Okay, I'm trying to be supportive here but "...anger, denial, depression"? Because you have Sleep Apnea? Really? Holy cow, folks. It's better to know what it is, finally, and get the necessary equipment so you can get it under control. I've read comments on other forums about spouses being "heartsick" about having to use a cpap in bed and how it completely wrecked someone's romantic life. Are you kidding me? WTF?
I have sleep apnea and my partner has it, too. We like to joke that we have "dueling cpap machines". We can get romantic and THEN go to sleep and neither of us is devastated or depressed or suicidal about having to wear a mask (me) and nose pillows (her).No sex appeal is hampered by the nest of hoses snaking all over the fluffy cotton pillows. I WAS
depressed before I was diagnosed, not understanding why I felt so awful all the time, couldn't sleep, woke up with a pounding headache, nearly died several times, developed heart problems, etc. After I knew what it was I had and underwent the sleep study, I was happy.
If your love life is being derailed in so extreme a fashion because one or both of you uses a cpap machine, well, I feel really sorry for you. If that's the worst thing you can imagine having to deal with... wake up! Pun intended!