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Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 6:21 am
by jsielke
I had some time this morning, and was reading through some posts on this, and on the Apnea Board. I noticed there are a lot of rather rude responses to some questions on the list. Granted, some of the questions seem obvious, but probably are not to the person asking. I see terse, sometimes even sarcastic answers given by some of the "experts."
I will probably be banned for posting this, but after noting this, I had to say something.

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 6:50 am
by prodigyplace
Unfortunately I don't think this forum bans users except for SPAM. The rudeness and character assaults add unnecessary noise making it difficult to extract the buried useful information.

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 7:01 am
by 49er
jsielke wrote:I had some time this morning, and was reading through some posts on this, and on the Apnea Board. I noticed there are a lot of rather rude responses to some questions on the list. Granted, some of the questions seem obvious, but probably are not to the person asking. I see terse, sometimes even sarcastic answers given by some of the "experts."
I will probably be banned for posting this, but after noting this, I had to say something.
No, you won't be banned as this is an unmoderated forum. But you will be flamed big time and ironically accused of trolling to distract from the real issues. You will also be accused of being an arrogant newbie because you want to tell "experienced" members how to run things.

Anyway, I agree with you but unfortunately, things aren't going to change. So you have to decide whether the positives of this forum (and there are many) outweigh the negatives or if you need to spend your time on other apnea boards that are moderated don't tolerate rudeness.

Interestingly, one of the rude experts is as nice as he can be on one of those moderated boards. Take that for what it is worth.

49er

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 7:17 am
by chunkyfrog
Personalities clash, and ignorant knowitalls are rarely tolerated.
That said, there is much thought and compassion here.
My breast cancer thread is a lovely example ("Defective Frog")--thank you, all!

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 7:58 am
by 49er
chunkyfrog wrote:Personalities clash, and ignorant knowitalls are rarely tolerated.
That said, there is much thought and compassion here.
My breast cancer thread is a lovely example ("Defective Frog")--thank you, all!
And CF, I wanted to thank you publicly for the very supportive PM you sent me regarding my cancer diagnosis.

49er

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 8:09 am
by jsielke
Thanks for the replies, and my prayers to my fellow cancer survivors (Bladder, prostate and 4 melanomas, all clear now).

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 8:16 am
by 49er
jsielke wrote:Thanks for the replies, and my prayers to my fellow cancer survivors (Bladder, prostate and 4 melanomas, all clear now).
Wow, that is fantastic to hear.

49er

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 9:52 am
by Lucyhere
jsielke wrote: I see terse, sometimes even sarcastic answers given by some of the "experts."
Yes, unfortunately there are several who think sarcastic "advice" is helpful. However, there are many who are extremely knowledgeable and respectful at the same time. You have to pick and choose. Take what works for you and leave the rest. You'll find out quickly who you want to 'speak' with and who to ignore. Note my signature... and have a pleasant Sunday.

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 9:56 am
by Lucyhere
49er wrote:...regarding my cancer diagnosis. 49er
You'll get through this... I know you will and a big hug!

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 10:02 am
by 49er
Lucyhere wrote:
49er wrote:...regarding my cancer diagnosis. 49er
You'll get through this... I know you will and a big hug!
Thanks and your support has been greatly appreciated.

49er

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 10:32 am
by prodigyplace
My thoughts & prayers go to all the cancer patients & survivors. I have survived prostate cancer and have known others who were not quite so fortunate.

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 1:53 pm
by palerider
jsielke wrote:I had some time this morning, and was reading through some posts on this, and on the Apnea Board. I noticed there are a lot of rather rude responses to some questions on the list. Granted, some of the questions seem obvious, but probably are not to the person asking. I see terse, sometimes even sarcastic answers given by some of the "experts."
I will probably be banned for posting this, but after noting this, I had to say something.
if you don't like it here, then stick to apneaboard, that's what it's there for.

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 2:32 pm
by ColinP
jsielke wrote:I had some time this morning, and was reading through some posts on this, and on the Apnea Board. I noticed there are a lot of rather rude responses to some questions on the list. Granted, some of the questions seem obvious, but probably are not to the person asking. I see terse, sometimes even sarcastic answers given by some of the "experts."
I will probably be banned for posting this, but after noting this, I had to say something.
Indeed, there are some here who enjoy belittling others, perhaps it makes them feel better about themselves.

Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 2:52 pm
by Wulfman...
jsielke wrote:I had some time this morning, and was reading through some posts on this, and on the Apnea Board. I noticed there are a lot of rather rude responses to some questions on the list. Granted, some of the questions seem obvious, but probably are not to the person asking. I see terse, sometimes even sarcastic answers given by some of the "experts."
I will probably be banned for posting this, but after noting this, I had to say something.
I was curious and did a forum search on the word. In the "old days", it often applied to DMEs and their employees.
More recently, it has more often applied to some of the "personalities" on the forum.

search.php?keywords=rude

Try to sift through it all and take the "good" and ignore the "bad".


Den

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Re: Rudeness

Posted: Sun Apr 09, 2017 4:59 pm
by LoBattery
If you are willing to wait a little, every question you might have will be asked by someone else and there will be no need to post on the board. Keeping posts to basic facts and not offering opinions is one way to stay out of the fray. Get the help you need, don't make it part of your life.