rested gal wrote:Paper_Nanny wrote:I asked two questions about my sleep and got three answers.
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you will never feel better as long as you are taking all these medications;
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That may be the best answer MSD gave, but is he willing to (or have the time to) roll up his sleeves and work on that in a realistic way with you?
His answer was wrong, though. I
did feel better while taking all those medictions. Which is why I have been able to decrease the dose of some of them...
rested gal wrote:If "all these medications" are necessary to allow you to function through life with your other health problems, but are causing sleep problems or are causing sleep disordered breathing that wouldn't be present without the meds (or med interactions) isn't that what an MD with sleep as a side specialty is supposed to be looking into? Maybe he is, but will discuss it in detail only with another man...your husband.
Nah, that's not MSD's place to roll up his sleeves and work with me on any of the medication issues. He's not the one who prescribed any of it. That he did say. The unspoken subtext of the conversation was that he doesn't know enough about ms, fibromyalgia, or the pharmocological nuances of "all these medications" to be able to have any useful
specific information.
Which is okay. I don't expect him to know those things. But it is comical- in a sad way- that he wouldn't say "I don't know enough to help you with this" except when pushed to do so in the presence of another male.
I think that was why he brought up the medications in the first place. The medication answer didn't really fit the question. My interpretation was that he was avoiding giving an answer to my original question by saying, "Look! Your medications! You will never feel better as long as you are taking all these medications! And now, let's focus on that so I can avoid your original question!"
rested gal wrote:
indeed! I would be much less aggravated if he had just said, "I don't know" or "I don't have time" or "I am not going to tell you" or
something, (anything!) that was a real answer.
Back to my post on Thu Jun 30, 2011 7:49 pm about my appointment with MSD
I wrote:I asked [Husband] afterwards if he noticed how MSD kept giving me non-answers to my questions and if he noticed how much MSD dislked me. Husband said he thinks MSD was being evasive because he doesn't feel comfortable saying, "I don't know the answer to that" He said, "I don't think MSD dislikes you; I think you frustrate him because you keep making him say he doesn't know the answer."
It was like that, but his evasion was more slippery and dismissive in Husband's absence. He was saying, "This is my final answer" and I couldn't catch him again to say, "An answer it may be, but it has nothing to do with the question I just asked."
After reflecting on that a bit more, I do need to say that yes, I do know that aybe his evasion was more slippery and dismissive and I couldn't catch him NOT because of anything
he did differently, but maybe because
I did things differently. Having Husband there was good moral support. I could be more assertive with him there. That is a good thing for me to recognize so clearly. Information for future encounters with medical professionals...
All that aside-- At this point, it is my rheumatologist who seems to have the most understanding of the sleep- ms- fibromyalgia- pharmacology gestalt. And he is willing to roll up his sleeves and work with me in a realistic sort of way. And he is willing to send me to another sleep specialist to get additional information.
Thanks for the thought provoking post, RG!
Deborah