knows you, they're more likely to be accepting. If you let all of your skeletons out of the closet too early, people freak out and run away. I know that a lot of people have said that it's a "weeder". But I don't blame a nice guy for being weirded out by it. Let me date someone first and then go from there.

Just be careful coz there could be some fetish group that would find this interesting. You don't want to go there
I think if you find that guy who's really into you a cpap isn't going to matter! You don't need it to have sex. Even laying in bed to sleep with someone isn't hard. When my husband is home we still spoon and cuddle. I'd be more concerned with farting in bed

Really? Robin Wms thought it was the bees knees (in his wife) in Good Will Hunting!

Tell him it's just another hose. I like yours, please also like mine !

corvallisgrace75 wrote:

TheLankyLefty wrote:Hello all. I was tipped off that this subject was posted which goes along with some videos I just posted.

Some videos on the topic (meant to be a serious/irreverent mix):

CPAP, Sex, and Dating. http://youtu.be/dzY-ItKR6zg

CPAP, Sex, and Marriage. http://youtu.be/xAQB2i8IKV8

Happy and healthy sleeping to all.

LL

Thanks TheLankyLefty! I'll definitely check out these links. The rest of y'all are cracking me up with your stories of getting it on in the early days. I didn't become a teen until the 90s. There were some pretty big cars back then, thankfully!

OMG, LankyLefty! If that's really you in the video...you are hot! I don't mean to embarrass you (I type while blushing.) And serious bonus points for the use of the Lego dolls. Big fan of Legos here! Totally classic. Thanks for sharing. Hopefully my friends will find it funny, too.

I understand how you feel. I was married when I was diagnosed with Mild to moderate OSA. My ex made me wear my CPAP because I snored so loud. Since my divorce, I have lost a lot of weight, although I was not obese prior. I also moved to a slightly lower altitude. I thought maybe my OSA wouldn't be as bad as prior. So I was on a trip with my mom and I did not take my CPAP, I took my dental appliance. I couldn't wear the appliance after the first night because it pulled off one of my crowns, LOL. Anyway, my mom said I didn't snore at all. I went back in for a new sleep study when I got back from my trip. I was hoping to start dating and I hoped they would tell me I didn't need the CPAP any longer. Instead they said I have severe sleep apnea. I see the pulmonologist in a couple weeks to see what he has to say. I thought about my match.com profile: slender female, loves to hike, loves dogs, oh and by the way, I wear a cpap at night.
Oh, and The dental appliance doesn't work as well as the CPAP, but it would be easier to put in my purse.

postitnote wrote:I'd be more concerned with farting in bed

http://www.thejokeyard.com/old_age_joke ... tball.html

This may have already been posted in the joke thread, but even if it has, it's worth a repeat! Gotta love the old folks with a sense of humor.