robysue wrote:
In both yoga and mindfulness, you are not supposed to have expectations. You are simply suppose to accept what is without judging it. I wrote about that in the long post about yoga relaxation on the other thread. But it's hard to let go of expectations and judging. As JanKnitz says, being able to just observe in awareness and acceptance is VERY HARD to do. And you're not trying hard enough to just let go of the expectations and judging. It takes some effort to teach yourself how to do this. And ironically, when you are trying to learn how to observe in awareness and acceptance, one of the things you have to consciously just accept (without jugdement) is that at you might not be doing a great job at "observe in awareness and acceptance."
Since you wind up having expectations that cause you to feel worse when you are trying to do stretching, yoga, meditation, etc., perhaps you should take up something my mother taught me and my brothers: Contemplating one's belly button. Meaning the joy of sitting around and doing and thinking nothing.
But here is the fact. That something is CAUSING me to experience what I do. And there has to be a reason why others don't and I do. There must be a cause. See it's easy to talk about yoga and just being in the here and there, but in real life, there is always an expectation of some sort. You don't just do something for the sake of it.