One Request to Johnny, Carolyn, all forum members

[Danbeck]

What is postal ? Dan

[nanwilson]

What is postal ? Dan

Berserk, nuts, off your rocker!!!!!

[Danbeck]

Nan, took me a minute, but got it !!!! Thanks, Dan

[archangle]

Sorry you had problems here.

There are several other bulletin boards for apnea sufferers. Most of those are more tightly moderated than this one, which can be both good and bad.

Google is your friend.

[Sonnyboy]

Thank you,

I am still here. I am not TedBurns but I am cleaning up loose ends, writing some private messages, and making sure I am not misrepresented.

I have told Carolyn in the past that I am not in favor of this forum having moderators, this has not changed.
Johnny's philosophy of handling this forum is excellent and I am in full support.

In my opinion, too many members do not share Johnny's philosophy. Maybe they do not understand what he is saying???

Google has been my friend for years. I am and always have been very aware of the other forums. Many forum members here are also Apnea Board members, some are moderators, some like Enchanter have been told to leave. Some forum members have their own blogs, websites, private invitation only forums and so on. We live in a small world.

I am very aware and observant.

[ems]

Hi Johnny and Carolyn,
I will be 67 in a few weeks and started CPAP in November.
My family doctor took over 3 years to order a sleep test, attributing my fatigue to age and laziness.
My severe fatigue resulted in a major fire in my apartment last year. 2 of my pets died.
My sleep doctor is no help.
DME is no help.
Turns out my internist of 20+ years rarely uses his own CPAP, only when he knows he did not sleep well the night before.
I did come to this forum for help and support. I leave because the abuse outweighs the support.
Why are EMS and Postitnote, two forum members that have used CPAP for years, allowed to bully new members that are here for help and support?
Why are forum members allowed to use this forum as their playground?
EMS, Postitnote and their friends win! I’m gone! I only ask that they stop abusing me by using my username or any variation of my username in future posts and signature lines.

Sonnyboy... you can believe whatever you want... but I truly am sorry for your troubles! Thing is I'm ten years older than you and my problems/troubles equal (maybe triple) yours. In a million years would I mention even one of them on the internet, except as related to SA. I reserve my troubles for my closet friends and people that I know have my well being in mind. This is most definitely not my playground, but it seems to me that it's yours. There is no right or wrong here, just a different way of doing things. I'll leave it at that.

Someone (PR maybe?) must have come to your rescue when you first joined this forum. You jumped on his/her, their band wagon and began protecting them from us "bullies". Your "cursing" was as loud as mine... maybe louder. I don't curse - maybe an occasional s**t, da*n, etc., but certainly not more than that, especially on a forum on the internet! I may have said something I guess - but honestly, I don't remember. That doesn't make me better, but it does make us different.

I first became acquainted with you in the Enchanter thread, I believe. You immediately decided that I shouldn't be trying to help him. Instead of thinking... well, that's her business, you decided to attack me. I didn't like that and let you know it. To me, you were the bully! If I wanted to help E that was my business, and I didn't need you (or anyone else) to tell me what I should or shouldn't do.

When I feel attacked, I attack back. I've never started a ruckus on this forum. But, when one is started - and there have been many the past several months, I do say what's on my mind. Watch the posts after mine (this one) and you'll surely see what I am referring to.

I hope things turn around for you, I really do. I know what it's like to feel the ceiling is falling in on you.

[PoolQ]

This is something that I just don't get. Not everyone has a sunny personality all the time, sometimes they grump and grouse, so why can't they have at least one forum where they don't have to fake it all the time? Honestly they are people too and sometimes need assistance and sometimes they don't play nice-nice. Trolls are another story and that's different.

Just my 1.5 cents, not sure it's worth the full 2.

[billbolton]

Just "foe" the users who REALLY annoy you here, and get on with life! Simple

[postitnote]

Just "foe" the users who REALLY annoy you here, and get on with life! Simple

Great idea. She thinks she can keep deleting my posts and I will go away. She's wrong.

[Hose_Head]

Just "foe" the users who REALLY annoy you here, and get on with life! Simple

I agree!

What I REALLY don't understand in any of these threads is why people don't use the "foe" tool. It works.

"Foe" your antagonists. Nothing will shut them up as fast or as completely as ignoring them.

[grayghost4]

This is something that I just don't get. Not everyone has a sunny personality all the time, sometimes they grump and grouse, so why can't they have at least one forum where they don't have to fake it all the time? Honestly they are people too and sometimes need assistance and sometimes they don't play nice-nice. Trolls are another story and that's different.

Just my 1.5 cents, not sure it's worth the full 2.

careful what you ask for .... you may get your wish :

http://www.experienceproject.com/groups ... happy/1726

[grayghost4]

this was Plagiarised from another form:

Thought this would be appropriate for this forum

Text below:

The difference between a happy and unhappy life is how often and how long we stay there.

Here are the 7 qualities of chronically unhappy people.

1. Your default belief is that life is hard.

Happy people know life can be hard and tend to bounce through hard times with an attitude of curiosity versus victimhood. They take responsibility for how they got themselves into a mess, and focus on getting themselves out of it as soon as possible.

Perseverance towards problem versus complaining over circumstances is a symptom of a happy person. Unhappy people see themselves as victims of life and stay stuck in the "look what happened to me" attitude versus finding a way through and out the other side.

2. You believe most people can't be trusted.

I won't argue that healthy discernment is important, but most happy people are trusting of their fellow man. They believe in the good in people, versus assuming everyone is out to get them. Generally open and friendly towards people they meet, happy people foster a sense of community around themselves and meet new people with an open heart.

Unhappy people are distrustful of most people they meet and assume that strangers can't be trusted. Unfortunately this behavior slowly starts to close the door on any connection outside of an inner-circle and thwarts all chances of meeting new friends.

3. You concentrate on what's wrong in this world versus what's right.

There's plenty wrong with this world, no arguments here, yet unhappy people turn a blind eye to what's actually right in this world and instead focus on what's wrong. You can spot them a mile away, they'll be the ones complaining and responding to any positive attributes of our world with "yeah but".

Happy people are aware of global issues, but balance their concern with also seeing what's right. I like to call this keeping both eyes open. Unhappy people tend to close one eye towards anything good in this world in fear they might be distracted from what's wrong. Happy people keep it in perspective. They know our world has problems and they also keep an eye on what's right.

4. You compare yourself to others and harbor jealousy.

Unhappy people believe someone else's good fortune steals from their own. They believe there's not enough goodness to go around and constantly compare yours against theirs. This leads to jealousy and resentment.

Happy people know that your good luck and circumstance are merely signs of what they too can aspire to achieve. Happy people believe they carry a unique blueprint that can't be duplicated or stolen from -- by anyone on the planet. They believe in unlimited possibilities and don't get bogged down by thinking one person's good fortune limits their possible outcome in life.

5. You strive to control your life.

There's a difference between control and striving to achieve our goals. Happy people take steps daily to achieve their goals, but realize in the end, there's very little control over what life throws their way.

Unhappy people tend to micromanage in effort to control all outcomes and fall apart in dramatic display when life throws a wrench in their plan. Happy people can be just as focused, yet still have the ability to go with the flow and not melt down when life delivers a curve-ball.

The key here is to be goal-oriented and focused, but allow room for letting sh*t happen without falling apart when the best laid plans go awry- because they will. Going with the flow is what happy people have as plan B.

6 You consider your future with worry and fear.

There's only so much rent space between your ears. Unhappy people fill their thoughts with what could go wrong versus what might go right.

Happy people take on a healthy dose of delusion and allow themselves to daydream about what they'd like to have life unfold for them. Unhappy people fill that head space with constant worry and fear.

Happy people experience fear and worry, but make an important distinction between feeling it and living it. When fear or worry crosses a happy person's mind, they'll ask themselves if there's an action they can be taken to prevent their fear or worry from happening (there's responsibility again) and they take it. If not, they realize they're spinning in fear and they lay it down.

7. You fill your conversations with gossip and complaints.

Unhappy people like to live in the past. What's happened to them and life's hardships are their conversation of choice. When they run out of things to say, they'll turn to other people's lives and gossip.

Happy people live in the now and dream about the future. You can feel their positive vibe from across the room. They're excited about something they're working on, grateful for what they have and dreaming about the possibilities of life.

Obviously none of us are perfect. We're all going to swim in negative waters once in a while, but what matters is how long we stay there and how quickly we work to get ourselves out. Practicing positive habits daily is what sets happy people apart from unhappy people, not doing everything perfectly.

Walk, fall down, get back up again, repeat. It's in the getting back up again where all the difference resides.

[postitnote]

Thank you,

I am still here. I am not TedBurns but I am cleaning up loose ends, writing some private messages, and making sure I am not misrepresented.

I have told Carolyn in the past that I am not in favor of this forum having moderators, this has not changed.
Johnny's philosophy of handling this forum is excellent and I am in full support.

In my opinion, too many members do not share Johnny's philosophy. Maybe they do not understand what he is saying???

Google has been my friend for years. I am and always have been very aware of the other forums. Many forum members here are also Apnea Board members, some are moderators, some like Enchanter have been told to leave. Some forum members have their own blogs, websites, private invitation only forums and so on. We live in a small world.

I am very aware and observant.

No you are not observant nor do you share the Goodman's philosophy in an unmoderated board. You have proved that by deleting numerous posts of mine and other people too. It's simple. Live and let live! You don't like me then quit provoking me which is what you have done from the start.

[ems]

Grayh... that's one of the best things I've read in a long time. Thanks for posting it!

[PoolQ]

One of the things I have figured out in life is that no matter what you say, what position you take, someone will always step up and say "I'll play that game". Some will be on your side and others will attack you.