OT: Offers of Marriage POLL

[SleepingUgly]

Which raises the question of the form of a good proposal. My view is that public proposals are jejune and narcissistic. Even private proposals with ostentatious and over-the-top accoutrements can smack of bad taste (not saying the one above falls into that category). I rather like Mr. Darcy's proposal in P&P.

How did YOU (or your wife) propose, Brain_Cloud?

[brain_cloud]

Which raises the question of the form of a good proposal. My view is that public proposals are jejune and narcissistic. Even private proposals with ostentatious and over-the-top accoutrements can smack of bad taste (not saying the one above falls into that category). I rather like Mr. Darcy's proposal in P&P.

How did YOU (or your wife) propose, Brain_Cloud?

I have no memory of such an event, although it seems that something like that must have taken place. Let's see, in the mid-90's, I was probably still in my Wodehousian phase, and if so, you can be sure the appellation "Old Bean" figured in somewhere.

[-SWS]

I think it would be horrible to have to refuse a marriage proposal. I think I would rather get a rejection than give one.

For that we have torch songs:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Torch_song

I've made hundreds of offers. Withdrew all but one the next morning.

That's hundreds of torches. Your community must have been well lit. Then again people get well lit at the bar and propose...

[snuginarug]

I would love to see who has turned down two or more.

I turned down three, and that's how I voted. But now I am not sure they counted. Two were from perfect strangers. They were quite serious too. One wanted babies, one wanted citizenship. The third was one of those drunken proposals. We never mentioned the topic again.

Note to self: when proposing marriage, try to be somewhat sober.

[Jaylee]

Note to self: when proposing marriage, try to be somewhat sober.

[pdean44]

All of your options involve refusals. My wife and I were high school sweet hearts. I met her when she was 16. We have been together 34 years and married for 29 of those. We dated , went to college then married.
We have 3 daughters no grandchildren yet.

Still happily married. I was lucky to find the right girl early in life.

[kteague]

Disclaimer: All accounts below are ancient history!

Hmmmm, so the two I shoulda rejected don't count, huh. How about this - My second marriage I have yet to figure out exactly what happened. He never proposed. I never accepted. Yet there was a wedding. I got bamboozled without the booze! Learned a lot about con artists. Wasn't funny then but have to laugh now at how my being nice was borderline "ill".

Never proposed or even suggested marriage to anyone. Rejected some, my memory is too poor to do a count, but I do remember one who loved me too desperately and I just couldn't deal with that or other signs there could be trouble, even though he was a nice guy. He took me around his parents. His dad did nothing but sit in his easy chair every evening after a few hours at the corner bar. His mom cooked, cleaned, and raised the kids and helped his drunk carcass to bed every night. When my suitor said he wanted a marriage just like good old mom and dad's, I was outta there!

Some proposals didn't deserve the dignity of a response. Users. But I developed an effective junk proposal deflector. Just told them how both of my childrens' fathers were murdered (they didn't have to know I didn't do it). And then tell them I asked my pathologist boss if he'd fix the autopsy if I killed my ex. Problem solved. Hey, when life gives you lemons...

Oh, never had a marriage proposal to me retracted. Haha, maybe they were afraid to! Gee, all this time I thought it was because I was irresistable!

[SleepingUgly]

So, LoQ, when are you proposing? Do you want to practice your proposal on us?

[LoQ]

So, LoQ, when are you proposing? Do you want to practice your proposal on us?

I wouldn't want to have to retract an offer of marriage, which I would have to do if I made one.

[SleepingUgly]

I wouldn't want to have to retract an offer of marriage, which I would have to do if I made one.

If you made one, you wouldn't retract it.

[LoQ]

If you made one, you wouldn't retract it.

Maybe I should make an offer to my mask to make an honest woman of her.

[chunkyfrog]

The bullfrog TOLD me we were going to be married.
I told him he was crazy.
Turns out I was/am crazy too.
That was 48 years ago.

[ChicagoGranny]

I received many proposals of marriage.

But none in the last four decades.

[chunkyfrog]

My mother received (and accepted) an invitation to shack up, at 79!
I think that counts--especially at that age!

[flightco]

It's hard to refuse, if you know the shotgun is loaded. Jim

In some parts of the country, the way to know it's a formal wedding is that someone whitewashed the shotgun...

I was working in Hawaii several years ago and was warned not to wear a suit simply an aloha shirt. I wore an aloha shirt to my first appointment and it was tucked in nicely. My first customer commented on it saying there are only two occasions where an aloha (honestly don't remember if that is what they called the shirt, just what I called it) tucked in, weddings and funerals.