I got this in a private message from a newbie
Seeing this from a newbie and seeing some of the bickering and fighting and mudslinging that goes on here saddens me because we pride ourselves on being the "best" cpap help forum and if this is what newbies see and feel here....it's pretty sad.Do not want to be a bother! Seen what happens to bothersome people on the site.
Just one newbie feeling like they can't ask a question because of being afraid of being piled on for being a nuisance is one too many IMHO.
I wish Dori was still here to send the "children" to time out corners when things start getting ugly and here lately they get pretty ugly real fast. Sometimes we spend more time bickering and slinging the F bomb you (which to me breaks my heart to read) than we we actually helping someone.
Maybe we do need a sub forum here....one where we can duke it out and sling mud and cuss each other out...separate from the help section because when there's 1 to 3 pages of nastiness back and forth...the helping comments get totally lost.
Yeah, I know that a recent new member really stretched our patience levels. Mine got stretched to the point it snapped but that's when I decided to bow out rather than keep piling on and on and on with the insults.
But it's more than what happened to Enchanter...it's the overall tone that has become so predominate here that bothers me. The forum veterans roll with the punches but the newbies ..... this must seem like the roughest biker bar in the world to them and it's not sometime that I am particularly proud of.
Yes...we need to correct misinformation at times but I do wish we didn't have to wade through a shitload of nasty banter back and forth to get it done.
And it's not just one person....it's a whole bunch of people involved who just have to get the last nastiest barb in.
2 wrongs don't make a right.